Councelling crap 2. guys and girls thinking?

Question

Maybe this is guy and girl thinking...


If a girls car is broke she wants sympathy and a chat and someone to listen, give her a hug and somehow let her fix her own car or some crap like that.


Guys want a mechanic to fix their car so they can carry on driving, maybe pimp it up so goes faster.


Hence councilling aint all that much use in fixing the emotional probmes of say guys at least as does not follow the mechanically fix car principle.


Ie in earlier posts.


if girl cant pull and all lonley get sexy clothes, sexy dance moves, teach how boys think & how to chat them up, same for guys only get them to be more cocky bad boy that girls like & maybe guitar lessons. Maybe a fireman course and expertise in chocolate making


Or something like that.

Ie something useful.

That solves the problem.

Once & for all.


But how the hell do you fix things when over a decade behind most people? bit difficult to catch up.


You cant exactly implant all the mems

So is that why all these mums or ladies suggest things like pyrinks and councellors... as some how they can work things out from a chit chat.


Whilst a kid being bullied if a bloke would benefit from say a summer of army training in unarmed combat so can beat up the bully.

If you think thats sexist why is it that boyfriends get grief when a girl says she has a problem and the guy simply fixes it for her

Lets see ... A lot of dumb people here on about help or magic mushrooms. Now if not so below can get it why cant the rest of you.


As if you cant get a simple concept like ...


Only practical solutions which actively fix a problem are any use to anyone

But psyrinks, help, concelling etc really help nobody as not practically and actively fixing the problem as only chit chatting.


Ie they are not giving say guitar lessons and self defence lessons so a guy can stop getting bullied and impress girls.

A practical solution to somone who cant pull and feels lonley and gets bullied.


or removing someones glasses, getting them contacts or eye laser surgery, and send them to a stylist to replace wardrobe and give cool ness lessons.


Or say if somone is upset as due to a sprained ankle they cant dance... chatting wont help. Only pyssio and maybe pain killers or surgery helps.

that would be the bloke solution.


Now why is that so hard for people to grasp

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Suzie maybe as more concerned with more important stuff... like futures, lives, stopping hurt, ruined lives and fixing people up.


I take it somone found the cure for aids you would be nit picking on full stops in the right place

Victoria...


1) girls tend to go for band members like the singer or guitarists... ie groupies. He practices with them if they dont stay and be a girlfriend.


the practice teaches him about girls and gets him confident in feeling good looking so think he has a chance and confidence asking somone specail out.

Plus will know what to do with them.

Plus being on stage... lots of fans= confidence


As for beating up bully.

Well bully wont hurt him anymore and neither will others. if relly flattens bully can see to it bully does not hurt others and becomes hero.


The gun pulling insident on you. In that case it may help as simply truma... not an underlying reason.


And councelling may poitn out problems it does not really fix them.


And had the councelling thats how I know its pointless as did not teach or fix what was needed then, cerainly cant now.

How do you catch up 15 or more years without doing the stuff so can compete twith those who have>?

Answer 1

It is a bit hard to understand, but if you mean that both males and female think so differently that the methods a woman would use seem impractical for a man and vica vera, I see your point, but I think we have more in common than that.

The good thing about counseling though is that both parties are heard and the councilor tries to ensure that both are treated with the same respect. So the man must learn to talk, and the woman must learn to 'listen.' As for the car example, sometimes it's practical to just take action. I don't think that all things are as simple as that though .

When the real 'root' of a problem is uncertain, then communication has to be used in order learn, and to know what practical step to take.

Ahhhhhh now I think I understand the last part... BECAUSE women 'talk' to receive comfort from the listener. They want to be understood and supported emotionally.

If you 'assume' that they are too stupid to solve their own questions that is what will get you the grief. Don't act like you have a solution too quickly - let her figure it out herself. Offering to help physically is not bad, but acting like you 'know'best is annoying and it will definitly make a woman angry.

Answer 2

First off, your grammar usage is horrible. Second, talking is a way of fixing "stuff." Without the communication of what is wrong how would you know what to fix? There isn't always a physical answer for everything. My ex-husband pulled a gun on me. Can you tell me how to fix that physically. If a guy is getting beaten up, can you tell me what him beating up the other guy is going to do for him? Is it going to make him feel better? Is it going to help him get the ladies? How will guitar lessons help you get ladies? I myself don't like the guitar. Give me a guy who can hold a conversation that makes even an inkling of any kind of sense and you've got a friend for life. It shows he has a brain.

And talking about what is wrong DOES help. It can help you see the other person's side of view so that you are both understanding each other, and why you are making the decisions that you are making. If you have anger problems, it helps you to know what makes you angry and you can stay away from it. If you have depression, it helps you find the roots of your depression, and how to fix it because you can't fix depression physically.

And, If my car is broken, I don't want just some Tom, Dick or Harry to fix it I want a Certified mechanic to fix it if I can't. And yes, I do know how to fix most common problems with my car. I grew up on a farm, and my father taught me how to not have to rely on guys like you.

I think if you were to go to a counselor, therapist, or psychoanalyst, you would find out how much help they are. I think that you might also want to see your English teacher as well and ask them to explain the importance of sentence structure, grammatics, and all around the proper use of communication, and the English language.

Answer 3

What a question. On the last bit if it though when guys think they have fixed a problem for a girl and they get moaned at it is usually cause the guy has not listened to the problem and therefore it isn't fixed.

Answer 4

Personally, I don't think it's hot to watch anyone make-out. And if two guys are involved in some way with each other, why would I think that I would have a chance with them? But I think it's just personal preference weather or not you like to see it.

Answer 5

That makes no sense. This is what I got from all that.... I may be wrong....:

1.) When girls have problems, they want to talk about it and be reassured and get told how to fix it.

2.) When guys have problems, they try to fix it without knowing how.

3.) When girls tell boys they have problems, they get mad when their boyfriends fix it.

4.) Something about girls being passive and guys being assertive.

So What was the question??

Answer 6

Despite your effort to spell the word correctly, you are still not doing so.

Answer 7

Have you been at the magic mushrooms. What are you dribbling on about.

Answer 8

What ?



Drugs are bad mmmkay ..

Answer 9

You need help.

Answer 10

I'm with Bill C..