Friends or more?

Question

There is a guy Adam that I thought I only wanted to be friends with. I was seeing another guy all the while knowing him and he kept giving me advice, I talked to him about it all the time. But I realized when the other guy was treating me badly that I was attracted to Adam. I didn't really hangout with Adam while I was seeing the other guy, but we texted almost every day and when we texted it wasn't just one text, it was back and forth. My message box was full of messages from him at the end of the day. This has gone on for a while. We have both told each other that we only feel friendship for one another but I feel a definite attraction to him. I don't know if he feels the same way and I don't want to say anything because I have been burned a few times by guys now and I don't want to get hurt again. I just wish I could get rid of the feelings. What should I do.

I don't understand why aeiou_i just posted all of my other questions as an answer to this question???? What was he trying to say?

Answer 1

Does he actually like me?

I met a guy through an ex of mine. He shouldnt' have gone for me because of the fact that he is friends with my ex but it happened and now we're kind of seeing each other. However, he's making it very difficult to get close to him. I want to date him exclusively, I want him to be my boyfriend. I thought the problem at first was that he didn't want my ex to find out that we were seeing each other. My ex did find out. Also, this guy told me that he does have trust issues with me. Right now I'm trying hard to get closer to him, but it seems that the relationship is very one-sided. I am always the one to ask him to hang out but he doesn't really call me or answer my calls. I would like to see him more. On one hand I want to be patient, but on the other hand I don't want to be played around with. I do want a relationship with him and I don't want to just keep seeing him without him being able to make any commitment.he told me he likes me but i dont sense it by his actions.

Have I slept with too many guys?

I'm 22 and I've slept with 11 guys. Is that too many?

Should I just give up on him...?

I've been seeing a guy for about 2 months now. We dont see each other very often. He's told me he likes me, but there are a few complicated issues. First of all there is the fact that he is friends with my ex and my ex resents the fact that he went after me. The second thing is that he doesn't seem to trust me since I do have some guy friends that I hang out with. He got upset because I hung out with my ex and another guy. If I was actually dating him I wouldnt have done that but we were not dating. Now I don't know if he is actually still interested because he doesn't act like other guys I have dated before. Most guys want to see me at least every other day or talk to me, but he doesn't. He rarely answers my text messages. He told me however that he's sent me text messages but I didn't receive even one. I would like to believe him but I'm pretty sure that he was lying about that, I just don't know why he would lie to me about that, he could just tell me he isn't interested.

What do you think about a girl masturbating?

I do it on a regular basis, sometimes once a day, is there anything wrong with that?

How can I get him to trust me?

I've been promiscuous, and the guy I really like has trust issues with me. He knows about what went on before and he's afraid that I will hurt him by cheating on him. I really do want to date him, but he finds the past hard to leave behind. I don't know what to do besides act good again to prove to him that I can be a trustworthy girlfriend. Any suggestions? I feel terrible.
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2 weeks ago
I did, but words don't seem to mean much.
2 weeks ago
I said that I cheated, I was single the whole time
2 weeks ago
correction: I didn't say that I cheated. I was single the whole time.
2 weeks ago
Before that, I was in a relationship for 6 months and I never even thought of cheating.

Anyone here have a really strong attraction to black guys?

I just find black men (not all of them of course, there are some ugly ones, lol) very attractive, just wondering how many girls feel the same way?
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2 weeks ago
It's not just about the size of their **** There is something else about them...and btw it is true about black guys they do have bigger ones generally although not every single one does.

Answer 2

Ok for what you should do, i would say go for it. Ask him to hang out with you, dinner or a movie or something, and if you feel comfortable with him then flirt some. Try to make it pretty obvious that you could be more than a friend and see how he responds to it. If he doesnt make any advancements, he most likely isn't interested.

As far as not getting hurt, its going to happen. Guys and girls are like cars. Before you buy one, you have to test drive them. If you find out you dont like them, try a new one. If the car isnt your style, or youre not the cars style, then it just wasnt ment to be. And every once in a while you crash while you test drive and the memories are burned into your head until you finally find that one car that is perfect.

As stupid as that sounds, think about it. Untill you find the person you are meant to be with, you will get hurt, but thats no reason to stop trying. If you want to be happy, you have to deal with the pain it takes to get there.

Answer 3

There is no sure-fire way to avoid being hurt by guys except to not connect with them at all. But, you can minimize the chances of getting burned by going slowly as you get closer to one, looking for deal-breakers very hard and not let things slip or slide--don't allow disrespect to creep into the relationship. Friends first is a good rule.