I have a really big crush on a girl, but she doesn't seem into me. Trying to get over her, but so hard. Help!

Question

I am a college freshman dude, and I have a real big crush on a classmate. I had crushes in high school, but I never felt attracted to a girl this strongly. She's not only pretty but also intelligent. I like her, but I feel that she's not that into me. I am always the one that starts a conversation, she doesn't really try hard to make an eye contact. She seems to know that i like her... Anyway, I'm trynna get over her. She's just so different. I am a very regimented, rigid person whereas she seems like a fun-loving, hippy girl. Even our musical preferences show a vast difference; she loves electronica while i am a big fan of hip-hop. Honestly I feel so attracted to her because she has different values. I wanna experience something new. I think I am a pretty good kid. I work hard, have a pretty ripped body, and treat her with respect. However, she doesn't seem to be interested in me, and I am trying to get over her. I've tried several times, but my heart beats crazy whenever i see her...

Answer 1

Whatever you will get or loose in your life is destined. If you are meant to have a relation with the girl, then no one can prevent that.
Divert the energies that you have invested into her to some fruitfull activity like studies. You'll come over.
Remember even if you get her it's temporary just as your life is, just as she is, just as the relation she'll have with someone else and just as everything you know and see. All that perishes. Your deeds would stay. I know it's difficult to understand but if you get what Iam trying to tell you, you will go miles ahead in life and even after that.
Have confidence in yourself. You'll succeed.

Answer 2

Becuse of the fact you "never felt attracted to a girl this strongly" you must work little harder than else to get rid of this.
Say to your self at least 10 times each day:
"she dont like me this will dont work".
face the fact! This project is dead meat.
The insights you got from this is god to have in the future for example you can have good use know that a person who is really different from you can make good things to you...

sorry my English isnt real English hope its understandable good luck anyway!

Answer 3

Don't ask her friend to ask her what she likes. They will certainly make fun about you. If you wanna draw her attention, try to make her jealous, just by ignoring her and try to become interested in someone else, maybe you'll find out that "someone else" is better company than she is. I assume that since you describe yourself as a handsome guy, sure some other girls are interested in you.
Believe me, if you're really that handsome, she'll feel glad because of your interest, but she won't show it maybe.
Otherwise: the world is full of nice grils.

Answer 4

Hello, I feel for you. I have been where you are. I can tell you this...I have been married twice, my first husband was killed in a hunting accident. But both men I married were not "my first choice" so to speak. Both chased me and never gave up on me...their persistance and confidence is what really convinced me to look deeper into who they were "in their heart" so to speak. Ya know what I mean? On the outside I wasn't particularly attracted but once we became friends and shared our inner self that is when the "chemistry" turned on and I saw the true inner beauty that was hidden in his heart. You must want this person for more than just "a new adventure" or "something new"....talk to her but mostly LISTEN to her...all women want to feel you hear, understand and connect with her. Also, flatter her sincerely. We all love to feel needed, feel secure, feel wanted and need to hear words from you that make us feel "complete". Women are all about "feelings". Also, find out your love language and her love language. There are 5 love languages. Different people feel loved in different ways. You must know this information to "reach" her. You can buy the book at your corner store, it is readily available and costs about $11.00. Basically what it does is asks questions and you answer them. Then by tallying your answers it puts you into categorys that let you know what your true love language is. I've done this and it works. This makes sense think about it...if I need to hear you say I love you to feel loved and you never say it then I will never feel loved. The 5 love languages are: 1) Words of Affirmation, 2) Spend Quality Time Together, 3) Receiving Gifts, 4) Acts of Service, 5) Physical Touch
Also, it is good to find "common" interests to share too. It is nice to try new things. Build your relationship as a FRIEND FIRST....the rest will follow. Mostly, be patient. Hope this helps you out. May God bless your day!

Answer 5

umm.. firstly don't think on flirting her whenever U talk to her..
try making her laugh or make her feel that "your not the guy that i thought u are" (like that).. and be patience.. try to be patience..
make friends first... try to be there whenever shes sad or not (but not everyday nor every hour nor every second) try to relax and be cool... Okay, when she goes to u first instead of u.. it means that u and her are gettin close to each other.. try to know stuff that she likes without her knowing it... to surprise her and maybe someday u'll give her like a teddy or stuff and she will said "How do u know i love teddy bears?"

k, heres i think if u wanna know that whether she likes u or not.. when u think that ur both close enough! If u always call her or u always chat with each other... try to make her miss u...stop calling her... i mean call her rarely like every 1 week or every 4 days 1 call.... if u have her email in ur messenger.. whenever she goes on try to ignore her... when she begins then u chat.. alright? heh and remember be patience..
: )
p/s : sorry if u dont understand some of my words.

Answer 6

k didnt read it all way to long but got the jist. Im sorry to hear that she doesnt return the feelings. Rejection sucks but honestly all you can do is focus your energies on other people,things and places. surround your self with good friends cause they will help you through it and when your sitting there with your friends and all you can do is think about her remeber that shes NOT thinking about you. She is only human like you and me so dont stress and dont worry cause like a bus- you may miss one but gaurenteed another one will be right around the corner. Good luck.

Answer 7

shes not interested in u that way and u only want something u cant have hence the attraction u answered ur own question follow ur gut instinct move on

Answer 8

duuude.... calm the hell down. okay, if you kind of noticed that shes not into you, you need to plot an evil plan. get one of her friends to ask her what she likes in a guy. When she comes back and tells you, try to turn into those things. If things kick off, then you could start showing your true colors. if she starts to notice your change, just tell her you did it to win her over because you just had to be with her.... I wish my non-chalant boyfriend told me that.

Answer 9

mayb u should leave it b-cuz u don't want 2 b wit sum1 who's gonna treat u lik dat...and if u don't want 2 do dat tri 2 approach her in a more mannerd way

Answer 10

you cant help who you dig, dude. but keep in mind feelings arent always both ways!------got out w/friends and avoid situations as to where you may see her. time will heal this-or a different gal!