She just turned 50, and she has been throwing up for at least 6 month now. I tried talking to her several times, but she just denies it; taking her to a doctor, or talking to my father is not an option
2007-03-09 23:38:28 · 13 answers · asked by David R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Is it possible to sit down with her and tell her that you are scared about what she
is doing to herself? Bulimia is a scary disease and that's what it is. She really
does need help. There is something behind this that is causing her to abuse herself this way. She is ruining her health. Really there isn't much you can do
but pray for her. I'm so sorry that this is happening to your Mom. It hurts when we
see our loved ones destroying themselves in such a scary way. I'm sorry you
can't talk to your Dad about it because he's involved as well.
2007-03-17 10:57:41 · answer #1 · answered by Garnet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be sick with something else and afraid to talk to a doctor, hoping it will go away. It may be that she is not bulimic. Your father may realize this and he may be waiting for the time when your mother is ready to face it. It's hard to drag someone to a doctor. He can talk to a doctor himself but all the doctor will say is, 'Tell her to see me' and the problem is, she won't go.
You tried talking to her. Who are her closest friends? Talk to them privately and ask them what they think. Then you have covered all the bases.
I'm sorry you are seeing this. I had a similar situation with a very sick mother - when I asked her about things, she would always tell me that it was a virus causing it. She was in denial but eventually, medical events catch up with the person. Be thankful that your father is there to be with her.
2007-03-17 12:25:22 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes she needs help. She also needs compassion, I am 50, have dieted & worked out my whole life. Since I turned about 38, the only way for me to maintain a decent weight was to eat 1 meal a day(literally starve myself). If I ate more than 1 meal a day I would gain weight no matter if I worked out or walked or anything. She is probably very frustrated with her inability to diet anymore. It may be ineffective with the older age and slower metabolism. Slim may be real important to your father or her for her own self. It may be her last attempt to stay young & attractive in leiu of getting old like her mother & grandmother.
So be gentle but get her help.
2007-03-14 04:50:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the other poster, 50 and just know becoming bulimic.? I am thinking it might be something else.
Even at 50 a person can become allergic to things. It might be something like that that is making her throw up all the time.
Find a way to make her go to her doctor.
2007-03-10 08:01:15 · answer #4 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
David? You did right, by putting this in "Family". `Cause that's where the problems needs to be soloved. Family needs to show her Love for the outside? But someone, close to her? Needs to find out why she started it, from the inside. Turning the Big, "Five-O"? May be it. A healthy dose of Love? Will help? But Counseling may be needed. Good Luck Partner! God Bless You for tryin; And carin'! So many Kids, these Days? wouldn't give two cents for thier Parents. You're Top Notch Kiddo! Over the top! Here's a Star!
2007-03-10 07:45:45 · answer #5 · answered by Goggles 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She needs treatment. However, I am wondering if it is a eating disorder. That just now at the age of 50 has developed. Stranger things have happened. However, if she does have an eating disorder you need to assist her into treatment. Good luck and God bless****
2007-03-10 07:43:14 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is probably nothing you can do now but when she passes out you can call an ambulance and explain to the paramedic what is happening. I wish I could offer a fixative but somethings there are none. Good luck!
2007-03-16 19:05:43 · answer #7 · answered by Marilyn S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bulimia is a psychological disease, so no matter how much you talk to her, she would deny it and wont stop
the best way is to see a psychologist as soon as possible, because she can give her anti-depressants and other good medications.
you should see the psychologist ASAP, because bulimia gradually develops into anaeroxia, so the earlier it is treated the better.
2007-03-10 07:44:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs the help of a professional.
2007-03-15 18:04:39 · answer #9 · answered by p00756 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant "stop" her...
but you can encourage her.
try insted of saying its bad 4u u'll get sick.
say "i want you to be at my wedding, and see my children"
try things that r important 2 her.
good luck and best wishes.
2007-03-10 07:49:39 · answer #10 · answered by Kacie B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋