he dumped me from a two year relationship an wanted to be friends so we are then he always wanted cuddles, after a month he said he needed a total break from me for two monthsi didnt know why when i went and asked him he said he didnt have to explain himself then he talked to me for an hour as friends do i told him i like someone and he just went really quiet i asked if we could give our stuff back and he said no then i said me an a friend were hanging today do you want us to call for you and he said if im in i will if im not i wont please tell me why please
2007-03-09 21:04:19 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He doesn't love you but is too selfish and jealous to let anyone else have you. I think the message is clear, this is a relationship you do not want to be in!
2007-03-09 21:08:37 · answer #1 · answered by Jacqui Waze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is fallout from a breakup
You have a right to feel hurt and annoyed- he after all dumped you...however....
He wanted the break to think things through. The cuddles were because he was finding it hard to let go.
Don't have to explain himself-- well its a male kind of thing to say. Sometimes we get tired of analysing and talking things through- it is not good for you. Sometimes it is good to just walk away and have a break- time brings better things- understanding, chilling
Telling him you like someone would have been devastating-- that was a bit insensitive of you. How would you have felt if he had said he likes someone. He is hurt right now and jealous-- guess what ALL guys that like a girl get jealous if the girl goes out with someone else....thats why
As for hanging out with him or talking to him now- whats the point. Its obviously going to hurt him to hear about the other guy. Just cut off the relationship with him.
I am not in regular contact with any of my exes. We are not friends because we went out, and we are obviously not together and there isn't an existing category for 'ex' really-- I suppose its very occasional email if anything...I mean you wish them all the best..... but it was a failed relationship
2007-03-10 05:11:57 · answer #2 · answered by Oz Billy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds familiar... He difinantly still has feeling for you, but they are not deep enough to keep up ur relationship (my guess is they are mainly physical). Sometimes its too hard being around ur ex, and you just want time to be completly away from them. That time allows u to get rid of those feelings still lingering around. And sure its going to hurt him, to imagine u with some other guy. I think the best way for u to become friends is to really take time apart, maybe meet new people. Then when he is ready, u could start to hang as friends.
2007-03-10 05:14:13 · answer #3 · answered by azº 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it sounds like this guy is jerking you around. DITCH HIM. Real friends don't go hot and cold and treat you like you are a second class citizen. You can find another boyfriend and other friends. You don't need negativity in your life, so take back your power and dignity and lose him. If he tries to worm in again, tell him to get lost. He only seems to be interested in you when it suits him.
Hope this helps - good luck.
2007-03-10 05:11:39 · answer #4 · answered by T C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's sad. Boys are confusing and they're really bad at trying to show their emotions.
Just try to be as nice as you can to him, he's probably just hurting because you found someone, and he wasn't expecting you to.
Guys are weird. Just give it time, and try to stay his friend. What you're doing is nice, like inviting him and whatnot. Just try to keep that up. But if you find a different guy that you like, I wouldn't bring your ex around because that would make him super uncomfortable and I'm sure he'd hurt a lot.
2007-03-10 05:08:59 · answer #5 · answered by Wendy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like this guy isn't over you but doesn't want to be 'tied down' either all while not wanting you to have anyone else either. To hell with this guy and his games. Move on darlin'.
2007-03-10 05:10:52 · answer #6 · answered by Jazz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not waste your energy trying to figure out other peoples weaknesses. Charge him to the game and move on.
2007-03-10 05:12:44 · answer #7 · answered by SuperKdog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very difficult to say weather he wants to be with you OR not .....
But I would suggest you Ask yourself WHAT you want??? To be with him or not???????
If Dear....... you want to be only with him......... then I think you should give a chance to your relationship like:::---- Be with him as a good friend.... talk to him many times in a day, as(if) you do earlier....
& if after some time he behaved like Before & say he loves u & apologise to you for saying that "he do not wants to be with you"......... then I think you should FORGIVE him.....
&&&& if after this also.... he say tht he do not want to be with you............... then Forget him & move on .. in your life & BE HAPPY....
BUT IF you ""do not want to be with him""" .... then forget him & move on in your life..............
& Dont think about him.........
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-10 05:24:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants you back man o man. now thats love. so GO FOR IT
2007-03-10 05:11:06 · answer #9 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesn't want to be with u, but he doesn't want anyone else to have u either.
2007-03-10 05:12:48 · answer #10 · answered by missy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋