why can't i speak to people?

Question

because i was in class and i couldnt ask the teavher if something was right and i dread lessons because teavhers ask me questions wot is wroing

Answer 1

you are either shy or just plan stupid

Answer 2

I would agree with most people who have already answered. You need some confidence and this is not easily gained.

Check the internet for some courses which might help you gain some confidence. Even reading a few books on the subject is a start.
It's quite normal though, in school to not want to be asked a question. You don't want to look stupid. You are not stupid. You just feel self conscious when asked to speak in front of other people.

If you have a school counsellor, perhaps, he or she can help you find some techniques for dealing with this.

Answer 3

I don't think i could ever beat the 1st answer there but I just wanted to say that I went through the same thing for many years in school. infact I used to avoid school a lot esp up until gcse. I dreaded being asked questions, having to talk out loud and especially read out loud....the words.."would you like to read" sent shutters in me! It is a confidence problem because when i returned to school to do my a-levels i had lost a lot of weight and my confidence was soaring so i didn't mind doing these things as much...so building on your confidence can really help. Also just remember that everyone hates these things so it's not just you, everyone is in the same boat:)
good luck, i know how it feels, i am now as uni and my confidence has started to go down again and i am back to the way your feeling but i am working on it!:)

Answer 4

Teachers ask the 'quiet ones' questions in order to be certain that they are paying attention.

If you have difficulty with this, explain to the teacher 1-on-1 that you are shy and don't like being put on the spot like that. Take a friend along with you if you don't feel comfortable going along yourself.

Also get your parents to speak to the school about it so that they are aware that it's not just you being awkward.

I've never had any difficulty speaking in class but had a friend who was painfully shy and who dreaded having certain teachers because the always seemed to target him. A quiet chat about the issue was all that it took. As long as his course work reflected his grasp of the subject, the teacher knew that he didn't have to worry too much about oral testing. Most teachers will be understanding if you are honest with them.

That said, try to volunteer an answer occasionally. Doing so will increase your confidence.

Best of luck.

Answer 5

Well im guessing u have no confidence. Maybe u feel intimidated by people in ur class or ur jus naturally a shy person. I wudnt worry about it, i mean teachers constantly go on in reports etc about the fact u need to gain more confidence but they chat crap. Its school that gives u a low self esteem. I used to be exactly like u, i hated getting up in the class or talking to people but since i left school and made freinds with people who are more my kind of people... ive became a lot more confident and now at college, i talk and im doing a presentation in 2 weeks. Im actually looking forward to it!!!! Gud Luck, im sure u will be fine xx

Answer 6

It sounds as if you are just shy - nothing to be ashamed of, and I expect your teachers understand. You will grow out of it in time, but meanwhile don't be afraid to say things like: 'Just give me a minute,' if anyone asks you a question, while you get the words together. If you need to ask the teacher something, you could either wait until the end of the lesson, when the others have gone, or get your friend to ask for you. You could even speak to your teachers privately to tell them the problem, then they can help you. Good luck!

Answer 7

Because of what you are telling yourself in your head when you think about speaking up.
What are you saying will happen when you speak up?
I can totally relate, both as a student with learning disabilities, and as a teacher to kids with learning disabilities.
Maybe you know that you are smart, but forget what to say when the time comes. This is a common struggle known as "command recall"- where you know, but the pressure of having to recall " on command' wipes the thoughts away.
You sound like maybe you need to clarify your understanding of the lesson, another common trait amongst those of us with LD's- to make sure we are tracking with the lesson, and "getting it".
Or, perhaps just nerves and shyness.
Knowing your age would help. However, my LD's were not diagnosed until college, where I received free testing.
It was so normalizing!!!
It helped me to make sense of an above average IQ yet having to work twice as hard to get half the grades of my peers
.Even as a young child, I realized that I was smarter than a lot of my classmates- a common trait amongst LD students-but that I had to work so much harder at certain subjects. I knew I was different, but that was it. It was very hard on my self esteem, and those negative experiences reinforced my fears about speaking up.(That is still hard for me, but with practice it has become far easier).
Typical classrooms are geared toward certain learning styles, and if you don't fit into that category, you feel like an outsider.
A diagnosed LD has been defined as the difference between what you are doing and what you are capable of doing under the right circumstances.
Even if you are unsure, I would strongly encourage you to ask to be tested for learning differences. At the very least, you can find out your learning style and use that knowledge to help yourself learn with less struggle.
My friend for example, was not a visual learner (most US classrooms are constructed around a visual learning style as it is the most common). She realized that she could easily learn her weekly spelling words if she spelled them into a tape recorder and then listened to that- instead of the more common practice of writing them repeatedly .
I hope this helps, maybe I'm just way too tired & totally off base!
If you have any questions re. this, please feel free to contact me by clicking on my avatar & then e-mailing me.
Saying a prayer for your sucess, your asking questions is the start, so kudos to you for this first step, and it looks like you've gotten a lot of great, supportive answers so far :)
Hang in there & keep asking questions until you get the support you need!

[Also, by law, the schools will provide accomodations- things like free tutoring, a note taker, the use of a tape recorder for lectures, altered test environments and increased test times, etc.This is to level the playing field, to allow for you to shine and show what you are capable of. It is set up to allow for the different way you learn, instead of you trying to learn in a way that is different from the teaching style, alone and without support to compensate the differences.
The other awesome thing about being tested is that it reveals your strengths as well, and how you have used those strengths to get you this far.]

lol, the spell checker is sleeping, so you may get treated to some of my dyslexia!

Answer 8

I used to have some anxiety about asking questions in class, or to have the teacher ask me something in front of the glass. It's probably just shyness.

Answer 9

Its because you don't like being the centre of attention,its the all eyes on you feeling and then you freeze you will learn to cope with it . There's nothing wrong with you, a lot of people are like this, I was. Now I don't give a sh*t.

Answer 10

You are probably lacking in self confidence. Take small steps to build up your confidence. Just start by asking one question each day & gradually build up. Speaking to people can take practice, it doesn't come naturally to everybody.

Answer 11

don't worry about what the other person may be thinking about you when they talk, i had someone who i was really shy to talk to and one day i just looked them in the eye and said hello and i could n't believe it when they were not able to look at me either, they were even more shy.

go for it i say