My childhood sweatheart my very 1st everything and I was his we were unstoppable in our love for each, my father did everything to keep us apart , however I disobeyed my father and continued to see him, however since I was 13 he has been cheating on me. Both of us now are in our 30's we have been running back and forth to each other for 20 years. 6 years ago I moved to California to get away from the love of my life, because he choose to be with someone besides me. It destroyed my heart really bad. I was involved in a relationship in california for 6 yrs it ended up not working out. so I contacted my childhood sweatheart after not talking to him for 6 years and he was happy to hear from me. 2 days later I flew him out here and three days later we went to las vegas and got married I just found tonight he is living with a girl down there and I am not hearing from him at the moment. he was suppose 2 to move to Cali on the 10th but chickened. He is a player an has been still. does he luv m
2007-03-17 00:24:29 · 14 answers · asked by Samantha M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He has been chasing after me for 20 years. he is telling this girl that he wants her and he is telling me that he wants me. I do not know what to do since he is my husband but I think he married me just so i can't marry anyone. I want this man as my husband but I do not want to be played a fool please help
2007-03-17 00:27:58 · update #1
Also before you comment mind you. I do not tolerate his crap this is why he has been chasing me. Also keep in mind HE IS MY HUSBAND. IF I AM A BOOTY CALL WHY DID HE MARRY ME???
2007-03-17 00:34:10 · update #2
If someone has been cheating on you since you have known him, he's obviously not going to give you what you want or need. Like the song says, "Sometimes love just ain't enough..." Whether or not he loves you isn't the point. The point is whether or not you're willing to let some guy string you along and mistreat you. Cut all contact with him and move on while you still have time to meet someone nice.
2007-03-17 00:33:02 · answer #1 · answered by la buena bruja 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a similar situation. First he should have paid for his own ticket. He should not have let you pay for it and he should not have came there,especially since he knew he was not going to be loyal. I'm afraid he may not truly have feelings for you or at least not strong ones. It seems like he is a user and a player and these kind of guys normally stay that way. Especially since 6 years have passed and he still is doing the same thing. Don't worry about his feelings for you. Just ask yourself what you want and deserve and move on. Pray too. There are much better guys who'll treat you better than that.
2007-03-17 00:34:19 · answer #2 · answered by iluv_darrell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer but I guess you want to hear it from someone else.
No! He does NOT love you
He does not know the meaning of love.
It is never ok to have drama in your life.
Start a self -improvement journey for your life today, so you can get rid of all the drama in your life and so that you can be happy.
You deserve to be happy.
Get a dvd by Dr Juanita Bynum titled "no more sheets" it will help you to get over your past so that you can enjoy your future.
2007-03-17 00:31:24 · answer #3 · answered by Pink_Zirconia!!! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey, you have to let him go... your relationship with him is not healthy. as long as you hold on to him, you will never be able to have a good relationship with a guy who really deserves your love. after 20 years, you have to realize that you're just a booty call. you deserve better than that! do you really want to look at your life someday and realize that you wasted all those years for someone who doesn't really care?
give yourself some love and respect and leave the dude and never look back. he can be a friend, but a lover? never.... learn to let go and kick his *** out of your life, ok?
2007-03-17 00:31:11 · answer #4 · answered by aeijae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
read up on how to spot a player. Read up on why men cheat. I know you were young and impressionable, but try to think about how much of your life is ahead of you and that the first person you like might not be the best for you. Compatability is important. I try this technique sometimes. I ask the person I'm with on a date about their parents. You can learn a lot about a person when they talk of their parents. You'll know everything!
2007-03-17 00:31:12 · answer #5 · answered by mark [mjimih] 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I didn't even read the hole thing because all i got to say is have some respect for yourself and never be with a cheater. If you weren't faithful yourself well that's a different story your made for each other, if that's the case
2007-03-17 00:30:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't love you. Leave him. You're just hurting yourself.
One thing that us girls have to keep inside our heads is that players will always be players. They'll never change, it's like etched in their being. Once someone cheats on you expect that he'll do it again.
Find someone new. Move on.
2007-03-17 00:29:42 · answer #7 · answered by chessie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Omg. Are you really that blind and stupid? You called him, you flew him down here, you sounded like you were lonely and very desparate. You are trying to make something that can not be fix work. GIVE HIM up. Get an annulment, get away from him, get counseling and FORGET about him.
2007-03-17 00:28:41 · answer #8 · answered by Jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this may hurt but guys like that.... its always hard for them to let go of.. well i will put it this way those are the type of men that caint see themselves with just one woman for the rest of their lives they cant hold down a relationship, most likely he grew up around it and it could be not him but how he was raised and how he was taught to treat a female? hope i could help if not just email me and i will be glad to give you more helpfull info....
2007-03-17 00:33:02 · answer #9 · answered by fearsnoevil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How insecure are you? Grow up. If you want casual sex fine.
Get over it. It will never be. What the hell were you thinking to go and get married. The signs are there. You are better than him.
2007-03-17 00:31:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋