how do i find out if a guy I am interested in is sexually functional (or dysfunctional) without dating him?
Is the fact he is single, 40 something and has no steady gf a red warning?
2007-03-09 21:57:53 · 13 answers · asked by abcdefg 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We are in a situation where he thinks he wants to make me wait until I make $, but I suspect it's something else...I don't trust men who make women wait too long to date them/have sex with them.
2007-03-09 22:06:08 · update #1
Take him into a closet for 5 minutes and that should answer your question.
That's not dating is it ?
The fact he is single, 40 something and has no steady girl friend should not be a red flag.
*In response to your Additional Details:
You need to follow your feelings.
If you don't trust him and he won't respond to your advances
then maybe it is time to explore greener pastures.
It could be that he is deeply religious, shy, gay, or has an STD that he does not want to tell you about, or pass on to you.
Good Luck.
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2007-03-09 22:01:25 · answer #1 · answered by Dave Yours Truly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you ask that question about a 30 year old woman if she was single with no steady boyfriend? Would that mean she's got some sexual issues?
Maybe he's single not because he's gay, has a fear of commitment, sexual issues, etc., maybe he just hasn't met anybody he was interested enough in dating in a while, or he has some personal/financial/family problems he wants to fix before he feels like he'd make a decent boyfriend at this point(instead of trying to find someone to save him). Maybe after his last relationship he decided to wait for a specific type of woman because he's had bad relationships in the past. There could be plenty of reasons why he doesn't have a girlfriend. It could have absolutely nothing to do with his sexual competence.
2007-03-10 10:16:36 · answer #2 · answered by Purple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What else do you know about him? Does he have kids somewhere out there or an ex wife or girlfriend? Talk to him socially and discuss family ties and how he feels about other people, generally. That is the only way to find out what his interests are, other than by dating him. Chances are if he is 40 and still single, he may be very sexually competant, but have a fear of committment.
Be very careful if you date him, as sex may be this guy's only method of relating to females and that may be as far as it goes.
2007-03-10 06:12:43 · answer #3 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a guy friend who fits your description. I don't know if he's sexually competent, but I know why he's 40-something, single and has no steady gf. Mainly because we talk about everything, and the women he dates are really shallow.
I find really great sex is 80% mental, and 20% physical. And if he's not competent and you really care, you could have the fun of teaching him.
2007-03-10 06:03:08 · answer #4 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it isn't. It could be the sign that he's never asked anyone out, or he isn't very confident. There are only three ways to find out if he's functional. You can ask him (not recommended), or you an ask his past girlfriends (who may possibly lie, but it's worth hearing what they have to say), or you can date him a bit and find out if he's OK. If the problem is only a matter of skill, then you can teach him. If it's more than that, well, use your own discretion. Good night!
2007-03-10 06:09:11 · answer #5 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk/flirt to him. Most guy over 40 are on the ball and fix most if not all sexual problems. Him being 40 and single should not be an issue.
2007-03-10 06:04:22 · answer #6 · answered by SuperKdog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like all you need is a vibrator and a pack of energizers. Why bother with a human being? Sounds more like you just want to plug him in and find out if he works.
2007-03-10 06:06:08 · answer #7 · answered by Ande 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A wine bottle can not taste outside if you really want to know then go and taste it.
2007-03-10 06:05:10 · answer #8 · answered by heybapi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
om.... just when i thought that a woman looks for personality and charm, class, and all around cool in a man....
2007-03-10 06:02:39 · answer #9 · answered by blueJean 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
w/o sleep no one can judge , he maybe a womaniser how do u know he is not
2007-03-10 06:06:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋