I am engaged to the most incredible man, he is sweet and kind and generous to a fault. His mother is ill, and takes advantage of his kindness to an unbelieveable degree.
She has diabetes, crones, osteoperosis, and several other things... She has trouble walking, but is not incapable of doing so, but she expects him to wait on her hand and foot. She has a colonoscopy (sp?) bag, which is used after surgery when your colon is removed... basically its a poop bag, that has to be changed like a child's diaper regularly...
For whatever reason, she has been having 'bag' trouble lately... and is dumping them all over herself and her room, and expecting him to clean it up... he is overwhelmed and i'm worried he is going to snap, mentally/emotionally... how can a mother not care that she is LITERALLY crapping on her child?? i HATE watching him sufffer like this, but i don't know what to do... how do i help him stay sane until we can solve the bigger problem?
2007-03-16 08:43:41 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
he is already burning out... he feels trapped, there is no one else willing to help him, i do my best but currently i live 600 miles away... and to be honest i dont want to wade ankle deep in crap any more than he does... we are looking at getting in home help, but it can't happen over night... i just need to figure out how to (help) keep him sane in the interum...
2007-03-17 11:11:00 · update #1
The best thing you can do is listen. It sounds like she has so many health problems, she might be better off in an assisted living situation or nursing home. Just validate his feelings -- "You must be so tired and stressed out," "I know that this is a very difficult time for you.", etc.
Good luck.
2007-03-17 20:03:27 · answer #1 · answered by Marcia K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is ridiculous, selfish and just plain nasty. I dont know if she is just seeking attention from him but you should suggest getting her a home health nurse to help take of care because he will definitely get burnt out carrying this burden. Either that or a psych consultation.
2007-03-17 11:43:25 · answer #2 · answered by Kemi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋