They have been dating for a year, he's a wonderful corporate dude, who loves her to death, she has been lying or had been lying all this time about her age, she is 17 and just graduated high school when she told him. He had been thinking she was 21, she looks and acts older than 17, and could pass for 21. They have been sleeping together for about 7 months, his family has met and likes her and her family likes him. Should they continue their love or break it off. They love each other, and he has forgiven her for lying? Is he too old? Can it work? Most of all, is it legal in the state of N.C?
2007-03-17 02:27:17 · 7 answers · asked by Nyema 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She will be 18 in 2 months, and she still lives at home, she has no kids though, and he doesn't have any kids. He has his own place. They met at a club, she was with her friends (after showing a fake, but cleverly crafted I.D. to get in) The story she gave him was that she lived at home while going to school, he thought college, she was talking high school. He never felt the need to see a license. As a family friend, I have met him and he appears genuninely love her and I know she loves him. I was mad about her lying, but he is a keeper and although wrong, and I'm not condoning lying, I see why she lied about her age to keep him.
2007-03-17 03:22:05 · update #1
well... age is nothing but a number. it doesnt really matter if she s 17 or a million years old. even though, she s not legal yet, as long as u dont tell anyone about her age, who s going to find out??? u said it urself, THEY LOVE EACH OTHER!! nothing else matters. u guys have things in common, before u knew her age, u liked her for who she was. That hasn't changed whatsoever, she s still who she was before she told u her age. alright, with age, u r supposed to get wiser, and know some more about life. but being in a relationship where theres age differences is not that bad. first and most importantly, u guys have things in common, u love each other for who u are, and not for some number. and secondly, like i said, age helps u grow wiser, so there are things u know, that she hasnt experienced yet. so u could actually comfort her, be there for her, help her not go thru the same mistakes u went thru. instead of having problems, u could help her solve them. dont let a number interfere in ur relationship, because theres more to a person than just their age, sex, color, etc. the way she thinks, and act, her heart and her ideals, are the things that really matter.
guud luck man, and keep dating her, its not a problem. just dont tell any1 she s underage. u might have some problems. but like u said, she can pass by a 21, so no1 will really know.
2007-03-17 02:37:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she has graduated high school and he has met her family I don't see the problem. I understand why she lied but it is a red flag for immaturity. That's the real issue. Is she mature enough for a relationship in the adult world or is she still too adolescent? Will having a relationship with him keep her from doing what she needs to do to prepare for later life? Of course, if she's only 17, that really limits the places that she can go and the things she can do. Alcohol is off limits and so too are most clubs that serve alcohol. If this is a nonissue that's fine but I remember being underage and trying to pass for legal age was all about the partying. Proceed with caution.
2007-03-17 02:36:08 · answer #2 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Any guy who will date a woman without ever looking at her drivers license is a fool.He could go to jail.All it takes is her parents getting po'd.She shouldnt be screwing around either this is her parents fault.The damage is done, they should get married yesterday.I have seen too many cases where guy does a chick and he dumps her she gets mad her parents gets mad and they have him jailed, not for being too old and her a minor in the first place, but for revenge.The guy then even if he is 2o and she is 17, goes to jail and prison and has a criminal record for life as a sex offender.He needs to quit having sex with her and find out if her age is the only thing she has lied about before tying the knot.
2007-03-17 02:35:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know in the state of alaska he would be ok. seventeen is the age there. but im not sure if its the same in NC. but if the damage of an under age relationship has already begun. i dont know what could be said about it. she will be 18 in less than a year. as long as the 24 year old doesnt have kids it should be fine. casue how does a 17 take care of a kid. know what i mean.
2007-03-17 02:43:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It can work,but age is important. It is not legal for a 24 year old to have sex with a 17 year old. So emotionally love her, not physically. Wait til she is 18, marry her, and then have sex. That's the way it's supposed to happen anyway.
2007-03-17 02:41:22 · answer #5 · answered by teacher sub 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
he shouldnt let something as insignificant as a number defy love, especially when love is so hard to find. love is love man and its been around longer than the law or peoples perception of it regarding age. n.c = north carolina yer. im from australia and that relaionship would be legal if she was 16. awsome eh.
2007-03-17 02:38:21 · answer #6 · answered by Che 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if all concerned (including the parents) accept and are happy with the relationship then as long as there are no legal problems let it keep going --- in a few years the gap will not be a problem
2007-03-17 02:36:28 · answer #7 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋