There's a guy at work who told me I was too weird for him to be friends with since I was sending him mixed signals about getting with him. The reason I was wavering was because he has a fiancee. I know this because last year I helped him get the engagement ring for her. The thing is she is in another country. Anyway to make the long story short, he asked me to stop texting or emailing him. He even told me he changed his cell phone number, I haven't tried calling him or emailing him and I asked him why we can't just say hi at work. He told me I was too weird to be his friend and that are no hard feelings between us and I should get therapy. I don't think I'm crazy or weird, and people at work are being extra nice which bothers me. Yesterday and today I didn't say antyhing to him and ignored him, but he keeps acting like he wants me to notice him. Sometimes he'll keep walking around or getting up from desk so I can see him.
2007-03-17 03:18:18 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like he is the weird one..
Just stay away from him..
Do not contact him
2007-03-17 03:21:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Um, I think we need to consider the possibility that he's right, and you should seek some help.
Not because you're weird, but because you're obviously hung up on this guy. He's not available, and the two of you probably can't be friends, because obviously you're tempted to make it more than that.
He may well be flirting with you. He has a girlfriend a long way away...and not all men deal with temptation well. But, unless you're interested in having a fling with this guy that's going to go nowhere, you need to resist. This is just going to break your heart.
Workplace relationships are complicated once they become emotional. I think I'd give some serious thought to moving on professionally, so you don't need to see this guy and play these games day after day.
2007-03-17 10:25:28 · answer #2 · answered by David G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he decided that he was being unfair to his fiancee. You don't want a guy who belongs to someone else. You are better than that! Look forward, not back and you'll see other opportunites. Besides if you two didn't work together, is he someone you would be friends with anyway? Probably not. Work friends are always different than your real friends (personal opinion). Keep your eyes open for other good things in your life! :)
2007-03-17 10:25:41 · answer #3 · answered by Monkey's uncle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably felt u were stalking him. keep doing the same, ignore him. he made it clear he doesnt want to have anything to do with u. since he was trying to get u notice, probably he just misses u stalking him -human nature- but i tink thta the best thing u can do, is ignore him, if he wants something from u, he ll go up to u. and in the case he asks u what s changed, i think u should appologize, and tell him, that u didnt want to become a stalker, that u really liked him. but if he wants his space, that fine, u r not going to be begging him. if he wants something with u, u ll know what to do, but don't be like too anxious. if he does want something from u try to make him know, that it really hurt u when he called u weird, and u thought that u guys were friends, but he didnt act like u were, and that it really hurt.
good luck, with him, however, i think that the best thing for u to do is find someone else.
2007-03-17 10:26:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to his words, and don't "read" anything into his actions. When he walks around and gets up from his desk don't other women see him too? Maybe he's trying to get another woman's attention. People being extra nice bothers you? That is weird.
2007-03-17 10:26:49 · answer #5 · answered by Mike M. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds like HE is crazy. I would stay away from him and ignore him as much as you can. You're too good to even give him the time of day after he has said all these rude things to you.
2007-03-17 10:22:10 · answer #6 · answered by crabbyone 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your are misunderstanding the situation and he is trying to nicely tell you he is not interested , there is a thin line between stalker and desperate do you recognize what side you are on? Maybe you should try meeting someone else to give your attention to,not in your place of work.
2007-03-17 10:27:09 · answer #7 · answered by sharmi2503 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Darling you are truly nuts. Get therapy. If he didn't get up from his desk, you would claim he's avoiding you. I've had women like you in my life and the only way I could get rid of them was to move away. Do him and everyone a favor, move and get therapy. Why don't you get the message.
2007-03-17 10:26:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen up girl... forget this guy. you two will not end up togethor. Sorry to sound so harsh but its true. hes playing games with you he told you not to call him or email him.thats huge. forget this idiot. you deserve someone who will want you to call him and email him and cant wait to hear your voice. and to top it all off he has a fiance. this guy is weird and has issues NOT you. Good luck. and dont talk to him and ignore him.
2007-03-17 10:24:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave the man alone, pretend hes not there, dont even look in his direction, he thinks your wacked and dosent want your attention. stop trying to read into things. move on!!
2007-03-17 10:22:49 · answer #10 · answered by thepainter 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋