Should I try to get my wife to go to Christian church even though I am certain it would make us both unhappy?

Question

(I am not Christian myself)

and she and all of her family are Buddhist

Answer 1

No, No and why would you even think such a thing, NO. If you are neither one christian, then attending a christian church would be regarded as a social thing and that is no real reason to attend church. If you are not going now because it is not a part of your Faith, then don't go.
Why not try to find a place where you can worship with others of your own Faith (s) and socialize with them? You will both be much happier and feel much more fulfilled within your Faith. You souls will grow and learn and the relationship the two of you share will grow even stronger because of it.

Answer 2

Huh? If you already know it would make both of you unhappy, then why are you asking?
You are not Christian yourself? The way your post reads, it sounds like you don't subscribe to any religion at this time, but your wife is Buddhist.
If you want to join a Christian church, go ahead and join. (but try out a number of churches before you do, and don't join one that preaches intolerance. You do that, and you will either lose your religion, or lose your wife)
As far as I have been allowed to understand such things to date, To be a Buddhist doesn't mean you can't be something else as well, if you want to, Buddhism does not negate other philosophies. Learned that on the Simpsons, of all places.
If you want to join a Christian Church, you could always *invite* her to join you some time. It would be rude and disrespectful to try to talk her in to it, badger her, or try to "make" her join with you, and if she is not interested, leave it at that.
Would you be willing to join her at a Buddhist Temple as well?
Fair's fair.
Above all, remember: she is your wife. You chose her for who she is, and she did likewise. Don't throw a good thing away. Whatever church, take it with a grain of salt. It should support your marriage, and help you stay together, not tear you apart.
If you feel a need to find deeper meaning in your life, and touch something larger than yourself, perhaps you could try a Unitarian/Universalist church, they wouldn't be likely to be threatened by her Budhism, and she might be more agreeable to check it out.

Answer 3

No definitely not. It probably will make you unhappy, my (now-ex) wife and I went down that road, I realized it wasn't the life for me, I enjoyed "the earthly pleasures" more than going and sitting around with a group of boring old farts listening to a load of crap being talked, much preferred the pub. She felt she had made friends there and fitted in with that type of crowd, I never did so I went back to the mates who scorned at my "new life" and I found I had a life again! The fact she wanted to stay with the "bible-bashers" angered me because she no longer wanted to hang out with me and my friends and her new found buddies were no where near my wavelength. This immediately caused friction and regular disagreements between us coz we no longer wanted to do the same things that we used to, like going out to a nightclub, for a few drinks with a crowd and having a good time. Her idea of a good night out was sitting around in a stuffy church with a load of people that were all brainwashed into believing in something that was impossible to see or hear, or even to prove existed at all, then probably going to like a barbecue or something and sitting around singing silly songs and waving their arms about like some mentally challenged beings! Well this didn't last long, our marriage came grinding to a halt and we split up. We had been together for 15 years before religion came into our lives, and within the space of 14 months, it had broken us up.

So does that help to answer your question?

Answer 4

Why would you want to do that? I don't think it would be right even if you were Christian yourself to try to change her beliefs. Since you aren't Christian why even consider it? Let her go on with her beliefs. I know many religious people push their beliefs over others. To me you should be allowed to believe what you wish as long as it doesn't hurt you or somebody else. If it is a problem in your area just tell people you believe in religious freedom and that is all you have to say on the subject.

Answer 5

bringing religion into your life is not a bad thing. it will not make you unhappy, it will fill your heart with faith which is the best feeling in the world.
why do you even want to go to a christian church if your not christian? why did that idea even come up?

just do whats right.

Answer 6

How about accepting her as she is and not trying to force Christianity down her throat? If you aren't Christian, why do you want to get her to go to church anyway???
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Answer 7

I try not to do too many things that make me unhappy.

Answer 8

Oh Please your principals are beautiful and your belief system. Why why why would you want to change that? Be proud of who you both are. All that is important is that we are good inside and out. That we love all and judge not . Then we are all his children. Stand proud!

Answer 9

sounds like you answered your own question! if you're just looking for a spiritual path, check them all out, then make a decision about which one you truly fit into. go to www.religioustolerance.org it will give you lots of info on all sorts of religions

Answer 10

It does not have to do it. I do not understand that you wish to obtain .....if her wife is not Christian .....so that you are going to go to a church that you do not belong .....first you must define your belief.
you have asked if she wishes to go. what she thinks? ?. first you must ask your wife? .......not to us.