My husband is giving me a heart attack and im only 21!! I have severe anxiety and he will not stop arguing...?

Question

I have severe anxiety, migraines,OCD, Bi-polar, ADHD,depression and high cholestrol,High blood pressure, which is around160/105. How do I get him to understand he is going to give me a heart attack? I think he thinks BP means nothing. I am only 21 and I feel like I wanna die. The doctors dont care, and I cant live like this anymore. I cant stop crying, I hurt all the time, especially when we argue. My head and chest hurts... all the way up my arm. My grandfather died at 49 from a heart attack and my mom had her first one in her early 30s. Can I have a heart attack soon? He thinks I am just joking when I say he is killing me, but Im not, between the suicidal and the head and chest pain, I dont know which is worse!!!

Whenever I get upset my chest and head hurts the most. I feel as if I almost cant breath both in my chest and like someone is choking me...

Please Help!

My husband and I were split up for a year and just got back together in december. I had a lot of problems then but now they are getting worse.. I am being seen by doctors, counselors, neurologists, and every other type of doctor and nothing is working... The doctors just dont know. But how do I explain that high blood pressure can lead to a heart attack??? That is my main thing, then how to get him to listen.

FIRST OFF TO THE JERK WHO SAYS WHO HE HAS TO LIVE WITH, I AM NOT ASKING FOR ANY ADVICE FROM YOU SO TAKE YOUR ADVICE SOMEWHERE ELSE AND SECONDLY, I JUST WANT TO KNOW HOW YOU TELL HIM THE HEART AND HIGH BLOOD PRESURE ARE RELATED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! SORRY TO SOUND RUDE TO ALL THE PEOPLE BEING NICE BUT MY BP IS HIGH FOR A REASON AND PEOPLE BEING MEAN ISNT GOING TO LOWER IT!!!

OK... I am being seen by SEVERAL doctors, all I want to know is how to get him to know that BP and anxiety and heart attacks, possibly resulting in death are related!

I do to all kinds of doctors... so please I am tired of people acting like I am stupid....

Answer 1

Megan, I am so sorry that you are going through this, especially with someone you love. The symptoms you describe are hard enough without the added stress of marital difficulties. I think you should leave for awhile, if you can. It does sound like panic attacks, but they can trigger heart attacks, it is called broken heart syndrome. Increased stress can lead to a spike in blood pressure, and continued stress floods the body with adrenaline, which can have adverse affects over time. If you tell him this when you aren't arguing, and show him some information, maybe he will understand.

Answer 2

first, i think you should see what the problem is (the reason for the argueing) and try to solve the problem. If you still feel stressed you should try to do activities that will calm you down. Yoga is a great example, and has helped me get through my depression, however, you can only do yoga if you have the time for it. Maybe have a day when you go out with friends and do soemthing without your husband. Just try to get out of your house as much as possible. (the best thing that worked for me) that way you can be with people and be away from your home, which will make you forget about your stresses. I dont get how he doesn't believe you. Doesn't he see that you're suffering? Your depression will never get cured if he is not there for you emotionally and yells at you which makes the problem worse. Talk to him and get him to understand what you are going through. The next time you need to go to the doctors, scheduale an apointment at a totally different hospital, that way they wont ignore your problems like your current doctor does. Bring your husband with you, let him hear what the doctor says. If he continues to tell you that you are lieing and if he begins to make fun of your conditions, such as, "You're using your depression as an excuse to get attention." then you may want to rethink your marriage. Through sickness and in health, right? so why isn't he helping you?
Good Luck sweetie. If you have any questions or just need someone to talk to, just e-mail me.

Answer 3

First and foremost, any husband that doesn't take you seriously isn't worth dieing over. If he makes you feel that way then maybe he is the problem. You need to take a look at the big picture and figure out what is most important; your health or your husband who (sorry for saying this, I don't know him) doesn't seem to give a damn. If you are only 21 and feeling this way; why spend your whole life with him. My advice, I would rather be healthy and alone than depressed with medical problems and have someone who doesn't seem to care. Good luck to you, ditch him, get healthy, and find someone to take care of you.

Answer 4

Well. It seems like it runs in your family the heart attacks. Also if he's not taking u serious than u need to leave him alone. I know u don't want no one''s advice,u do wanna live long. Just when u guys get into it, just leave go some where quit. When ever u go to your doctors appointment take him with u let the doctor explain what could happened to u in front of him.Also want y'all look up things together about high blood pressure and etc..Take a aspirin every day,eat 2 bananas every day,go to the pharmacist they have this thing called fish oil. Get it. Take it helps for blood pressure,moods,depression,stress,etc. U need to relax more and stop letting things get to u easily. It seems like u get up set real fast. Stop please,u just killing your self. If u don't love u than who will. Fish oil is good for u and will not interact with none of your medications u are on unless u take something like a blood thinner. So please don't do that that to your self.You have to find someone who understand u,,if he don't than the hell with it.

Answer 5

bottom line is this, u have so many risk factors that increases ur chances of having a heart attack and possibly dying....ur family history, ur hypertension and also high cholesterol. i am sure u know that already. now in terms of ur husband "getting" it, all he needs to do is type in heart attack on any search engiene and it will tell him that HTN can lead to a heart attack, stroke, death. if he cared for u at all he would want to know as much as he can about his wife's medical condition. u already have so much going against u, dont add him on to the long list. He is making everything worse, by increasing ur stress therefore, ur bp is uncontrolled, if u are an emotional eater, then u probably eat crap and ur cholesterol goes up and on and on. drop him megan. or else he will truly kill you and then u know what, he will move on to someone else when u are gone

Answer 6

sweetie, believe me, what you are having is anxiety attacks. The first thing you need to do is consult a psychiatrist or a doctor of some sort. I take medication for depression and anxiety, and they are life savers. As far as your husband goes, consider why you guys argue all the time. Consider whether staying with him is worth it or not. Also, you BP is quite high at your age, and with your family history you should consider blood pressure medication. I also recommend seeing a counselor, just to have someone to talk to and to help you sort things out. Please take careof yourself. No man is worth all of this, believe me!!!!!

Answer 7

Go to the doctor and make your husband come with you so that he can understand the true extent of your health.
Do you go to counseling? They have great ways of helping you deal with the anxiety so that you can manage it better.
Does your doctor have you on meds for any of your conditions.
Tell your husband that he needs to find a better way to communicate with you, but remember it does take 2 to argue.

Answer 8

Honey, it is not that your doctors don't care but if you choose to stay then what do you expect them to do. They are not miracle workers!!! You need to leave and get away from him for a while and see if your health improves and if it does, then there is your answer. I would never encourage one to walk away from a marriage, but if it is doing this to you then what is next, your death and will your husband benefit from this. If so, then there is your answer. How many more signs do you need? I don't mean to sound harsh or uncaring, but honey you only have one life and the life you save may very well be your own!!!!! Think about this!!!! And I would be damned if I would let anyone drive me to suicide!!! It just would not happen. You are letting him win and have his way. Do NOT give up or give in, ever!!!!! Now, girl, you are stronger than you think, get your butt in gear and get out of there before he does kill you. Write me anytime!!! Good luck and God bless!!!!

Answer 9

I hate to break it to you... but yeh you are close to having a heart attack... if your husband doesnt take this seriously, you need to get out or get some space while you can because your health is at risk. If your mom & ur grandfather had a heart attack its most likely to rin in the family.

Visit this page, it might help you:
http://ww2.heartandstroke.ca/Page.asp?PageID=24

Take Care

Answer 10

Megan. you need to see a psychiatrist. 1. you have clinical depression, anxiety, and OCD bi- polar.... all which cause the physical symptoms. just like your migrains and high bp.... (mins really low... 83/48 OOPS!) but im extremely calm. so my mental state has to do w/ my blood pressure. see? if you get some psychotherepy. you'll be fine. and i dont see what you're husband is doing... all that i can see is that he's joking around and trying to lighten up a bad situation. and can you blame him for trying to make things a little happier. and hun. the doctors dont care. because YOU dont care anymore. He's probably arguing with you because you dont care anymore. or you're making such a big deal over something that you can take care of. SEE SOMEONE FOR HELP. not only will this help you. it will help your marriage and dont you think. the reason why your crying. is because what you have been diagnosed with. (duh hun) i know you're only 21. and that's a whole lot of diagnoses. believe me i know your medical situation. and all those diagnoses make you depressed and sad and. yeah. boo hoo. there are people who have it worse then you or the same as you.... personally i have anorexia bulimia and hypergymnasia depression anxiety severe migrains minor OCD ADD dangerously low bp. migrains allergies to wheat eggs soy rye barley fish most meats peanuts soy chocolate and anything with high fat contents. i cant tolerate because of the chemicals in it. so YEAH. i know what you're going through. but I did something about all those things. i got a dietician a psychiatrist and a really good gastroneurologist for the allergies and a neurologist for the migrains. but there's people worse then this. i know it doesnt seem like it to you but think about all the people that are in poverty dieing, oppresion, people who are way worse off then you and i. you need to get out of your little sadness bubble and realize that your situation could be worse. but you are WORTH it. you deserve to overcome all of this. tell your husband to chill out. and not give you a hard time. and that you're going to get help and you need his support with your transition now more then ever. because Megan, as bad as things seem right now. With some help. you'll be good as new. Now your high cholestrol seems like its genetic. but there's ways to avoid the fate of your grandfather and your mother. (my most sincere sympathy to them both) but please trust me in knowing that as soon as you get help. you're physical symptoms should go away. and psychotherepy is hard at first. but it gets better, and you'll look forward to talking to someone who will listen.
good luck
and. suicide is not the way out. that's the cowards way out.... and i have a feeling. that you're not a coward. you're stronger then that.
<3
Leslie