Hello everyone, My husband was tested positive for Gonorrhea , he says that he don't know how he got it because he never cheated...The wonderful thing is I don't have it:~)..I can't explain how that happen...I think it was by the grace of God...but anyways I feel dumb because I believe him when he says that he never cheated...but I can't explain how in the word he got Gonorrhea .
WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK!!
2007-03-13 05:37:30 · 23 answers · asked by MEME 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
Gonorrhea is spread though contact with the penis, vagina, mouth, or anus. Ejaculation does not have to occur for gonorrhea to be transmitted or acquired. This is the only way that it is transmitted, so he had to have contact with someone in order to get it. You can read more about gonorrhea here
http://www.niaid.nih.gov/factsheets/stdgon.htm
2007-03-13 05:45:00 · answer #1 · answered by Nurse Annie 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Well, As a Physician Assistant for over 10 years, and I work for a OB/GYN...There is only these ways of contracting Gonorrhea. Sexual contact with an infected person either by the penis, vagina. As a woman and a PA I would see your doctor and get tested, it can be in a state of rest and you may show no signs. I am sorry to say it that he either cheated on you or he got it through birth from his mother. But, I doubt the last. Sorry...
2007-03-13 06:51:27 · answer #2 · answered by kermit614 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is quite possible that your husband has had gonorrhea for a long time, but the symptoms were mild or nonexistant. It is possible to measure serum Ig, or antibody levels to determine if it is the first time he has caught the disease, or if his body has been fighting it quietly for a long time (based on which types of antibodies are present in the blood). Unfortunately, you may not be able to get a lab to perform this test, and it would only work if performed within a week or so of the initial infection.
Deep in your heart, you know if you can trust your husband. If you can't trust him right now, I suggest counseling. It's not just for people with serious problems, it will also help okay marraiges to be good, and good marriages to be great.
2007-03-16 19:10:49 · answer #3 · answered by garrettatnd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there is only one way to find out. First of all, how long have you been married and engaged before that? Gonnorhea has severe implications on the reproductive system that takes place over many years. If he is unable to have kids or produce sperm or something like that, then he has had gonnorhea for a while. But Iwould have to say that if you didn't get it, then chances are he hasn't had it for that long because you would have gotten this STD by then. So, yes, it sounds like he did cheat on you (Sorry, I know it's tough to hear this) You can't get STDs from toilet seats or sharing underwear (well, maybe crabs from sharing underwear), so if he tries any of these silly excuses, then they are all lies and do not believe them. I would have a serious talk with him right away on what to do with your marriage.
2007-03-13 11:17:51 · answer #4 · answered by nicoleblingy2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he said he did not cheat then how in God green world did he get Gonorrhea from. Think about it it does not make sense. Leave and go get ur self check and find some one who will love u and never cheat on u.
2007-03-13 05:42:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say, but he cheated. if ur tested negative and he's positive and he "never" cheated... how'd he get it? did someone like magically make him have gonorrhea?? there's only one way for a person to catch an std.. and thats by sexual contact with a PERSON. do not believe him. he's lying sweety. and you need to talk to him about that. and make sure u use condoms this time since he's ur husband.
2007-03-14 11:26:47 · answer #6 · answered by hataz_envii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunny, I'm really sorry. It's happened to me before, too... I was lucky like you as well. An ex of mine cheated, and lied...and got syphillis. Thank God for me having paranoia and not sleeping with him... I know he's your husband, but an STD is a huge reason to not believe him. How else could he have gotten it? Saying hello to someone? Not likely. I say you should try and move on. I agree though, he should get retested. But if it's positive again... I hope you know what's best for you. Good luck.
2007-03-13 05:57:45 · answer #7 · answered by Mynx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Educate yourself on what gonorrhea is, etc. at webmd.com. Better yet, read webmd.com WITH your husband, then discuss what you have read/how this will impact your relationship, etc...
Given that incubation period can be up to 30 days, consider getting re-tested yourself for your own peace of mind...
Althouth I understand that you're asking for opinions on this site, I hope you'll remember that whether or not a relationship survives is up to only two people....good marriages have lived through worse than this, bad marriages have broken up over less...
2007-03-13 10:56:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could have cheated on you, then again he could have had it before you and was just hiding. You can test positive for an STD and never show any symptoms BUT you should continue to be checked as for us women, it can cause cervical cancer
2007-03-13 06:28:32 · answer #9 · answered by kurt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every poster is correct. Unless you have the STD your hubby has had sex with an infected person. He is lying. Might be time to talk to a divorce lawyer about your rights including parental rights if you have underage kids.
2007-03-13 06:17:48 · answer #10 · answered by mr.answerman 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋