Okay, Im fourteen, and I've been talking to a guy a lot lately, and he just recently asked me out... and we aren't going out yet, but I do like him a lot... anyway, I have something similar to tourettes. When I was little, i would sort of hum at the end of sentences or when everything was quiet. The doctors tested for it, and they said I was normal, and that it was a nervous habit that I would grow out of... and I have grown out of it. But all my friends to this day believe I have tourettes. And now my "boyfriend" found out, and he says it doesn't bother him, but it has to, right? I mean, no fifteen year old boy would truly want to go out with a girl with tourettes... i mean, its not extreme enough for anyone to notice it. Its pretty much gone... and its extremely hard to talk to him about it. I dont like to talk to anyone about it, and I never have. Its the only thing i've kept completely to myself... i dont even know what my question is. Any advice at all would be great... thanks.
2007-03-17 02:22:12 · 10 answers · asked by xxEquestrianxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You just answered your own question my dear. If he said that it doesnt bother him then it doesnt bother him.
Your the one whos thinking all those nonsense and just enjoy life my dear your only 14.
2007-03-17 02:27:56 · answer #1 · answered by MicaChu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how Tourette's fits into this. Sounds like your MD described it perfectly. Interesting that I have a sister 11 years younger than myself who did exacting what you describe as a baby, young child. She didn't even know she was doing it. We'd point it out & she'd say it was her motor.
In any event, she is now 43, happily married mother of 3 & a math teacher. She stopped humming.
So my advice to you is to ignore your friends & they'll eventually stop when they see they get no response from you. Enjoy your new bf. You have nothing to explain.
2007-03-17 09:36:28 · answer #2 · answered by ♣Hey jude♣ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way for him to have found out about this is by YOU, or a so-called "friend". if it is indeed a "friend" then that should tell you that SOMEONE is extremely jealous of you enough to want to slam some sticks in your spokes. So that tells me that you probably have enough going on that people are either going to be noticing other good things about you and not even notice or just plain over look it. In short, YOU are the only one bothered by it, don't worry about it.
2007-03-17 09:38:16 · answer #3 · answered by Gardner? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't bother me in the slightest. dont worry about things that don't matter, everyone is different and that's what make people special. I doubt you even have tourettes anyway. You sound like a lovely girl and i think you'll be just fine
2007-03-17 09:44:08 · answer #4 · answered by nightdreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he knows and still wants to go out with you, then it is ok with him. Tourettes is nothing to be ashamed of, it is a condition and in your case, a mild one. Just accept yourself for who you are and try not to feel "branded" by your condition. Who you really are is how you treat others and what you do on your own, with "tourettes or not". Good luck and just enjoy life, don't take it too seriously!
2007-03-17 09:28:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should think of yourself as a girl. Not as a girl with Tourettes. Your condition only becomes a factor in your relationships if you make it one. If your guy says it doesn't bother him that you have the condition, do yourself a favor and believe him.
2007-03-17 09:45:37 · answer #6 · answered by Thrill K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the guy doesnt like you because of that thats rude because i bet your a great person. I hate how people do that, they leave you because you have something you can't control.
Hes missing out on someone wonderful, beautifal, & kind i bet his loss.
but if you do REALLY want to get back together with him tell him you cant control that. But you also cant control how much you loved him.
if you need more help im just an email away!
2007-03-17 10:57:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he genuinely likes you it wont bother him, and he has told you it doesnt. Sounds like you have found yourself a good guy! Why should it bother him? He likes you for you and this is part of who you are. Relax and enjoy xx
2007-03-17 09:27:07 · answer #8 · answered by katyllou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the guy says that it does not bother him, then don't let it bother you. i bet this guy likes you because of who you are, not some minor, insignificant noise. you have to be happy with yourself before you can expect anyone else to. there is nothing wrong with you. you are a happy, healthy, beautiful girl. enjoy your youth. and date as many guys as you want!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-17 09:30:03 · answer #9 · answered by schley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, honey. Just let it go. I'm sure you are a beautiful girl and he is not worried about it. Stop listening to you friends.
Just be yourself, aznd if he does not like you...it's his loss!
2007-03-17 09:27:51 · answer #10 · answered by mikey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋