I had been seeing a girl for a couple of months. We would go out and have fun and enjoy each others company. It never got very physical because I was not all that attratcted to her. Rather then lead her on I told her that my feeling were just not there and I did not see the relationship going anywhere. This shocked her and hurt her but she said shes ok. Shes a great friend and we do have fun together but now Im wondering if by doing that did I ruin a friendship? Should I have said something or just hoped it fisseled out on its own?
2007-03-17 04:04:23 · 15 answers · asked by ski025025 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I believe you did the right thing, even though it hurt at the time. The longer you let this relationship go on, the more she would have come to rely on you for affection and become more emotionally attached to you. It is admirable of you that you would morn the friendship if that, too, fails. But at least you were honest and did not lead her on. I hope she can value that attribute and retain the friendship. You definately did the right thing.
2007-03-17 04:11:16 · answer #1 · answered by grevilia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do think you handled it "okay", possibly had you said something to this effect: I really enjoy your company and like doing things with you, you are a great friend and I would not want to jeopardize our friendship for the sake of a doomed relationship. Do pursue the friendship, don't be like most guys that say that and then avoid her. Give her a call on the phone once a week to say hi and see how she is doing. I would probably refrain from asking her to see a movie or going out for dinner for awhile.
2007-03-17 11:14:18 · answer #2 · answered by sunset 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u could have waited a Little bit more . or there other hand u told her before she did get to attached . sometimes going out with a Friend is worse because u will ant 2 be friends again but that just doesn't woke all the time im my ex pence
2007-03-17 11:10:45 · answer #3 · answered by amanda o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing, in my opinion. Honesty is always best. And if it was a true friendship, she will be ok when the initial shock wears off. Her ego is probably bruised. Good luck and God bless****
2007-03-17 11:09:07 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definetely did the right thing. It'd hurt her much more if you led her on for a long time. It's better to handle it now and then try and maintain the friendship
2007-03-17 11:07:25 · answer #5 · answered by Will 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you were wrong, you should have been truthful with her right up front. Instead of waiting a couple of months, you should have made your feelings clear to her in the begining, and then maybe she could have decided if she wanted to be yoour friend or not..TYPICAL MAN.
2007-03-17 11:11:19 · answer #6 · answered by bermy_badgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing and if you can remain friends, all the better. Personally, I think it always best to be honest rather than allow someone to have false hope.
2007-03-17 11:07:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing. sometimes you can't have both. you or the other in the relationship wants more...so your friendship ends because one of you gets hurt. find a new friend and keep it just friends. that is just life....get use to it.
2007-03-17 11:14:23 · answer #8 · answered by REALLY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK WELL IT MIGHT HAVE MADE HER FEEL ALITLE UNCOMFORTABLE BUT IT WAS THE RIGHT THING TO DO BECAUSE IF YOU LED HER ON AND THEN DID IT LATER SHE WOULD HAVE BEEN MORE CRUSHED. SO GOOD JOB DOING IT SOON. AS FOR THE FRIENDSHIP I THINK THAT IT WILL BE THE SAME. IT MIGHT BE ALITTLE AKWARD AT FIRST BUT THEN IT WILL BE FINE.
2007-03-17 11:08:59 · answer #9 · answered by so0_confuzed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh no,i feel sry for her,thats a bad way to hurt someones feelings.be cool with her,and continue hanging out.hope u learned ur lesson
2007-03-17 11:13:54 · answer #10 · answered by borimami_luscious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋