What do you think it means when you ask a guy to meet up and he says he is really stressed? FYI he's not the type to mince words and be subtle, so if he meant 'N'' he woudl say so. is it that he thinks I want sex and if we meet up while he's stressed he won't be able to perform? I'm curious to hear different takes on this...
2007-03-09 22:52:17 · 15 answers · asked by SK 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To give you some more details:
- I am not known to "put out" but this guy and I have been flirting and he knows what I want,
- He is stressed because of work and suffers from this often.
2007-03-09 23:08:27 · update #1
Some more info: When he said he was really stressed I then said that in that case, if he is stressed, meeting up would not work well for either of us. At this point he went dead-silent...
2007-03-09 23:21:42 · update #2
He is uncertain,
Chances are he has his eye on another girl. He does want to go out, but is not prepared to get involved until he decides what is going to happen with the other person.
So he is dancing around, trying to avoid any entanglements at this time .
He does not say anything , because he does not know which way this prior will play out.
If he is unsure , why say something about a situation that may not even be real.
He figures the last thing you are interested in is some other potential romance. Why take the risk of angering you over nothing.
Or why start something with you when he has had his mind occupied elsewhere.
Put your spell on him, then pay minor attention to one of his friends, If he comes around , you have him,
If he stays away, work him over again, .
2007-03-09 23:12:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you'll keep it low-key. Make it informal, like a walk in the park (if it's warm enough in your part of the country). Let him know that you place an equal value on his friendship as you do to your attraction to him in a girl-boy way, and that if he has stuff on his mind you could help him work it out. Let him know in a subtle way that you are not expecting sex on that occasion, but that you are feeling closer to him emotionally and would like to be with him to strengthen those bonds. But also let him know you think he's hot - who knows? All this encouragement may be just what the doctor ordered!
2007-03-09 23:02:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats strange, are you the type of girl that he knows will give him sex, has he got expectations of what you want from him??? Some men might just want to have dinner, take things slowly, get to know you.
If you have a reputation for 'giving out' then that could scare him, he might think "I can't handle this, she's asked me out, what can I do?" and then panic! Leave him be!
2007-03-09 22:57:02 · answer #3 · answered by Emma 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't read too much into what a guy says. He most likely means exactly what he says - he's too stressed. Some people don't like to be around other people when they're stressed.
2007-03-09 22:55:15 · answer #4 · answered by J F 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tend to agree with Rug on this.
Take a step back. Let him know you are there as a friend and you are willing to give him the space he needs to deal with his stress.
Men, unfortunately, do tend to need peace and quiet when they are stressed and we women have to learn to respect that.
2007-03-09 23:18:19 · answer #5 · answered by Dirty Blonde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Panel, seems to think you're outta Luck. And I'm inclined to agree. But! Try this? Breeze by him? And give him the ol' "I'll be here, if you need a shoulder to lean on? No Waiting?" Then, you'll see his intentions. But make sure he respects, YOUR intentions. Good Luck
2007-03-09 23:11:08 · answer #6 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a guy says he's stressed, it means he's stressed.
There aren't any hidden meanings, clues, hints, messages or anything like that.
We don't do mind-games.
We don't work the way you do.
2007-03-09 23:11:06 · answer #7 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He could be stressed for time. Next time he says that he's stressed, say...aww, whats wrong? It will answer your question, and it doesn't sound to invasive.
2007-03-09 22:56:56 · answer #8 · answered by BrokenOpalAngel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stress him when you ask him out. Basically he doesn't want to go out with you so stop chasing him.
2007-03-09 23:07:39 · answer #9 · answered by whitney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he does not want to go out with you.
2007-03-09 22:55:33 · answer #10 · answered by Dr Dee 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋