i have a honest question for all religious ladies here?

Question

lets say your husband or boyfriend is a non violant alcoholic and his only weakness is that he does not work but only drinks like a fish and falls all over the streets and the police or kind people got to carter him back home ok.
now if you are a kind lady will you leave him, fall in love with another guy, specially a good friend who comes to help his alcoholic problem, and run off with him , leaving your man to rot in the gutter?

Answer 1

if this is a boyfriend.... and he has no desire to change... I would leave him.... a 'girlfriend' will never 'change' a guy... they are who they are. if he doesnt have enough will power to get out of the house and get a job.... and only spends money to drink himself into oblivion.. i would recommend running as fast as you can in the opposite direction. You have made no vows to stay with him

if this is a husband... and you are Christian... it is a hard choice. God hates divorce... is the husband a Christian? (by Christian, i do not mean 'members of a church denomination' .. that no more makes you a christian than being a member of the NRA makes you a great hunter...) If he is not a christian, and you are... it is important to be a Godly example so that he may find the Lord...

now, if you are not a Christian... (meaning you have chosen to follow Christ, given up your own selfish desires to follow Him, repented of sin, and living according to how God would want you to live) ... then I would have to say, you arent following any rules so what you do is up to you....

religious doesnt mean Christian... and Christian doesnt mean religious...

Answer 2

God said if a man dont work he shouldnt eat think i could leave him in the gutter wouldnt run off with someone else considering the first mess i had already gotten in let him drink like a fish fall in the gutter the police take him to jail they will get tired of him soon enough then they will do something with him

Answer 3

This is the eeriest question I've ever read;
This actually happened to me several years back. For confidentiality reasons, I'll call him
"Bill". It was in the late 80's and Bill played lead guitar in a local band. He looked like the typical hot guy of the 80's - long blonde hair, green eyes, like one of the guys in the band "poisen". He had a body to kill for, and was 25 yrs. old, which made me several years older than he was. He was a drunk. He'd fall over playing his guitar on stage, but keep on playing it without missing a note. He never drove because he was too drunk all the time, but he would get picked up almost every nite "walking under the influence", which was weird. I was a high level professional for a huge string of private hospitals. Anyway, we fell in love.
It was almost as if he wasn't from the earth; he didn't know even the basics of things, like changing the oil in a car, or putting air in the tires. I was surprized he knew how to plug in his guitar.
I loved him and I used to pick him up wherever he was stranded; Twice I got frustrated with him because he didn't show up where we were to meet- and twice i made the comment: "he better be in jail or dead or he's really gonna get it"; well, the first time he was a no-show, he was in jail;
I bailed him out. The second time he was dead. Cause of death was a massive heart attack, but the doctors said his liver was so diseased that he couldn't possibly have lived more than a year or so anyway.
I grieved terribly. No, I never left him, and no, even though he had friends like David Lee Roth, I never cheated on him, and I would never had let him "rot in the gutter".
He was signed to a contract with a major
record label a week before he died. They were gonna label him "the baddest bad boy of the 80's".
Being frustrated over someones bad decisions in life is one thing, but if you truly love someone, you will be there and not do any of those things you listed - just the opposite. There are some women who would do those things, but mostly a woman who is truly in love with a man will give every single bit of herself, barring nothing,
sometimes even to her own destruction.
As for me, I thank God each day that I was worthy to even have the opportunity to know him. Not because of his looks or his band success, but because he was the most incredible person I'd ever known, drunk or sober. The police department that normally arrested him (constantly) actually came out to escort the funeral procession, with every car they had, and including almost 30 police motorcycles. It was a real sight to see. There were over 300 girls there crying at the church service, too. It had to be held in a church that would accomodate 1000 people, and there was standing room only. This wasn't because of his music - because other than local taverns,
the world hadn't even heard of him yet - no, it was because he was the most incredible person that most of us had the honor to meet.
His death struck me so deeply that I made it my life mission to find him. Grieving so deeply, I tried to find out what happens after we die; where do we go? In my search, I found God and even more answers than I ever expected to find. Now,
I am at peace. I smile each time I think of him, just like when I read your question. Thank you, I needed a smile to start off my Saturday!!

Answer 4

Nope. I wouldnt. I am not Married though. It is a sin to cheat on people. I would let God take care of my problems. And plus I would pray for my husband for God to help him and not leave him. God Bless, Jennifer

Answer 5

I think you can only take so much eventualy you would have to leave him for your own sanity.

Answer 6

Yep. If he doesn't want to help himself, there's nothing I can do. And he's likely going to be an anchor on my life, dragging me down too. I don't want a project. I want a partner.

Answer 7

I would try to help him out as much as I can, since I fell for him.
Of course he'll have to do his part and help himself as well.
I'll try as much as I can, but if he doesn't copperate, the I'll just have to dump him.

Answer 8

Leave the derelick alone.