Our children play together.. once in awhile with a few others neighbors we have seen amovie..Is is mandatory that you attend her mother funeral when the funeral is 50 mile away..and you have never met the mom either.?
we r not best friends.. just neighbors.. and like i said our children play together from time to time..
2007-03-16 14:35:56 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Here is an extar detail for the jack---a who called me selfish in answer..
NO ONE HAS DIED>> I simply asked a question.. some of us on life cant just take off unless it is our own family member.. because of being short staffed..
again..NO ONE HAS DIED>> I just simply asked a question.. and got judged in return..
I Hope you take the board out of your own eye my friend before you take the sty outta mine..
2007-03-17 07:57:11 · update #1
No, I shouldn't think so. Just send a card and your best wishes and that should be enough.
2007-03-16 14:38:23 · answer #1 · answered by LIVE FREE 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you can go, go. If you can not, do something else for your neighbor. I personally would not send flowers, some people think that it is a waste, and do not like them, and, you do not know the mother. You're a neighbor, doing something neighborly would be just fine!
Find something within your time and financial budgets. Send a nice sympathy card, make dinner for them, take care of the kids sometime, so she can shop, or just be by herself for awhile. Mow the yard, wash the car. Watching the house while they attend the funeral is a big thing, people who rob houses look for people away at a funeral. Feed or exercise their pets while they are gone. Offer a listening ear when they come back.
Hope this helps, I'm sorry for your neighbor's loss.
2007-03-16 23:45:44 · answer #2 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it shouldn;t be more than an hour and ten minutes away. Since you are bringing this up in the first place, I do want to say you are acting selfish. I think it is a requirement, morally, for anyone to attend a funeral of someone they have known. Whether it was family, friend, or co-worker. For you to complain about the drive, thats just wrong and I think you should be ashamed to be thinking that. Take off of work, make the time, get dressed up, and go.
Don't take this the wrong way, ok. I just feel its an excuse. I have friends that sometimes won't hang out cause they live 20 minutes away. Its a lot of BS. You don't want to go to the funeral. Just admit it, its ok. You are entitled to your opinion and feelings and others should respect them. But on the same token, if someone, anyone, gave you more than 20 minutes of their conversation in their life, then their life ends and you know someone, may the person that passed or their family MAY be expecting you to show up at the funeral, I think it would be morally and ethically correct for you to go. I mean, no one will look down on you for not going. A lot of people do not go for one reason or another. Its almost common place. This is as third generation americans become addicted to convenience and then find it inconvenient to go to something as important as a funeral. I think I am giving an extremely good point.
2007-03-17 06:19:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
No, just send a nice card or if you want to splurge send flowers or a plant to the funeral. You could just take a nice card and a meal, such as a casserole over after they return from the funeral, or the next day.
2007-03-16 14:42:56 · answer #4 · answered by Sheila 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do no longer see the way it might desire to be sensible. somebody's abode does not have centers to embalm somebody or cremate somebody. they don't have the form of tables and water centers you will possibly be able to desire to scrub the physique. Or keep the physique. At this evaluate time i'm undecided many people might want a ineffective physique mendacity around between the rooms of their abode. And the removing of the physique from the abode might desire to get dicey--stairs and doors and flooring they do no longer want broken or scratched via the gurney; the disruption of the people moving the physique from the abode to the church or anyplace they intend to hold the centers. especially cases your church is already booked for another experience so which you will possibly be able to desire to hold on the physique a on a similar time as until they have an taking off and you will possibly be able to't keep a ineffective physique at your house of abode for that long. those wealthy people you describe possibly might prefer to spend the added money on a funeral abode which will take care of each and every of the info after their buddy dies so the kinfolk does no longer might desire to handle it.
2016-10-18 21:23:07 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since y'all aren't real close and aren't like best friends, then i don't think you should go to the funeral, unless maybe your neighbor requests your presence. instead, you could give them a nice sympathy card, a home cooked meal or send flowers to the funeral home, and then just give them your condolences/sympathy, maybe a hug, and just be understanding in their time of loss. i also agree with the person who said that your kids could make a card for your neighbors kids; i think it's a good idea and it would teach them etiquette
2007-03-17 18:05:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send a card, and either send flowers or send a donation to a charity that their family has picked out.
Going to the funeral isn't expected unless you're really close.
2007-03-16 15:20:10 · answer #7 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your neighbor, if she feels she needs you for emotional support, then go. You may not consider her as a best friend but her mom died, so I'm sure she can use all of the friends she can get best or regular. If it's the distance that is bothering you then maybe you can get a ride with someone else in her family. If you still decide not to go, then at least slip a sympathy card in her mailbox.
2007-03-16 14:40:43 · answer #8 · answered by !!! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you can't attend, I'd say it would be thoughtful to send flowers or a nice plant to the funeral home. A plant is something the family can take home and have as a keepsake, and it would be a nice gesture on your part.
2007-03-16 14:45:08 · answer #9 · answered by Starscape 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I dont think so. Maybe have your kids make a card for their little friends next door. It will teach them etiquette and compassion. Or you can send them over with some cooking or flowers. I don't think they would even really notice you there or not there at the funeral.
2007-03-16 14:43:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's never mandatory to attend anyone's funeral but your own. ;o) If the 50 miles is too far for you to travel, I would recommend sending flowers and/or offering to make dinner for her family in this time of need.
2007-03-16 14:39:14 · answer #11 · answered by Sinclair 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋