I am 20 years old and i am only 5ft3. My girlfriend is younger than me and keeps making fun of me because of my height. I dont know why she makes fun of me because we are the same height. I sometimes feel patronised by the way i am treated by her. Should i tell her to stop being so childish and grow up.
2007-03-17 02:30:26 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think she is telling you to grow up! Just kidding! If you are 20 and she is younger I hope she is of legal age. Her joking is a sign of immaturity and you should probably go out with someone closer to your own age and you are going to have to get a sense of humor about your height. On a good note men that are short and lift wieghts tend to get alot mpore muscular than tall guys. The length of you muscle is shorter and can appear bigger when worked out. Bulk up and be big in a small way!
2007-03-17 02:38:03 · answer #1 · answered by buckdamien 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds immature, but that's because she probably is, she's still very young. Tell her you find her comments hurtful and not funny. If she continues, tell her to grow up. Also, tell her that you want a girlfriend who loves and respects you, and if she can't be positive she can find someone else to make fun off.
Don't stay with her because you are worried about your height preventing you from finding someone new and better.
A girlfriend who makes fun of you will ruin your self confidence in the long run. You deserve better.
2007-03-17 09:40:04 · answer #2 · answered by donedeal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
strange that she wants to be with you but makes fun of something about you that it is impossible to change! Frankly I'd tell her that there are some things about you that you would be prepared to change but that your height is an impossibility so could she please stop going on about it. I'd be quite firm about this, because it is rather insulting. If you had a beard, for example, and she hated it then you could shave it off but you can't do anything about your height. And if she still goes on about it, ask her what she thinks you should do about your height - she won't have an answer, will she? And then tell her to desist.
Sorry, but I think she is displaying a remarkable lack of good manners in making fun of you this way. She wouldn't like it if you teased her about her small breasts or large bum, would she? So just tell her, firmly, to please stop. And if she doesn't - well, what does that tell you about the relationship?
Good luck
2007-03-17 09:40:03 · answer #3 · answered by gorgeousfluffpot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not right or fair.
You must talk to your g/f & tell her that these comments from her make you feel upset. Moreover, explain to her that its hard enough that society views shorter people in a derogatory way, without her adding to this.
My ex-husband was shorter than me & it sincerely made absolutely no difference to me, but I could tell that he often felt he had to justify himself [i.e. playing the big man] because of the comments he received from 'friends' & family members.
I tried to help, i.e. by not wearing high heal shoes and assuring him that I loved him for the person he was and not his height.
His height had nothing to do with our break up.
2007-03-17 10:47:37 · answer #4 · answered by Lizzo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to get a sense of humor about your height because youre going to run into this a lot.One of my ex girlfreinds use to tell me"youre short for a man"to which I'd reply "so are you".Anyway you should also tell her to knock it off she is being disrespectfull and its hurting your feelings.If she blows up about it or gets defensive, dump her.Theres other women out there who will be ok with your height.Im 5'8" my wife is 6'3".We joke about it a lot.Or I do anyways.
2007-03-17 09:40:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some girls think & want their boyfriends to be taller than they are, to make them feel they are more feminine or protected. As you said , she is a bit childish & certainly not courteous to say the least keep teasing you about it, especially knowing you don't like it. Let her know how you feel. If she continue to do so, she is not the girl for you.
2007-03-17 09:47:49 · answer #6 · answered by MoiMoii 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so sensitive. I'm sure your girlfriend is just kidding with you and don't really mind your height.
Guys make fun of my height and my weight too. Be more confident of yourself.
2007-03-17 09:34:28 · answer #7 · answered by Grace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are the one who needs to grow up, he..he..he..! Couldn't pass that one up, but seriously though, why are you with somebody who makes fun of anything that you have no control over? There are lots of women out there who like short guys, or who wouldn't be bothered by it.
2007-03-17 09:35:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend is being completely insensitive. Yes....let her know what she is saying is bothering you, you don't like it. That she treats your feelings with such disrespect is unacceptable.
Communication is key in a relationship.
2007-03-17 10:46:49 · answer #9 · answered by Janet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely. Or she will eventually drive you away. She probably does not realize how she makes you feel. Tell her exactly how you feel. If she does it again, then you know she is doing it intentionally to hurt you.
2007-03-17 09:36:01 · answer #10 · answered by Cinta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋