and since i met my husband 8 years ago she has never spoken to me or even aknowledged the fact i`m there, now she is in the hospital my husband thinks i should go and see her, i don`t think i should as it is her not talking to me and i don`t know why, any one got any idea what to do?
2007-03-17 00:46:56 · 14 answers · asked by MAD FEMALE 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hiya, Oh dear i used to have the same problem with one of my ex husbands sisters, she never liked me for some reason , she is his twin and always refered to herself as his other half. She did speak to me but only because she had to, I got to the stage i never bothered with her, i even remember her coming to my home to see my then husband, who was out at the time and so was i , my son opened the door and she said i have come to see your dad, he wouldn't let her in. My two children hated how she treated me so he stood his ground with her.(he was a teenager at the time)If i were you i would just send her a card, and perhaps some flowers or even a magazine to read, i wouldn't go to see her, and i don't blame you for not going to see her, i know what it's like to be treated this way.
2007-03-17 04:17:47 · answer #1 · answered by kevina p 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go meet her. It's going to be really awkward, but like others have said, you'll be the better person.
If she's still rude, then just cordially leave the flowers and go off.
Chances are, she won't be rude. She's in the hospital, and I'm sure she'll appreciate the thought.
If the relationship between the two of you is really very strained, then explain to your husband. Go along with him perhaps. It would make things 20 000 times easier, because you can hide behind his shadow.
2007-03-17 02:33:15 · answer #2 · answered by Chocolate Strawberries. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would go notwithstanding her feelings toward you. It shows that you are more secure in yourself than she is. Besides, you will have done the right thing in your mind that you reached out and tried to connect and then after, it is all up to her.It would also please your husband and he would feel more proud of you if he knows the situation between her and you.,
Besides, it gives you the upper hand in the relationship.
2007-03-17 00:52:37 · answer #3 · answered by Ted 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take the first step...go for a short visit and take some pretty flowers and a magazine. Your act of kindness may be what she needs at a difficult time, and it may also make her friendlier toward you. If not...then at least you can say you tried
2007-03-17 00:53:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well if your husband does not undrestand then let him go to the hospital by himself and when she gets better he should ask her what her problem is with you after all you are his wife.
2007-03-17 05:21:08 · answer #5 · answered by Granny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well. I wouldnt visit someone in hospital I didnt know, why should I? It would be like visiting a stranger.
However it might help if you want to build bridges with her.
2007-03-17 00:52:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take it from someone who works in a hospital - that is not the proper place for drama.
2007-03-17 08:16:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on how strongly you feel about mending the relationship with her, whether it be for your, her or your husbands benefit. It would be hypocritical for you to go and see her if you weren't that bothered.
2007-03-17 00:52:04 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Your better-half has given you a positive suggestion ;)
2007-03-17 01:19:01 · answer #9 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go with your gut instinct,if she didnt want to know you,then dont get involved.your hubby shouldnt put you on the spot like this
2007-03-17 00:52:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋