you know it is the small pet- peeve stuff that can iritate the mess out of you but you look at the big picture and stick through it. but it's getting to the point where i am going nuts everyday trying to keep my composure from going off on stupid small things. then on top of that he doesn't not have the same strong feelings for me as i have for him. i don't want to let him go but i'm tired of hididng my hurt and frustration fro him. it wearing me down with stress!
Help me through this and please don't tell me to just break up with him because it's not that easy and we have a child together.
2007-03-17 02:53:59 · 14 answers · asked by Snickerlicious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Have you tried telling him how you feel about his behaviour? Its the little things that drive us crazy and he may not know that what he's doing is upsetting you. When you speak to him use "I" statements such as "When you do _______, (state the behaviour), I feel _________ (hurt, upset, angry, etc.) and I want you to ___________(say how you want his behaviour to change). Do not approach him when you are angry or upset. Speak confidently and calmly. If he is a reasonably person he will listen to you. Good Luck.
2007-03-17 03:11:54 · answer #1 · answered by spiritwise333 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right, having a child together definitely changes things for you two. My best advise is to choose your battles wisely. If you are arguing about everything then you are really arguing about nothing. You need to learn to let the little things go and only worry about the big things that affect you or your child. If you want this relationship to work, then you both have to learn to compromise with each other and give each other the support and love you need. Your child should be the first priority for both of you. Do your best to get along around your child and don't let them feel the stress of the relationship. It is unhealthy for a child to go through that. Don't let those little things ruin your relationship.It's not worth it.
2007-03-17 03:01:38 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a person that thrives on misery. You look at the small picture instead all the good in the big picture. So in a sense you (Dwell in Hell.) I would say that you miss things when there gone and not the moment. After all we all have faults. But you tend to nit pick at others in perfections. You really need therapy and should get help because if you don't you are doomed to repeat this self perpetuated cycle in this and every relationship to come.
2007-03-17 03:03:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are annoyed by the small things what will the big crisis do to you? He does not have the same strong feeling for you as you do him, likely that he will not remain faithful to you under those circumstances. Sweetie, don't waste your time trying to make him fall in love with you. Your child and you will be better off for it. To make a relationship work you both have to be committed to that goal, he's just not there. I wish you luck....
2007-03-17 02:58:32 · answer #4 · answered by sunset 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
good,its nice to hear that you won't leave him.everyone in the world has some ups and downs,,so don't despair.try to avoid any conversation that would lead to trouble,never argue even if he is wrong.hibernate for few days,go to church ,mosque or whatever you feel.think about the good days you had.give him some time to think,.slowly the anger and frustration will die down and your true love will show up again.its not worth spliting.or try to put up a sad face but with no anger,he may avoid you for sometime,but he'll comeback to your arms,you bet.
2007-03-17 03:10:36 · answer #5 · answered by alec. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont let him know how you're feeling you can't expect him to be able to change those little things that are bothering you. talk it out with him. say," hey, there's some things that you do (or say) and they really bother me. i want the best for us and our child, but we need to work at our relationship." i know that you don't just want to give up on everything for the sake or your child, but if you want this relationship to work, you need communucation. whenever he does that little thing that bothers you, take out the time to let him know what it was that he did, and how its making you feel. theraphy is also a good idea.
~LaY
2007-03-17 03:12:30 · answer #6 · answered by ♥trini princess♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what you have to be staight up with him dont lie and say what you want to say but prepared to run have your bags packed andbe holding your child to ge right out of the wayjust in case he goes nuts
2007-03-17 03:04:14 · answer #7 · answered by monica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like to stay with mine and work it out each out day take it slow. I think you should do the same be there support him.
2007-03-17 02:58:45 · answer #8 · answered by kate l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why waste anymore time being frustrated u answered ur own question ur relationship is one sided move on lifes too short to b miserable
2007-03-17 02:57:37 · answer #9 · answered by mmbmw2000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try to talk to him and tell him about what u feel and try to get another baby this can make you both stick back toghether i am sure u love him but if it doesnt workout u have to break up... srry to say that but still theres way to much hope darlin....
2007-03-17 03:00:54 · answer #10 · answered by abdalla m 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋