I had a crush on this girl every since I knew that she had a boyfriend. I take no action till I found out that she broke off with that guy. I approach her about a month after she broke off and we started off immediately. One month into the relationship, we started quarreling a lot, she wasn't ready to get into another relationship, not ready for sex, not ready to sacrifice for the relationship.
3 months later, I found out that she is still keeping in touch with her ex, we had a huge fight and broke off. We are still keeping in touch, still talking everyday. She told me that she knows I treat her like a princess but she is still hurt deep in there and she admits that she is not ready for a new relationship. She wants to get over it before getting into a steady relationship again.
She wants me to wait for her, but she doesn't know how long it will take for her to get over. It hurts me everytime we talk bcos I still love her a lot, and I cannot treat her as a friend.
What should I do?
2007-03-16 22:34:25 · 19 answers · asked by Monk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What if I am confident that her ex is a not a treat. That she will never take him back. Would the answer be still the same.. move on?? or wait for her??
2007-03-17 11:57:22 · update #1
Not easy, but move on. And after some time, when you get over her and feel better about yourself, if somehow it's meant to be, it will. But, in the meantime, you're ready to find that person that will know you're the best! Don't let her manipulate you like a puppet... learn to stand on your own two feet. May not be what you want to hear or do, but there IS someone besides her that will accept you for who you are and care.
2007-03-16 22:45:36 · answer #1 · answered by Sam84 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are even asking yourself this question and seriously debating whether you should wait for her I must commend you on being a great guy. It takes a strong person to wait for another to get over an ex, I think you will make a great boyfriend.
So, I think that you should keep in contact with her and take care of yourself right now. She has to come to terms that her previous relationship is over and that you are real and you are right there for her and you will be the best thing to happen to her. It's sad but all you can do is wait for her to realize what she is missing. But in the meantime I think you should just take care of your own feelings.
I know you love her and so getting into another relationship just to spite her would be silly and still would not be what you want because what you really want is her. Just make sure she can see what you are offering her and try and help her see that you and her should be together. Good Luck!
2007-03-24 14:03:47 · answer #2 · answered by Rissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, I dont think she is into you. As I see, she is just keeping you as a place to fall back if her ex fails again. Sometimes, it may be that she is still emotionally attached to her ex. I know its really hard to give up some one you love.
So what I say is, just give her some time to get rid of old memories. Patience is the key issue here. If you go after her too much I m sorry to say you ll lose her forever. Let her feel that she is loosing you. I mean stop being too much available for her. Then she will have to make a clear choice, either you or her ex. I m sure she will chose you. So at that point get her committed and make sure she has lost all contacts with her ex.
Anyway, she is true. She will definitely need some time to recover from the first relationship. So dont hurry things. Just take the things slowly, if you want to have it for your entire life.
anyways, ALL THE VERY BEST!!!!
2007-03-16 22:48:32 · answer #3 · answered by banju 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No dont dude cause theres another girl out there whos waiting for you to see her but your 2 busy thinking about another girl that you miss her.
Move on and look at that girl whos waiting 4 you.
Cause that chick you have a crush on is only gonna run 2 u as a rebound and u dont deserve to be 2nd best dude so do yourself and favour and Move on and like I said look at the girl whos waiting 4 you
Good luck and all the best mate :)
2007-03-16 22:41:05 · answer #4 · answered by ¸¸.•*´`*♥ Selah 21 ¸¸.•*´`*♥ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't wait around for this woman. she can't just put you on the back burner until things fall apart with this other guy. You are worth a hell of a lot more than that. Get a move on and find someone worth your time, someone who wants you and only you. She's out there.
2007-03-24 22:38:16 · answer #5 · answered by blakta2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 21:55:48 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes playing you. The best way to get her now is to find another girl, preferrably her best friend or sister or someone she hates, and start dating them. Make sure you lavish the new squeeze with loads of gifts and attention. The jealous ***** you want (lord knows why) will be all over you trying to get your attention back. Ignore her and learn to like your new girl. She'll be floored, because only she should be able to toy with someon e like that.
2007-03-16 23:07:03 · answer #7 · answered by dvdheg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.. let me say this.. at least she realizes she has a problem.. you know. and you have to realize for whatever reason it is she realy loved that guy.. at first she went with you cause she was on the rebound.. but hey that means she thinks your cute or hott.. whatever. anyways.. you seem to love her a lot.. but why mention sex? that shouldnt matter.. you love her right? then wait.. tell her you give her space and that you'll wait but not forever... cause she needs space but for what reason? is she trying to get back with him when your not lookng? is she just so in love with him that when she is with you she thinks of him... if its the first then leave her now.. cause all she is doing is keeping her "options" open.. if its second then you just have to wait and always be there for her... make her feel nice send her flowers on b-day and v-day.. let her know your there for her.. and yeah she will keep in contact cause she loves that guy.. but that means it will take longer to get over him.. what she needs to do is hide him.. out of site out of mind.. you know.. so you have to ask yourself.. how long is she worth waiting for.. and then you will know what to do.. but im telling you there is a diffrence from getting over someone and getting back with someone.. be sure you know what she realy is doing.. i wish i could help more.. let me know how it goes..
good luck
2007-03-24 14:38:34 · answer #8 · answered by Dr.Icebreaker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was rejected but I walked away but still have respect for her. Don't wait and be the rebound guy. Still have respect for her but completely move on......she will realise what she is missing, if not you still will be able to find another girl.
If its painful move on otherwise stay friends.
2007-03-16 22:43:09 · answer #9 · answered by chaminda l 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't!!! If you will wait her it's very unfair in your part because I know that you love her, then she will broke up with you that's too selfish. find another one I know you can have anothe one that is beauiful and not so selfish to you!!!
good luck with your love life :-)
2007-03-16 22:45:09 · answer #10 · answered by Cutie_pie13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋