i work with this amazing woman who is one of my best friends. the problem is that she has a boyfriend. i have told her that i think i have fallen in love with her but i dont know what i should do now. should i say the heck with it and let it ride or show her exactly how much i care for her. thats the dilemma i am currently in. push or surrender. any help would be greatly appreciated.
2007-03-09 21:21:26 · 14 answers · asked by alex70 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
her relationship with her boyfriend is kinda on the rocks so to speak. they had broke up before i told her how i felt but now they are back together. i have told her that her happiness is the most important thing and to make herself happy. this is why i'm stuck
2007-03-09 21:42:58 · update #1
Ummm . . . you shouldn't have told her in the first place. But since you have, and she's already in a relationship, you should forget her. Move on to other women, don't get hung up on one that isn't available and probably doesn't like you. Good night!
Edit: If her relationship is "on the rocks" as you say, there still isn't anything you can do to speed up the process of them breaking up. If she wanted the relationship to end, it would be over already. Just keep dating other women and don't say anything bad (or good for that matter) about her boyfriend. If she breaks up with him, you are free to ask her out on a date. If not, at least you didn't waste time waiting around for a woman who isn't available. Good night!
2007-03-09 21:29:57 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is your friend, so at least you also know if she also feels something for you, right? she has a boyfriend, and probably you also know how much she really feels for this guy, right?.Now, you have dropped the bomb, how did she react? has she started avoiding you or she simply shrugged and took it as a joke. Coz, you know, there is no point in pushing it if she loves her boyfriend that much and what she only feels for you is brotherly love. YOU should know that. But if her relationship with her current boyfriend turns sour, then you should be there to listen and offer comfort and who knows, the table might be turned in favor of you. But as of now, I think it is best to set aside your feelings for her, you don't want to ruin a relationship, do you? and you might lose her in the process, there are so many girls around. If you don't see anyone fit to replace her in your heart, i suggest you wait for your friend until she is available.
2007-03-09 21:28:23 · answer #2 · answered by riclavmei 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have not miss the train. You are still stand a chance. If you have told her that " you think you have fall in love,but do not know what to do now"
it would be far better not to push her to the extreme. It may be pushy which she may not like. Just invite her on tea where you can sit her for next 1 hour. explain your point very seriously and ask her not to reply in hurry or not to reply at all....then say good bye and leave..mind it you should not drop her at her place at this moment. Just leave and leave with sore hearted and it should be visible to her....but just leave with saying sorry or whatever...just leave....
wait for next 1 to 7 days.....I am sure she will cal you with a different tone...She may say that She have never thought in this way for you...but tell her seriously that you are serious and just hang on...do not reply...do not utter a word....
she will feel it in her heart...give her time to sit down with change in perspective...it is never a easy situation when you have to decide between two people who are equally love and care...so give her time to digest your new relationship with her....Pray to GOD
If she has been good/ best friends....there are 60-40 chances that she will choose you. Because choosin someone to whom you know for years is easier than a less known person...
What ever happen my friend Hold tight sit tight and have faith....
2007-03-09 21:38:53 · answer #3 · answered by Nisha Sharma 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look, i can appreciate how much you want to be with this woman but all you need to think about right now is that she is not available. She's obviously happy in the relationship she has, what right to you have to ruin it for her? if you really love her and your really her friend then you'll leave her alone to be happy with her partner and not interfere in their relationship.
2007-03-09 21:32:32 · answer #4 · answered by Alyeria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've already told her how you feel, if you push your feelings further onto her you'll possibly risk losing the friendship you have with her. Let her live her own life ie. sort out her own relationships. I know that sounds direct, but hey, you're in such a great position if she ever becomes single again.
2007-03-09 22:24:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing is that if she really likes you then saying her those 3 words would be handy but if she doesn't it's no use.To see if she likes you,you gotta avoid her a bit,don't get too cheesy with her,don't always say yes say no too,help her whenevr she neeeds you and don't forget be nice!that would make her grow on you and if it doesnot well your not in the game.Good luck!
2007-03-09 21:27:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the two of them alone. That's the only thing to do. When she breaks up with her give some time and then approach her. Trust me if you break up their relationship on purpose you will think youre a stalker.
2007-03-09 21:27:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should give up on her. at least for now. she has a bf and it won't be nice if you try to break them up. telling her that you love her when she already has a man will just make things more complicated. you'll make it hard for her. just stay friends with her. if she breaks up, you can go back pursuing her. (that is, if you still like her by then)
2007-03-09 21:36:18 · answer #8 · answered by heartiful 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just say, "i have feelings for you". don't say anything you wouldn't want some boyfriend to hear, pretend he is there. if your going to do something then do something, which means following your body instead of your brain. what about some guy that wants a specific relationship with her, be happy for him!
2007-03-09 21:35:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you make it a habit of getting in between a couple?
Have some respect and consideration...talk about being selfish...I hope you greatly appreciate my being direct...
2007-03-09 21:24:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋