I am having 3 equal bridsemaids. Who sits at the top table? Should my partners parents sit up there if they are not contributing costs to the wedding?
2007-03-17 00:42:08 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It depends entirely how many seats there are at the top table. Ideally it should be the 4 parents, best man and bridesmaids. If there isnt enough room then the bridesmaids could sit at a 2nd table but I wouldnt split them up or there might be anarchy!
2007-03-17 00:47:43 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We're not thinking straight, are we? Where does the fact that your partners parents aren't contributing to the cost have anything to do with it? Is your top table simply a display of who paid what? I doubt it, but I hope that you can see what I mean!
There are so many options here but it depends on the hotel/restaurant that you are having the reception at.
When my niece got married a few years ago (my brother, her father and her mother had been divorced for years). The 'top table' was simply the bride and groom, the best man and her best friend - she didn't have any bridesmaids. Her Mum sat with her new husband on one table and I sat with my brother on another - although her Dad did 'give her away.'
If you can, have the hotel set up smaller tables and apart from the immediate wedding group, move everyone on to the smaller tables. That way you have you, your new husband and the bridesmaids along with the best man at the top table - and everyone else is equal.
Remember, you can please all of the people some of the time and some of the people all of the time.
The most important thing to remember is that it is a very special day for you and your partner. You should not have to worry about being politically correct! The majority of people won't even notice if the food and wine are good enough!
Enjoy your day and I wish you all the luck in the world!
2007-03-17 01:08:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally the top table consists of Bride, Groom, Parents or their equivalent, Bridesmaids, Best man.
If you want to be seen to do things properly then do not exclude one set of parents from that cos they are not contributing any money. The opposite Mums and Dads sit next to each other.
Better still, relax the whole day for everyone so that there is not a top table. At my daughters wedding we just all arrived at the venue , ordered drinks and sat in the garden chatting and laughing til the BBQ was cooked. there were no speeches or any of that cr*p. It was lovely.
2007-03-17 00:54:58 · answer #3 · answered by bluebadger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both sets of parents and bridesmaids and best man. Although thats alot of seats. I'd say put the bridesmaids on another table nearby.
Regarding partners parents... i think they'd be a little peeved off to be left of top table just because thier not contributing, i'd have them there to keep peace.
Good luck and all the best for wedding and future together x
2007-03-18 09:25:57 · answer #4 · answered by pink_wings84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been to weddings where only the immediate wedding party was at a long table. I've also been to some where the wedding party's significant other was invited to sit with him/her. Lately I've noticed (my own daughters did this) there is no "top table" but what's called a sweetheart table just for the bride and groom. The wedding party sits (with their spouses or significant others, children) at tables like the other guests. Personally I like this, as it saves room for the dance floor.
2016-03-29 02:34:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would take money from them anyway , then thay have no say in the wedding then . the way is ment to be is from left to right is .
1. vicar if invited to the reception.
2. groomsman
3. the other groomsman
4. grooms father
5. brides mother
6. best man
7. groom
8. bride
9. matron of honour
10. brides mother
11. grooms father
12. bridesmaid
13. bridesmaid
i had the same amount at my top table but sat my own parents together on my side and my husbands parents on his side
2007-03-17 01:28:19 · answer #6 · answered by fafandloo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I t hink its the head table. Usually parents do not sit at the head table. Usually their are two family tables near the head table so that the closest family members can be sure to see all the action and eat first with the bridal party. Its not about who is paying, it is about respect. Check with your hall or caterer, or if you look on line there are lots of suggested seating arrangements. Usually though, the bride and groom sit in the middle and the ladies sit next to her and the guys sit next to him (they can be coupled off if they are m arried or some or reason makes sense). The reason, I think is so the girls are closest to the bride to help her if her train, veil, etc. need adjusting. All the best to you.
2007-03-17 01:27:07 · answer #7 · answered by Sweetserenity 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, since you and your guy are paying for the whole wedding yourselves as it should be, that has absolutely nothing to do with who sits where. At the head table is the wedding party, bride and groom, the Master of Ceremonies, the pastor/minister sometimes, then depending on room - parents of bride and groom, grandparents.
2007-03-17 01:40:21 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your parents are sitting up there then your partners parents should be up there to. At my wedding I had just my wedding party and then had a table for my parents and grandparents and a table for my husbands parents and grandparents closest to the head table. The grooms parents are traditionally only suppose to pay for the rehearsel dinner.
2007-03-17 00:54:20 · answer #9 · answered by Ladybugs77 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually at the head table its you, your husband, your honor attendants and your bridesmaids and groomsmen. Each set of parents usually host their own table where honored guests are seated, like any siblings that arent in the wedding, grandparents, etc. I have never seen a wedding that the parents sat at the head table.
2007-03-17 01:00:25 · answer #10 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋