my mate has found out her bf won't marry her cos his family won't agree to him marrying her and he said he wont go against his family, now she blames him for not wanting her, so she wants him to feel bad, real bad. so she wants to lie and tell him she got pregnant and got an abortion, what shud i do i've told her not to cos it's not right, but she won't listen, help :-(
2007-03-17 00:21:28 · 15 answers · asked by sweetchick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her this: If he thinks its true, he will never forgive her for doing that without his consent; a man will never forgive a woman for that. If he thinks (knows) its a lie, he will never forgive her for her horrible deceit. She obviously loves him, to be in such a desperate state; ask her does she really want to burn that bridge, end it forever, with no chance of ever going back?? Bec that is what she will be doing if she says that about the abortion....
2007-03-17 00:35:18 · answer #1 · answered by F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think thats so immature. You dont lie about that stuff just for attention. What is the relationship going to be built on? A lie ? Tell her to grow up and move on. Imagine if she did marry this guy and have to live the rest of her life with his family that hate her. Imagine the christmas dinners !! How awful..
2007-03-17 00:26:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can see ur concern for ur mate, and she must be hurt knowing her bf is choosing his family over her, making her feel unwanted or not loved, but i don't think she's personally, going the right way with this, she's hurting and confused and in a state willing to do anything jus to hurt that person back, thers only so much u can do, but i hope she realises soon before she says anything that what she's doing can make things worse
2007-03-17 01:29:37 · answer #3 · answered by DaRkAnGeL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's better to stay out of the situation. As a friend, you can advise that she is not doing the right thing. But unless she is not doing anything life threatening or physically harmful to anyone, then you think you should not do anything other than advising her. If she is still adamant about the situation, then it's her choice.
2007-03-17 02:10:39 · answer #4 · answered by chardonnayormerlot 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay well away from all the drama she is determined to have.
And don't ever lie for her. If you are asked straight out if any of her story is true, just refuse to answer if you can't bring yourself to tell the boy friend the truth.
2007-03-17 00:38:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you panicking over other peoples' problems, when this has nothing to do with you? You have told her your opinion, now it's time to let go and let her make her own life choices. Both of these people sound extremely immature, I doubt you will get any benefit from acting like their mentor.
2007-03-17 00:25:48 · answer #6 · answered by charmedchiclet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend needs help - this is a horrible thing to do and I hope that she realises this before she says this to her boyfriend.
She needs to realise that if her boyfriend doesnt want to marry her because of what her family says then she should forget about him and move on.
2007-03-17 00:33:25 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Claire - Hates Bigotry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds pathetic and she needs to grow up. if she does this what is it gonna prove it will just prove to his family what she is really like a conniving madame that is doing things just to hurt other people id say yoou are better off not being mates until she sorts her attitude out andn stops playing these horrible nasty games
2007-03-17 00:45:56 · answer #8 · answered by loubylou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it now, you have voiced your opinion and if she wont listen then you cant say you didnt warn her when it all falls apart round her ears later on.
2007-03-17 00:25:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can do about it babe.You've already told her that it's wrong.SHE knows it's wrong,but she still wants to do it.Hopefully she doesnt get caught,but if that's what she feels needs to be done,then so be it.Not saying that it's right,but it is what it is.It's not even something that YOU should even stress yourself out about in my opinion.
2007-03-17 01:53:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋