2007-03-09 21:49:31 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him that this type of pressure in particular turns you off. Let him know, straight up, that you need things to slow down, and that you need the relationship to move at your pace because his is too fast for you. Tell him that you hope he can respect your choice. If he really cares about you, he'll stick around and go at your pace. If he says he cares about you but keeps pressuring you, let him go. He's not respecting your feelings at all. If you stay, you'll resent him later and lose respect for yourself for not having stuck to your guns about something that was important to you. Don't do what he wants out of fear of losing him. Millions of girls, including plenty of my friends, will tell you that that never, ever works anyways. You have to take care of yourself and not let anyone take advantage of you or talk you into something you know your gut is warning you about.
2007-03-09 21:59:44 · answer #1 · answered by Purple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you mean that he has proposed marriage to you and that is moving too fast, he may have an ulterior motive such as the desire to get a green card if he is a non-citizen. You could encourage him to use a more scrupilous method of becoming an American citizen and let him know you are wise to what he is trying to do. If you mean he is putting his hands on you against your wishes, you need to just tell him to stop and if he does it again, walk away and do not go back. He will understand you then because actions speak louder than words in most situations. You MUST defend your own comfort zone.
2007-03-10 06:01:21 · answer #2 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
communication is the key to any good, healthy relationship,babes. its an unwritten law tht how fast a relationship has to move is the girl's and the girl's discretion alone. Any good guy will respect tht. Tell him u'd like it better if u guys moved a little slower..so tht u'd be able to get to know each other better. There's no point hurrying this stuff up, n feel like a fool in the end. Find out if he's the right guy for u n then move on. If he likes u n respects u,he'd understand....if he doesnt back off....he isnt the right guy.
Good luck.
2007-03-10 06:03:15 · answer #3 · answered by tina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think he is moving to fast . Just talk to him about it . If he doesnt or refuses to understand move on .
2007-03-10 05:52:22 · answer #4 · answered by wendieann1064 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Clarity. Don't beat about the bush. Tell him straight, but gently. Make it clear that you want to continue your current relationship but not at the speed he's taking it.
2007-03-10 05:54:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him during one of your dates. If he could not understand and respect your decision, well, it's time to start kicking him out of your life.
2007-03-10 07:11:17 · answer #6 · answered by aLLie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't need to understand. Just lay down the law.
2007-03-10 05:52:16 · answer #7 · answered by Cybeq 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him honesty is allways the best way to go. if he cares about u an your feelings he will understand and slow down.
2007-03-10 05:53:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the sooner you tell him the better. I'm going through the same thing right now.
2007-03-10 08:46:31 · answer #9 · answered by Iceman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will get into your pants as fast as he can and then get his XXX out as fast he get it to get into.....
He is a freak and do not trust him for any word he say...Move on...he is not right for you
2007-03-10 05:58:07 · answer #10 · answered by Nisha Sharma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋