"How important is Virginity to you?"?

Question

The topic is: "How important is Virginity to you?"



The question is put forth to girls and boys both, and you can ask various interlinking quetsions like:



" Why do you think there is so much hype around virginity?



"Does it hurt a man's ego to know that the girl he is marrying is not a virgin?"

"In foreign countries, and these days even here at India, virginity is termed as abnormal after a certain age. Do you confirm to this notion?"



"Would you go for replacement surgery if you have doubts about the reaction of your partner?"



* Please insist on honesty. We don't want politically correct answers. Forum is basically about airing views regarding various issues and it must be what the person really thinks, not what he/she should say. It is up to you guys how you extract the truthful and straight from heart answers.

pls answer all the aspect of the question.. and wht is it for girls they do they prefer a experienced guy or a virgin.. nd how is it for the girls that they tell thr hubby about the fact that they lost thr virginity before he came in thr life or will they hide it if he wasnt her first...

Answer 1

I used to pay attention to these things when I was very young. Now this topic seems stale. It has no relevance whether a girl is virgin or not. What matters is what kind of person she is. If somebody meets a girl and falls in love with her to discover later on that she is not virgin, how would all other qualities of her vanish on account of that?
The basic ingredient of a relationship is fidelity. There must be a deep bond of understanding. It that is handy then, how does it matter whether she was virgin or not. Her virginity could have been lost due overwhelming circumstances.

Answer 2

**********Please insist on honesty. We don't want politically correct answers. Forum is basically about airing views regarding various issues and it must be what the person really thinks, not what he/she should say. It is up to you guys how you extract the truthful and straight from heart answers

This itself tells what u think.

ok fine.

As per Indian culture One husband One Wife.
When the girl or boys lost their purity before marriage and after that if he/ she marrys other person, then he/she should not tell the fact to the partner, because it will create a big gap between them.

Doing wrong is because of infactuation, it is bcoz of hormonal changes and no proper guidance from the family.

Once Marriage is over they should lead a new life, and forget the past. This is my suggestion. Before marriage everyone is not perfect, and we cant trace their past also. Its better to think what we have today and think abt the future.

Answer 3

I think that guys are especially pressured into having sex whether it's the pressure of they're friends, or just other peers. I think it's kind of ridiculous that guys are pretty much expected to have sex by the time they're a Junior or Senior in High School, or at least that's what I felt like. Anyways, I'm 19, I go to college at ISU and surprisingly to most, I'm actually am a virgin. I don't think it's something I should give up just so that I can flaunt it and be a "man". Even if you look at movies like American Pie, the entire movie is about teens trying to have sex. On the other hand, for girls it's almost the opposite, even if they have sex once they can already be called a "****". So therefore in the public eye, it seems as the though a typical married couple, should go as that the man is more experienced as the women.

Answer 4

I don't care if a guy is a virgin; hypothetically speaking, I'd rather be with someone who knows what he's doing.

And I would NEVER consider replacement surgery. If a guy would judge me for my past, then I don't want him in my future. And my first time having sex, nothing broke anyway. I was a really athletic kid, so I had probably broken my hymen years before.

Funny, that. I remember my lover, who was more experienced than me, asking me if I was a virgin. "I believe you when you say it... it's just that you don't have the anatomy of one." The only reason he cared was so he knew how gentle he had to be. And when I lost my virginity, it was a beautiful, tender, loving, pre-marital experience that I will always cherish.

It's good to know if your partner is a virgin so that you can act accordingly, but you shouldn't judge people based on it. Incidentally, that lover and I are still together, and hopefully will be for a long time. But if we end up parting ways, I won't regret my decison.

I don't think saving oneself until marriage is abnormal or bad, but I also don't think it's the only morally correct choice-- it's a choice that I didn't make, and like I said, I don't now and won't ever regret it. My philosophy is that sex should be saved for love, or at the very least, a mutual respect.

Answer 5

Lets be honest guys all indian males want to marry a virgin, they are **** scared of competition!!. So the rules of the society was created. But that same society also created prostutes??.

When the word Virgin comes its a gals that comes to mind, sorry why not a guy. A guy does not have to bother of it... did i see the scrone on all the guys faces.

Actuall we associate with physicall aspect a lot of things, but should we, physical desire is a natrual desire and would be equal in men and women, it is a personal choice for each person.

If you are a virgin u deserve to deman one( no concession given if you are a guy). Hypocricy is not accepted. Lets us honestly look at that from that prespective.

Answer 6

I think nowadays virginity is not carrying that much importance especially in big towns and cities.

I wouldn't even give a damn while marrying that my to be wife has had sex once or 100 times.

People have started to open up now, with media going all the way into the discussions about sex and thing like these.
So, in a way nowa days it doesn't matter whether one is a virgin or not, atleast I dont care, but still there are different types of people who still want their wives or husbands to be a virgin when they marry them. It all depends on personal views and convictions.

Answer 7

if i was to lose my virginity to someone, i would do it with the man i MARRY. also, some people in other nations think that it's not normal for a person to be a virgin at a certain age because it either means that they aren't interested in it, or just plain hate it. i don't agree, though. if i was fifty and i was still a virgin, i wouldn't be weird! i just didn't find the right person. also, if i dated someone who isn't a virgin, so what? why should i care? it was their choice. not mine. if i focus only on his past, what about the future? isn't the future more important? i think so.

Answer 8

Well, I am 25 years past being a virgin, however with all the diseases going around. I would be scared to have sex If i were a teenager. I really feel that sex is for married couples. When my husband asked me to marry him, One of the questions I asked is why me? Why did you pick me? He answered.. would never marry anyone who has slept with anyone else besides himself. of course that wasn't the only reason but it made him respect me which is a very important part of a relationship. We saved ourselves for each other which made sex very special and intimate for us. Sex is a very important part of life and not to be done casually. It is to be shared with the one you marry. My son is now 18 years old and a virgin. He has self respect. One day he Will find the right girl and when he does I feel they will have a life time relationship. First, you must be friends. not lovers, that comes much later in the relationship. I think that is what is wrong with marriage today. Who really wants someone who they know has slept with half the town, or their best friends or their best friends friend. Get real here..check the divorce rate!! you can only be a virgin once and the person who takes it must be the one you plan to spend te rest of your life with. I was a virgin till marriage and proud of it!!

Answer 9

Virginity is important to me because it's so rare, plus it's a one time thing, once it's gone it doesn't grow back or anything like that no matter what Sex in The City says. It's almost like a "gift" and I want to give my "gift" to the right person who will appreciate it.

Answer 10

My virginity is very important to me, and I look forward to giving that "gift" to my husband on my wedding night. I'm 27, and I know that there is a very small percentage of people my age who have also made that decision -- I think that's sad (unless they're married). I hope that the man I marry has saved himself for me too. How amazing to enjoy sex the way that God intended it -- in marriage!