Is dignity and respect everything for a woman?If yes then.....?

Question

Where does all that dignity go when ladies are in clubs dancing and doing immature things to attract men towards them?

Answer 1

At that point it is not a dignity thing, but more of a "I just want to have fun" mentality. Even though it is a sin and they know that, does not mean that they believe the consequences to be true. This goes for men included. I mean, I used to be a big fan of gping to clubs. Even when I was younger enjoying the teen night specials. Some(maybe most) women now a days have mentalities that can be worse than that of mens. While a man can have the oblective to go to a club, get a girl drunk, take her home and have sex, the woman can have the same mind frame with a little twist. They can go to the club with a mentality of I want to get noticed as much as I can by the cutest guys, have them buy me drinks for free, have a good night by rubbing my butt all on thier groinds, and then going home with them to have sex. Women DO have these agendas on thier minds when they go out. It is not just the mentality that exists within the male trait. Women can be just as or even worse than men.

It all has to do with the chraracter of an individual. If a woman likes to hold her head high with dignity, then I applaud that action. But if they walk the opposite road, then it is what it is. Just be ready for the consequences there after. Like having a child before mariage and having the dad run out because he was not ready to be a father. Then the child will grow up not knowing who his daddy was.

But I used to be a big club goer, and there are many women who go out just to have a good time. Dance a little. Drink a little. Have a girls night out. With no intentions of hooking up with anyone. But there are also those whom have other agendas on thier mind.

Salaam!

Answer 2

different women have different morals, different things they want from life and different views of right and wrong.
you may view those dancing s at clubs as immature but they probably dont, and for whatever reasons they are there doing what they do , it is either their honest personality or a stage in their life they are going through.
try not to judge them, they are just different from you. its perfectly fine to disagree with their behaviour but those wome probably have a different opinion of dignity and respect then you do, and in the end, even if they come to feel they have made poor choices in their life, well, we all make poor choices we grow and learn and change and its best just to treat them with respect and let them live their lives.
and now, dignity and respect isnt all dont forget about dreams and ambition ^_^

ps. I just thought I'd add an observation i've made , in this world where worth is so often defined by looks and attractiveness it seems to me that many s growing up in this culture (who have probably been picked on in school) are desperately seeking validation in someway, something they can hold onto to prove they are attractive since that has become something so important, be it getting onto a s gone wild tape, poseing , the attention of boys in a bar ect...you might consider that some s are reaching out for something they can mentally throw back at those grade school s who picked on them or those boys who painfully rejected them something to say "there. proof that i'm attractive, where YOU ever picked for a video??!"
just a theory I thought i'd tag on.
but above all i'd like to say that EVERYONE deserves to be treated with respect, from the lady to the prostittute everyone deserves to be treated civilly and with respect and not badmouthed because of their differences.

Answer 3

My first husband afforded me no dignity or respect, he was a pro at verbal abuse verging on physical. Its what social workers call - a controller. That man is history. I met my present husband at work, and got to know him over the next year before we dated. I don't have to go to a night club and jiggle my stuff to attract men. There are not to many clubs in a rural farming community anyway.

Answer 4

Dignity and respect are wonderful, yes, but there's more to a woman's life. What about career? What about a sense of giving in service? What about advocacy for justice and change? What about self-discovery? What about mothering? What about nurturing one's passions, like love for opera and film? What about growing old with your husband, cultivating a most loving relationship throughout your lives? What about all of that, and then some?

I sure do hope women have more goals than to sit pretty and be dignified and respected. Yes, be dignified and respectable in all that you do, but there's more to life than sitting and being admired.

As for the women you describe, they toss their dignity and respect when the dress provocatively and dance ludely. Yuck.

On my 21st birthday I was in a club, and there was this young woman with a dress so short that it came up to just under her butt cheeks. I felt really sorry for her, it looked like she wore a tight sock, and she looked like a cheap skank nothing. Umpteen years later, I wouldn't feel an ounce of pity now, 'cause if she dresses like that and gets lude attention, she asked for it. I don't mean rape, I mean lude attention. Have to clarify here, NO ONE asks for or deserves rape. I mean lude attention, that's all.

Answer 5

Things aren't what they used to be like. There days are gone.
I think it was when women took a stand.
But I have noted this through the years.
Also we are just going to have to except changes.
Change is a good thing, well in some aspects.
My advice to you- "Ya Can't Beat Them So Join Them!
Have fun while you can, live for today like no tomorrow.
On thing else not just women, Men too.
They do their things just as equal.

Answer 6

Um - I mosh/headbang with my elbows out so no man can get close, so I have no idea what you are talking about? - Oh also if they touch me up (which can does and shouldn't happen) they tend to find themselves

a: up against the wall with me crushing their windpipe

b: Flying across the room because i have thrown them there

c: Wondering where the fist and the knee came from and why they are now crumpled on the floor

I don't need a man to defend me, I don't need to attract one for that night, I am a petite woman and best of all - none of that was a lie!

Don't screw with the sober woman who knows her rights

Answer 7

For me, yes its everything. I like to think myself a lady above all other things and I'd never degrade myself like those women you're talking about.

But dignity and respect are not what those type of women are looking for. They're looking for admiration.

I find it despicable myself.

Answer 8

going to clubs, dancing and flirting doesn't mean to loose dignity and respect. what kind of low attitude do you have of women?

Answer 9

yes, women will always needs both of these more passionably but she needs more than that i.e. love of man as a son, a husband and over all the maker

Answer 10

I don't know, honestly. I can guess that they really are immature or that it's the only way for them to be in the middle and to feel important....