Meet a guy 4 months ago and we have talked on the phone for 3 hours a night till the last 4 nights he asks me to call and never annswers or calls back he has been on medicaton for an accident he was in and is to come visit me in 3 weeks. Well i called as he asked the other night and he did not answer i then texted him and asked if there was another girl or he just didnt want to talk as much then slept on it and felt that was not the right thing to do as i trust this man so i think emailed and said that i was sorry i have been very excited about his visit and doing things unlike me only to get a text back saying that he didnt need that crap, I think asked if I could call and his reply was not right now. That was 2 days ago. I texted yesterday and asked if he was still coming to see me in three weeks and received no text or replay from him. What do I do I dont want to call and bother him if he needs space but still want to know if hes coming and he hasnt called or texted?
2007-03-14 16:08:38 · 17 answers · asked by devistated 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well i called him on Thursday and he picked up the phone and we talked for a small amout of time he was ok with me said he was still coming but also said he would call me later that night and guess what he didnt and still has not yet so again i sit here wondering if i have the faith and trust he will and why not just tell me in a text of email he doesnt want me why make me have the pain and wonder if hes coming or not and im tierd of the tears.What do I do next wait to see if he calls me know go to the airport to pick him up and hope hes there i just dont know and he lands in 2 weeks.Please help
2007-03-17 04:40:06 · update #1
start to hang out more
2007-03-14 16:10:42 · answer #1 · answered by broken hearted 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry he's being so out-there. If you can bear it, just go about your own business for now, and if he's going to visit, he's going to visit, and if he isn't, he isn't. It sounds like he's being a tad flaky, but that could just be because of whatever accident he claims to have been in.
If I were you, I would focus on myself for now and go about my business. You don't want him to end up feeling like he controls your every move, that you'll do whatever he says. No man should ever control a woman that way. And don't let him get to thinking he does already.
Plus perhaps he needs some space because he feels like he might be getting too close. Or that the more you guys talk he thinks you're getting too needy and clingy or that you both talk too frequently.
I'm not trying to be mean or anything, I was in the same situation a few years ago. And it ended up that the guy was sOOO nice on the phone and all, and then blew me off for a while and didn't want to call or was suddenly too busy or whatever. He ended up being one of those guys that just wanted me for "one thing" (which he didn't get)
Just be careful for yourself so he doesn't manipulate you into doing anything that you don't want to do, ok?
Stand up for yourself.
You'll be okay, even if he doesn't call back or visit.
And if he doesn't, then there's somebody out there that's better for you than he is, who will clearly appreciate you for all of your beauty and humor and everything else that you have to offer.
Good luck and chin up.
-miR :)
2007-03-14 16:16:15 · answer #2 · answered by mir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
text him a few sentrences rather than a demanding "where are you",
try saying just as you have to us, you understand if he needs his space and dont want to be over the top, but you are still left wonering are we on or not?
Explain that the reason you are confused and wanting to know is because he seems like a very special person and you would at the very least like to be friends with him.
Maybe when the relationship deepens abit, you can let him know that your not trying to be controllong or clingy, you just feel hurt and worried when you dont hear from him.
Understand that men are from mars and women from venus!!
2007-03-14 16:34:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is playing the games, girl.This happens to many girls. I know a close friend who fell in love with a man (he started to love her first and admitted it until she fell in love too) and was coming to see her, then he abruply got distanced from her with no reasons. She was, like you dear, waiting for his coming, but he delayed and just said he worked a lot, etc. He went away with no reasons. He was really fond of her...she was calling him. He did not answer or when he did she noticed his tone changed somehow. He talked to her, but she felt he was different. Then he did not call. She emailed him saying she is tired of that, and he had not called. She had a strong feeling he was playing, may be he has another girl.
2007-03-14 16:19:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i feel that he does need his space after all he did get into an accident anyz u should do urself a favor n move on find sum1 who wont play u dirty cuz thats what hes doin i feel like he playin u dirty n he's not being strainght with u dont need 2 waste ur time n energy 2 b there 4 him when he's not there 4 u these just not point
2007-03-14 17:51:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should apologize for being so aggressive either through text or e-mail. Wait about a day or so and then call him and ask if he is still going to come see you. If he does not answer move on.
2007-03-14 16:42:45 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. J J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel there is a corner 4 him in ur heart. but practically if v look he isn,t a open book to read. so try not feel obsessed with his thought because if u meeet him then only u can judge the right moves.till the time considering 4 a honest friendship is much better
2007-03-14 16:18:17 · answer #7 · answered by aaooooooo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say to just wait for an answer but if he's coming to see you, I can see where you'd want to know. It's to your benefit if you call him to see if he's coming but maybe wait just a little while (like 3 days) then if no reply, call him.
2007-03-14 16:12:33 · answer #8 · answered by Micki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do DON'T act the drama queen! Just sit back and relax, if he gets in touch soon then great, if not just move on, you're worth more than that. At any rate, at this stage do you really want him to get back in touch? Do you really want to be in a relationship with somebody who is so blasé about your feelings?
2007-03-14 16:46:06 · answer #9 · answered by T M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is telling you to leave him alone and to stop contacting him..He isn't man enough to tell you flat out that he wants you to stop calling etc., but is just dancing around it. Sorry if you are hurt by this, but some guys are like that, they like to chase, but are not interested when they catch. Find somebody else, who wants you, not the other way around. You have been used to stoke this guy's ego. Best wishes
2007-03-14 16:15:32 · answer #10 · answered by tylernmi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give him time there may be a genuine reason for not replying if you don`t here in a couple of days then phone him
2007-03-14 16:13:24 · answer #11 · answered by stbby1975 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋