i just broke up with my 5-yr bf and after a few weeks i met this guy. he is really the kind of tall, dark and handsome guy as all my friends say. He is Indian by the way. He's even younger by 6 years. He really helped me get through the break up coz whenever we talked over the phone, he just makes me laugh. And honestly, he is a total flirt! When we met the last time he wanted to kiss me and hold my hands. He admitted he wants to do it with me. But i am afraid. And i feel that if we do it, the friendship will be over. I can feel that he only wants sex with me. But i want him as a friend especially now that i am trying to move on with my life. Some of my friends say i do it with him for me to totally forget my ex-bf. But is it the right thing to do? Honestly, my body wants it, but it's something i have never done without love. The temptation is just so strong.
2007-03-09 21:13:05 · 11 answers · asked by boobsy star 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If u consider yourself a good person or at least care about where you stand in that measure, you should really consider his actions if u truly believe that he is with you for mainly ..."personal gain" then any relation with him in which you openly involve yourself with him would be considerably flawed. You said you have never slept with someone without love before, then ask yourself why now. Temptation out of eagerness? I know it all sounds bias but do you truly like this person or do you truly love them many things can be classified apart by rather thin lines. Honestly this is all on you i just happened to miss read your post reminded me a situation i had with my ex-- but you will always lose when you fight ur self, every decision you make defines a part of who you are so just try to remember how you feel about the situation and follow your heart not incomplete feelings or empty solutions made by your brains bitter judgment think about ur self now and how you will feel in the future. You can't force your opinions on any one, after all, times have changed all you any of you reading this can do is consider the choices you make and what type of person it makes you remember the intangible things in life. So what do you hold dearest?? ah for all i know this situation has less weight with others than how i measure it but that all is just a elongated opinion isn't it? "so best of wishes and good luck"-
2007-03-09 22:03:14 · answer #1 · answered by Shurituno 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nah, dont do it.. Keep him as a friend because if u have a one night stand with him, things will get too awkward no matter how hard you guys try for it not to.
If you began a relationship with him at this moment of time you will only try to land ur feelings that u had for your long term b/f onto him and it will not work, ( Trust me on that - Ive done it )..
If u want some sex, just find a F**k buddy that u can let yourself go with - no strings attached.. But dont ruin a friendship for the sake of a few hot nights....
I hope this helps a bit,,
2007-03-09 21:21:02 · answer #2 · answered by Point 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that if you are fairly young this kind of thing will probably hurt you. It really does take a pretty mature person to handle this type of casual sex. And for some, it isn't something to mess with at all.
My guess is that yes, it will change the dynamic of what you have. If you'd rather maintain the status quo, you'd best keep your hands to yourself.
2007-03-09 21:23:46 · answer #3 · answered by Ande 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's too cheesy - I know guys like him. I am one. You seem to be a person with integrity but I can see you getting succumbed to temptation. That's OK too if you are looking for a temporary fix for your desires. Just don't give yourself a hard time. You deserve a break though from the emotional drama
2007-03-09 21:19:39 · answer #4 · answered by B N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move away from him, drop all contacts. This way there won't be any temptations. You're at a stage where you're most valunerable so don't hurt yourself. Forget your friends' advice. They are craps.
2007-03-09 21:16:56 · answer #5 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you must decide if you want him as a friend or for sex . You can't have both types of relationship with him . Decide what you really want and go ahead .
2007-03-09 21:19:38 · answer #6 · answered by maria_t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it sounds like deep down you dont want to, and thats very good you can relize and follow through with it. I suggest you follow you heart, and if you dont want to do it, dont let anyone make you.
2007-03-09 21:17:09 · answer #7 · answered by azº 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aw the pains of love gone lost,
and now you give your bod away
But, my dear count the cost
sexual disease's come soon these days
2007-03-09 21:20:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't yield to temptation
2007-03-09 21:16:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop stop stop it now. if you know all he wants is sex man let it go. you want a man that will stay with you for ever. not just one night. will you please wake up. just a little. give it some time. and space
2007-03-09 21:23:24 · answer #10 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋