Not saying its a bad thing but, i just wanted know why does my BF feel so uncomfortable talkin about his past sex life? I know hes had a lot of partners but he won't tell me the exact number. Like he said he's had over 5. He's 19 btw and i'm 18. I tohught guys like this would be very open about it =S Theres nothing to be embarassed about right? Whenever I bring it up he just says "k why are u asking me this?" or "this is a lame topic". I just want to make sure I'm not with a walking STD!
2007-03-16 08:01:05 · 12 answers · asked by BABYYYYY TEEEEEE 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
I think he is just trying to be respectful and he probably thinks if you knew the exact number you would think less of him or it would bother you whether you think it would or not. The only way to make sure you are not with a walking STD is to have him get tested. You can sleep with one person and pick up an STD. I know how it feels to want to know, but trust me it is probably one of those things you are better off not knowing. Just make sure you are both free of STDS.
2007-03-16 09:41:36 · answer #1 · answered by ○•○•Cassie•○•○ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing - and I do mean nothing - good EVER comes out of those conversations. If he tells you the truth (or more likely, something *almost* the truth), you'll wind up fighting about it, sooner or later. Don't fool yourself: it bothers you that you might be dating a man-whore, and if your suspicions are confirmed, you WILL hold it against him (consciously or subconsciously). He knows it, and that's why he won't tell.
But really, why do you care? Everybody comes into a relationship with "baggage." Don't hold his past against him. So long as he's faithful to you, why should it bother you? And if he's too embarrassed to tell you, BELIEVE ME, you don't want to know. The past is the past, so just . . . let it go.
That is not to say, however, that you should just do nothing. You should only have protected sex (not "safe" sex, because even condoms aren't truly "safe" - only "safer"), for one thing. Also, you should go get a full-panel STD workup done, and ask that he do the same. That way, your ONLY legitimate reason for wanting to know his history is put to rest.
2007-03-16 08:28:00 · answer #2 · answered by Humberto 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are like that. If you are worried about STD's then both of you should go get checked. It will make him feel more comfortable if you go too. He could have had sex with one person and gotten an STD - talk to him about it. It doesn't matter the number of people he's been with - it's that you want to be safe.
2007-03-16 10:38:51 · answer #3 · answered by charlie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people are just going to be that way. my best advice to you is go to him and say that if you two are going to be sexually active, you need to be honest with one another. you are concerned about your health. tell him that he can refrain from naming names and details, but you want a number, if he used protection, and if he's been tested. or, hell, he can even leave out the number. if he can't give you THAT, then he's not concerned with your health. if he still refuses to talk about it, suggest that the two of you go together to get tested and you both see each other's results. if he doest that, then drop the rest...he's obviously uncomfortable talking about it. you just need to be concerned about the STDs...the rest is private and didn't have anything to do with you.
2007-03-16 13:27:32 · answer #4 · answered by simple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a topic anyone wants to take on but you should certainly be very careful if you know he has a reputation because you would be at "high" risk for STD's! That doesn't mean he "has" them but the possibility exist!
2007-03-16 08:16:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your concern for this is a day late and a dollar short.....these
things you should know prior to bedding your partner......
Although it is none of your business how many women he has
had sex with, but it is your business to know if he is diseased.
Maybe you should get a physical exam and a blood test to
rule out diseases.
2007-03-16 09:10:50 · answer #6 · answered by isageegee 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
both of you get checked before having sex. it isnt how many partners you have that makes you hav estds. its how you practice sex. if its being practiced safely or not. my husband acte dteh same. he told me a # and i didnt believe him and kept buggin and got another # from him it was so stupid to be fighting over. we got checked together and are fine. it isnt soemthing tehy really want to talk about. they dont want to talk about who they slept with either. he says because he doesnt want to know about my past even though he knows about it already and he doesnt want to think of me with soemone else so why do i want to think about it.
2007-03-16 10:09:43 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs.Vick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance is like that. We been together for 3 years. He swears he only slept with 3 people and that includes me, but I dont believe him. But what can ya do. dont pressure him, he might get angry. he probably just doesnt want to admit how many people he slept with.
2007-03-16 08:10:09 · answer #8 · answered by kristinad21 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask him if he has an STD or has ever been treated for one. other than that, leave him alone. it's really none of your business. if you have issues, address your jealousies and other feeling first.
2007-03-18 18:56:45 · answer #9 · answered by KitKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT HE DID IN THE PAST HAS NOTHING TO DO W ITH WHATS GOING ON NOW, AS FAR AS STDS GET HIM CHECKED OUT BEFORE YOUR ANOTHER NOTCH ON HIS BEDPOST
2007-03-16 08:09:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋