How do you tell someone about an STD?

Question

A friend of mine was diagnosed with herpes, and she just got into a serious relationship. She really wants to tell her mate about it, but she doesn't have the courage to do so. She cares for him very much, but she doesn't want to lose him, or hurt him. What should she do?

Answer 1

have HSV1 and 2 and don't know how i contracted it. However, I told my husband even before we were dating. He is okay with it. Don't get hurt if he steps back. It means, he doesn't want to deal with it. He isn't serious with you and he can't take you seriously but he takes your matter seriously. If he doesn't know what HSV is, explain to him. For example, can't have unprotected sex while having outbreak but it can't kill, just annoying. painful and itchy. It's not curable and it will be with the person for the rest of the life but it's treatable.
The only time you have to avoid sexual activities is when you have lesion/sore or early warning symptoms. Then you should avoid rubbing, touching skin to skin contact with that area, touching the sore and touching yourself or your bf without washing hands, sexual intercourse. Sometimes, you have herpes where condoms can't reach to cover up and this will infect the skin. I have HSV1, 2 and HPV for 6 years. still able to live normal life. sometimes i am depressed when there is lesion or outbreaks but after they are healed, i forget about it and live normally again. so, i wouldn't think it's impacting one's life in a serious way. or do not let it impact your life (in this case i am talking about your friend). so, try to explain to her that

1. do not have sex and sex activities such as rubbing, touching skin to skin contact when you are having outbreak, lesion, early warning symptoms
2. You can reduce the duration of outbreak and frequency of outbreak by taking antiviral medications and in addition, you can take some medication for pain(from the sores) along with it. Ask your Gyn Doctor.
3. you can live normally.
4. you can marry and have baby (discuss with your partner and let him know before marrying or dating)
5. c-section is available for pregnant women with lesion/outbreak at the time of delivery. (recurrent herpes)
6. Do not touch the sore and touch other parts of the body. It can be reinfected to the other parts of the body.
7. Don't let your immune system down. Stress, depression, lack of vitamins can trigger recurrent outbreaks. so, take vitamins, eat healthy food to maintain your health.
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Choose some good words to start and explain her bf in persuasive way.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Just tell her to be an adult and tell the guy. He'll respect her for it. If she doesn't tell him, she could end up losing him or getting sued if he gets it. It sounds crazy, but I've heard of someone suing and winning over a herpes case.

Answer 4

just tell her to talk to him. either on the phone (which i have done before) or in person. yes he's going to be mad and sad, but if he REALLY wants to be with her no matter what, he'll stay with her.. but if not, hey there's plenty of guys out there who will accept her for who she is and not what she has.

Answer 5

this is the question i need an answer to, over 30 yrs. ago i had genital warts. i got treatment and never had another problems with it, i had other partners along the way, including a 12 yr. relationship, and no one ever had this problem. am i supposed to tell future partners about this? it never crossed my mind until recently.

Answer 6

She is obligated by law to tell him - I hope she hasn't been intimate yet because she could be held liable if he contracts it. She needs to tell him right away!