sleepin with how many people is too much?

Question

its the 21st century...a lot of gals and guyz r sleepin around with many different ppl...is it normal for a guy to have slept with over 10 gals?
im with an attractive guy who has a past of sleepin around with many gals...
can a guy like that change? do u think once a player alwayz a player is true?

Answer 1

You are number ?You wont be the last stop.Why settle for ONE peice of candy when yuo OWN the WHOLE candy store?Why buy the cow when free milk is delivered to your door step.Heres how to tell if he has changed and if he will be faithfull.No sex until AFTER he marries you.You'll find out real quick.I dont mean tell him no sex until after your married so he can tell you what he KNOWS you WANT to hear.I mean NO sex untily uore married period.He will get tired of trying to get into your undies and dump you, or he will make you exclusive and then wait until your married.A guy can put on a show and play head games patiently for you to let down your gaurd, then once he gets what he wants, he dumps you.Where are all his ex's?You cant make me believe they were all horrible.They were good enough for him to have sex with werent they?Yeah but then he realized they were ....."fill in the blanks".Thats all the MORE reason NOT to sleep with someone until you learn that they are ..."fill in the blanks".

Answer 2

Being a player is as much an attitude as a number. If you think women are only a notch on the bedpost, it means you aren't ready for a more complex relationship with one.
Lots of players find that the pickings get slimmer as they get older, and in fact that the whole scene gets too empty for them. That's when they want just one girl for life, and a family they can call their own.
Or I suppose they can stay in a state of permanent adolescence and just sleep around, but that's pretty pathetic when you reach 40.

Answer 3

I think that society today is getting to become numb to what is right and what is wrong.

That statement is a cop-out and that person is not ready to settle down and chances are probably has a disease. Have you heard of HPV? It can be carried by the guy and he may not even know it and can give it to the woman.

They cannot test the man for it, but the woman can be tested by the the yearly papsmear. How do I know, because I have it. I got it from a boyfriend I lived with. Bad idea too. Here are some websites on it. http://www.indiana.edu/~health/hw/hpv.shtml
http://www.thehpvtest.com/
http://www.cdc.gov/std/hpv/

You can get genital warts from it and or get cervical cancer. Me, I have not ever had the warts, but I tend to have had bad pap smears for over 10 years. I have finally had 2 good ones. That is the result of being with a guy who may even have just slept with one other girl who may have had it.

You can be with someone who doesn't have that attitude. I am now with someone who is a wonderful guy and treats me with respect which I love. He, I know for sure, would never cheat on me or play around.

When you are with someone and plan to date someone, you need to be honest and communicate with them from the get go. Tell them up front what you are looking for. If you don't want to date someone who is dating more than one person, tell him. If you want to just be friends, then that is fine too. I was just friends with my boyfriend for almost 2 years before we started to date. On our first date over two years ago, I told him, I was paying for my food and he was paying for his so that he would not expect anything after the meal. Two years later, we are dating. :) We have chosen not to have a physical relationship so that we can get to really know each other. We do not want that part of the relationship to cloud how we feel about each other. As long as you communicate what you are looking for and what you want, it will all work out in the end with whom it was meant to be with.

Don't waste your time with someone you know in your heart is not for you. When the right one comes along, he will sweep you right off your feet with the respect and love you deserve. You have to let go of all the "old Baggage" first in order to let the good stuff in.

Answer 4

I think sleeping with anyone you are not in a serious relationship with is...trashy. For a guy or a girl.

I'm 19, lost my virginity when I was 17. I'm still with the same guy.

I have a friend who is my age, and she's slept with over 10 guys... disgusting.

Answer 5

It depends on what you bring to the table and whether or not his wanderlust is out of his system. Talk about it with him; if he's more into keeping the relationship open than he is about being monogamous, then you have your answer. If you want to be mutually exclusive, tell him so. Don't hate, it's always his choice of what he wants to do, as it is yours whether or not you want to stay and deal with it; but you cannot 'convert' a person...that's personal preference. Just be honest with each other and open to the fact that everybody is different.

Answer 6

Yeah, it's the 21st century, but sleeping aroudn is MRE dangerous now than it was in teh 19th. If you're not married and have slept with one it's too many.
Yes a "guy like that" can change, but it's nto likely.

I am a good girl who was once a very BAD girl. Yes we can change.

Answer 7

you cant redo your past..but what you are doing is wrong..and suppose tomorrow you really like a girl and she refuses to go out with you becos you are like this,what will you do? dont jus do it cos of that but make a consious effort to stop sleeping with so many girls..tru its the 21st century but it is not right..and i suppose a part of you knows this otherwise you wouldn hav come up with this question..so you gotta admit it to urself that your doing the wrong thing and since you cant change the past,atleast take control of your future before you regret it..

Answer 8

that sounds quite a normal amount for a guy (though, if he's still 18, it's alot!).
i think you'll be able to tell if he's worth being added to his notches in his belt by the way he treats you. is he genuine in being caring, or is it just a big sales pitch to get you into bed?
take your time with him, until you feel youcan trust him. if he is rushing you, then he's not too interested in your best interests; so dump him.

just don't be conned into a sexual relationship by a guy who is shallow and only interested in sex and not you.
good luck.

Answer 9

10 is fairly low these days.

Just be happy you're with a guy who might know what he is doing.

I've been with probably 70-80 different women and don't think of myself as a player...finally found the right one, now.

Answer 10

Yes ma'am, Slap-Dancin' WAS for the 20th Century. It should be time to bring it back to how it's suppose to be. Hello Aids? Hello Respect? Hello dignity? Let's make a promise that we only "Make Love", from now on? But you have to actually, be "In Love" first. We we clear? ARE WE CLEAR??
(Crystal!)