this past weekend has been really tough for me. i have problems with my friend, my friend wont talk to me, and my ex said really hurtful things to me. i have no confidence. im starting to believe all those mean things he said to me. im lonely, depressed, and i dont know who my true friends are. i am so tired of being compared to my friend. she is outgoing, crazy, fun to be around. and im the shy one, the person who people come to talk to if they need advice or help. but i guess the boys dont like girls like that(according to my ex). will i ever find someone who can love me for me? will i ever find someone who will like me and only me? and finally will i ever find someone who will love me for who i am and who will not want to change me? these are the questions i ask my self everyday. hopefully, one day they will be answered.
2007-03-17 03:19:42 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hey, im in the same situation.
Yes, you need to use reverse phycology on your ex and be too nice to everyone around you. Sometimes when a person "too nice" the other people think its akward.!, and sometimes feel guilty.You need to tell your ex."you forgive him. and then move along" give him the evil eye once. then you can express no anger or emotion towards him. not even hate because that shows you two are connected as enemies.(end all relationships!)
* Befriend people, be a little shy, and they are guys who are nice. Just friends and then maybe someday more. but hey friends last forever!
----> as for your other friend. ignore her. or if you really want. talk to her. if she doesnt respond, never give her advice again.
* join clubs @ school (option.)
2007-03-17 03:32:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow thats my typical week end and if u need help i can help u if u want i go thru stuff like that all the time and some times worse but i love to help ppl so im studing to become a psychologist that actually helps ppl even if it costs me
2007-03-17 10:27:56 · answer #2 · answered by @XD_inc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will find someone who will love you for you --- you ex is just being a good ex and giving you reasons why you are no longer with them --- and yes i know how you feel --- i dont have any people (face to face) that i call friends --- they are all online --- i know that sounds pitiful --- its my choice
you are unique and beautiful and someone will find you and love you for all that you are --- best wishes
2007-03-17 10:27:41 · answer #3 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your self-talk. (you are being to hard on yourself) If your friend won't talk to you and you can honestly look yourself in the mirror and say you haven't wronged your friend in any way - then your friend is going to have to resurface on his/her own. Straighten up your back and stand tall!!! Get that spirit of pity out of you. I am described as shy too, but when i am around people who are like me and make me feel comfortable, I open up and can be crazy too. Don't compare yourself to your friend, be comfortable in your own skin. And for the ex,
Cut him loose!!!! He has nothing to say that will be inspiring or beneficial. Let me tell you this...... I had an ex and we have been friends for 15 years( popping up year to year,at different times, not 15 years worth of steady contact) It's been steady communication for 3 years and lately since he announced his engagement he has been very brutal in words and even had the nerve to address our 15 years ago break-up. I took it for a minute, because i said to myself he needs to vent, but one day i said to myself- He calls me with such CRAP only to make me feel bad. So i said to him- "call me when you can be positive " and i hung up the phone. He text me all kinds of foolish things and i started to ignore him. So one day i text him this: "This is the story about a strong building. People yelled and hollered at it, threw sticks and stones until they fainted from exhaustion, but the building would still be standing. Why would anyone try to F*** with a building?"
I miss my friend, but he has to know that i only invite positive energy in my life. Another thing, be comfortable with you, even when there is no one else. Surround yourself around kids because their laughter and care free living always uplifted my soul. I would volunteer at a Daycare and read story books to the kids.
Even if you are shy learn to walk with confidence and that is very attractive. I'm shy, but i walk like a Stallion!!!! I'm sharing alot of me with you, because i can honestly say i've felt like that many years ago(low-self-esteem). To be honest my religion and my relationship with God made me stronger. God does not reject, disappoint, or criticize. Thats why the Quarter says "In God we trust". Please change your self-talk and replace it with some positive self talk about yourself. You don't need to be your worst critic at this time. This too shall Pass.......
2007-03-17 11:22:52 · answer #4 · answered by hatlady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u are going through a rough path sweety....dont be afraid of who u are...and ur so called boyfriend is nothing but a big piece of skirt chasing trash...dont believe him...and for ur friend do you really think that she is worth the pain
2007-03-17 10:30:18 · answer #5 · answered by seriously tell me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello, the thing is you are not a victim. Questions like this have no answers if YOU dont make your dreams true. that is:
WORK for them and, work hard for those goals you have.
Good luck!=).
2007-03-17 10:25:38 · answer #6 · answered by janne5011 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋