Dads, when your wife/partner was pregnant with first baby, how did u deal with it? What were your thoughts and fears and did u find it completely different once the baby was here? For instance, did u think that it would be harder with a newborn than it actually was, or worse? did u have to give up all your interests or did u manage to find a balance around work/play/family? My partner is a little freaked out at being a first-time dad in 10 weeks so im trying to get some info from experienced dads - thanks
2007-03-16 06:31:04 · 6 answers · asked by Serry's mum 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
auburnc - ohh u are a charmer arn't u, but your parents are REAL proud!! tacky girl
2007-03-17 01:31:12 · update #1
When my daughter's mother was pregnant, I was excited and scared. The day she was born, I was in awe. I never saw anything that beautiful. I knew there was a God cause I could not have done this alone.
She's 20 years now . . . the life has been harder than I would ever want to live because she was born, but greater than I could ever hope for because she lives.
The true meaning of love is defined by the unditional love of our children.
2007-03-16 06:47:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The chemistry with your wife is important. Being a first time dad, (wife's second baby), it's an absolute joy but go to babycenter.com and sign up for the newsletters. This will give you a ton of background and useful info week by week during the pregancy. You will learn alot of things and you'll be able to relay that to your wife. Your 1st 2 trimesters will be easy on "dad" but the last one especially the last month will be hardest. She will be moody, explosive, irritable and say some things not meant. Go with the flow but pay attention to her needs. It really is a great experience just pay attention, read up all you can and learn from others.
Congrats to the dad to be!
2007-03-16 13:43:55 · answer #2 · answered by balsak40 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We wanted children so I was looking forward to it.
It was easier than I thought it would be.
It helped that my wife didn't go back to work until all the kids(3) were in school full time.
I think I found a balance, most of my hobbies keep me at home and what's more important than caring for an infant?
You can double with other couples that have children and share the sitter. He'll be fine, it's ok to be concerned, he should be. Not good to worry, tell him to think of Grandchildren. I'm sure everybody is at least concerned about
the new arrival, they just might not remember or want to admit it. Wally, 3 sons and a grandson.
2007-03-16 14:05:06 · answer #3 · answered by Wally 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a dad to 2.
It's a change. For both parents. Some things are great. Some things are bad. But, overall, it's been worth it.
The "advice" I give to about-to-be parents is that you need to be able to get yourself into the mindframe that there's now someone you need to put ahead of yourself. If you're not willing to do that, you're not ready.
Of course, once the baby arrives, you pretty much have to such it up. Luckily, babies are cute and it's pretty easy to love your new child. It will become your world, at least for a few months.
After that, it's a matter for both parents to find their balance.
2007-03-16 13:42:04 · answer #4 · answered by Jay 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Worst thing was i had to sell my motor cycle because i did not want my child to grow up without a father
2007-03-16 13:41:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my man is an experienced dad, but he says the first time you really have no idea how hard or expensive it is. it was harder than he expected it to be.
2007-03-16 13:37:09 · answer #6 · answered by pegasis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋