There was a girl I met for a second time that was a buddy of mine's gf's roommate and to be honest, one of the reasons why I developed an interest in wanting to get to know her was because she didn't seem like one of those flashy, self-absorbed bad-boy chasing types like most women are like today.....I remember she would stand quietly with her arms crossed like she felt out of place, so she would look over and try to start a convo, and i'd say something back. I remember the next time I saw her a couple month's later she started talking to me and I wasn't too responsive because I wanted to play it cool. Then she told me like 5 times she was going to be leaving early because she was going to another party but would most definitely be coming back.
I was going to ask for her number. What's wrong with that? Yeah, right. I asked her in case she wasn't coming back if she would like to leave me her number so I could call her sometime and the LOOK she gave me......
2007-03-16 15:58:36 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She looked straight ahead and gritted her teeth and my heart sank. Then she said "Im probably going to be coming back", then walked away. No bye nothing. She also never came back.
Now any of you jaded women who want to talk about "aww ego bruise", first off I don't have an ego problem. I'm a guy with a pulse who is sensitive. Since you're used to just looking at that guy to tell your problems too and not date, you're probably not too knowledgeable of the type of person I am.
Am I overreacting if I say I'd rather be hit by a truck or eat glass than ever have to go through that again my entire life?
It's not like im still stewing over it, you know three months ago on New Year's eve a couple hours before midnight......
Was that really rejection and if so why?
2007-03-16 16:00:53 · update #1
Ok childofGod, I didn't blow her off. I just didn't fawn all over her. What's wrong with that? What's wrong with being flirty but not trying to overdo it. I wanted to say hi to others there, I had to fawn over someone I was likely going to get turned down by anyway?
I talked to her, and she probably could tell I was sorta interested by the fact I was standing right beside her and moved up closer to her.
If you're not reading between the lines, please don't respond.
Men don't like to pander to women. Sorry.
2007-03-16 16:40:44 · update #2
Standing in Line, don't tell me where to pick my best answers. Yours about the waitstaff was clearly not the best one because you suggest I pander to them because their waitstaff. That is narrow-minded and bias on your part and if you ever tell me what to do again, you will lose your account.
Thanks
2007-03-17 02:58:37 · update #3
i am no lady nor am i Rico Suave ... but my advice would be you fumbled when you didnt give her the attention she desired. Girls love the inbetween ... not too much and of course not a cold shoulder. Too much says you just want to sleep with them and obviously not enough says, "leave me alone i'm too good for you". And if you told the story correctly she was the pursuer ... that is one hell of a mistake if you werent to engage her as she did you. so perhaps you shouldnt dwell on it as i sense you are .. instead keep your eyes open so to make it up to her casually. Good luck. and by the way ... you should've picked mine as the best answer for that waiter question.
2007-03-16 18:33:18 · answer #1 · answered by Standing in Line 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your hurt - but if you want to know why she did what she did; ask her or any of her friends. I can only give you my perception from what you told me - you should have talked to her when she made an effort to talk to you; but you're playing cool?? Not too cool. If a guy is interested in a girl, he'd better make that effort (that's how I see it - smile). You had just blown her off.
If you're ever in that same circumstance again, my advice to you is to chase after her and ask her right then and there so you don't ponder why.
2007-03-16 23:20:54 · answer #2 · answered by childofGod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, u came on too strong to her. Get to know her more. An, as my advise, I say break up w/ the girl u r w/ next time before going for her friend. GL! ( that is the best way to b slapped over and over. Just telling ya.) GL!
2007-03-16 23:05:11 · answer #3 · answered by Star 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she is just shy around u and dosent know what to say really i ber she was flatterd and i bet when u asked for her num i bet she got really happ on the inside. dont wrry she will come ardound
2007-03-16 23:04:00 · answer #4 · answered by blah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finish the story. What kind of look did she give u? tell me more
2007-03-16 23:02:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋