My sister-in-law has never been nice to me. When my husband and I got engaged, she never said congratulations. I asked her to be a bridesmaid in my wedding because I asked my other sister-in-law to be in it as well. One month after the dresses were ordered, she tells me that she is pregnant. The bridesmaid dress is a mermaid dress and there would be no way for her to fit in this dress being 6 months pregnant. So I asked her if I could ask someone else to be in the wedding. She caused a big problem when she wanted to bring her 1 year old son to the wedding when it was already discussed that there were no children invited to the wedding. She did come to the wedding but never congratulated my husband or me. Recently my husband and I were discussing that we wanted to move to a new house and were considering Connecticut. She tells us that we can't move there because its a high class area and you need to know someone to buy a in order to buy a house there.
2007-03-17 02:57:39 · 17 answers · asked by angela127 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My husband is an attorney and I am a nurse practitioner. She has no college degree and neither does her husband. She always seems to be competing with us. Is she jealous of us? Should I say something?
2007-03-17 03:00:11 · update #1
This is my husband's brother's wife.
2007-03-17 03:02:24 · update #2
I would say there is nothing you can do to change the relationship....she is jealous and envious of you and her brother. Move forward with your plans to relocate to Connecticut, there are "high class areas" in every state and she doesn't want to see you progress. Continue to be respectful to her but don't go out of your way to convince her she needs to like you. It is not your fault, she is envious and you and your husband have earned degrees and deserve to celebrate your success. Continue to make your husband happy so she sees you are here for the long term! Congratulations on your marriage as well as the success you both deserve to enjoy! Bye-Bye sister in law!
2007-03-17 03:11:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sounds as if her nose is out of joint for some reason. As for Connecticut, there are affluent areas and middle-lower class areas just as in any other state; as for buying a house there, the only restriction is affordability but anyone can buy wherever they want to and what they can afford. You do not have to know anyone other than a competent RE agent. As for saying something, unless she insults you to your face, I would refrain from getting into any confrontations, which would only exacerbate this less than cordial relationship. You don't have to see her much so let it go. Obviously she is unhappy with her own life and is trying to make herself feel better by being disagreeable to you.
2007-03-17 03:07:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop worrying about this. So what if she didn't congratulate you? You were wrong to make her drop out of the wedding. You could have found another, similar dress for her to wear. (Or were you more worried about how it would "look"?)Sounds like you are both competing and being hostile. Stop being a snob. You should move to Connecticut and stay away from her.
2007-03-17 05:13:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, CONGRATUALATIONS on getting married. Next, your sis-in-law is very jealous of you and your husband. From now on just be Civil to her not mean, just indifferent. When she says something negative just say, "Wow, I'm sorry you feel that way" and keep right on talking. When she says something negative like she did about your anticipated move, say I will check into that--I don't want to live among snobs anyway. Wait a couple of days and tell her you checked into it and found out it wasn't true. Good Luck
2007-03-17 03:10:57 · answer #4 · answered by Duchess20 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-02 03:23:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have this sis in law, that no matter how hard I try I can not get along with her. I have been married to my husband for 20 years, and she has been married into the family for 2. My husband thinks that she is competing for the sis in law status...LOL I know, sounds stupid and childish. But maybe that is how your sis in law is feeling. She has to make you feel bad to make her feel like she is something special in the family. just my opinion.
2007-03-17 03:06:13 · answer #6 · answered by dakota_gal_1968 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
your sister in law is still mad about the wedding.she felt since she couldn't be in the wedding that you would have let her be the only one to have a child there.you did rihgt by telling her no.It was your Day. and she may not want her brother to move,but if you are gonna move there are plenty realtys you can call.
2007-03-17 03:06:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do you care? She does nothing for you...forget her and just know she is jealous because her life sucks.
She is full of crap all the way around.
Do you know what you need to buy a house in conn.?
Money
2007-03-17 03:03:23 · answer #8 · answered by mikey 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
u married ur husband not her these are her issues dont let her drag u into her insecurity spend as little time as possible with her and i would suggest never alone trust ur gut instinct
2007-03-17 03:03:20 · answer #9 · answered by mmbmw2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some jealousy, envy, or downright hate, is obvious here. I would give her a wide berth.
2007-03-17 03:01:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋