Because im engaged and we have had sex . And our relationship is GREAT . Why do people judge us ? I'm a Christian ,he is not . He reads the bible and is willing to go to church with me .
2007-03-09 21:01:01 · 24 answers · asked by wendieann1064 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You shouldn't care if others think it's ok or not.
People judge you because you let them into your "bedroom" by letting them know you have sex.
It's none of their business!
2007-03-09 21:06:20 · answer #1 · answered by elidet_reyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really are a Christian as you say. That is some one eho has admitted he or she is a sinner and has asked Jesus Christ into there heart as there Lord and personal savior (this also includes repentance ie turning from you evil ways). You should know the bible the holy inspired word of God speaks against us havin sex before marriage numerous times. The reason for this is when you have sex the bible says it is an act of combine for lack of better words. It brings people closer to each other and makes them one. Physically you are not one, but God sees you as one. If you have sex before marriage you are committing a sin against God and yourself. (1 corinthians 6:18)
Here are some other verses on the subject that might be helpful to you. Romans 1:24, 13:13--- 1 Corinthians 6:13, 6:18, 10:8 Galations 5:19 Ephisians 5:3 Thessalonians 4:3
On the part about you being a Christian and him not the Bible tells us that we are to be equally yoked. This means that we are to be both christians that hold the ame moral values. It is not just enough that he is willing to go to church with you. How is he supossed to lead your household spiritually if he is not a Christian. A non Christian does not have the ability to understand the things of the Bible because he does not have the Holy Spirit living in him. The Holy Spirit is what gives us the ability to understand what the Bible is saying. Scripture tells us that God blinds people from the truth until he is ready for them to know him. This being the case your future husband will not be able to discern Gods will for you two because he does not have the Holy Spirit dwelling in him. Marriage is not just a mere thing you do because you feel like it, it is a life long till death relationship. You need to make sure that you all agree with the major things such as moral views politically (most likely if you are not both Christians these could be very different. Do you think you can put up with these for life. Marriage is ment to unify two people make them one. How can you be one if you do not believe the same? Remember even if he say he has become a Christian do not just take his word on it look for the manifestation of God in his life. He should be wanting to turn away from his sins or short comings. If he does not have a huge life changing experience most likely he is just trying to pull your leg to get with you. If you never have sex with anyone but who you marry that person will be the best lover in the world to you. If you have no one else to compare your sex to how can you say your not compatible sexually with each other because you have no other references to judge from. This would leave you both with the conclusion that you are sexually compatable. Remember God is the one who created sex and marriage. His way is the only right way to go about this. Satan is trying his very best to keep you from having a victorious walk with Christ and will do anything to keep you from getting there. If he cannot get you to mess up before marriage he will then try to get you to be luke warm and ineffective some other way. A good way would be for instance sending you a man to marry that is not a Christian. How hard is it going to be to do Gods will after you are married to a person who is not able to discern the truth and does not really care about the things of God. To him these things are just foolishness. Remember when you are dating this is the time yu put up your best behavior not your worst. It will not get better only worse. Pay attention to his reactions when you talk about God. See if he tries to change the subject or avoid it completely. These are behavioral traits that will be amplified after marriage because he knows he already has you and there is not much you can do about it.
Here are some verses about this subject
Deuteronomy 22: 1 - 12, 2 Corinthians 6:11-18
2007-03-11 03:46:08 · answer #2 · answered by Allen H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People judge and critisise for many reasons. One could be a generation gap, jealously that you are able to experience such a thing without feelings of guilt, the misconception that sex is a dirty act unless you are married but seriously, it's the 21st century and there are worse things than two people expressing their love in a physical means. I say ignore the judgement and critisism and do what makes your life and relationship happy and fufilled.
It's your life and you and your fiancee can do whatever allows you to express your feelings for one another.
2007-03-10 05:10:59 · answer #3 · answered by Alyeria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason people are judging because Marriage locks the relationship. Until then anytime breakup is possible. And Sex gives possibility of being pregnant so if incase things dont workout well and you become pregnant, its a big problem to be single parent.
2007-03-10 05:07:15 · answer #4 · answered by Lilsasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't judge people who have sex before marriage. I think it's a personal choice.
I am engaged, too, and I can understand how hard it can be to keep yourself from doing it. My fiance and I, though, are both quite religious. We both agree that we should wait till we get married, and this is exactly what we are doing. We still kiss and hug.
Good luck in your relationship!
2007-03-10 06:52:23 · answer #5 · answered by Princess of Egypt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite frankly I have heard arguements for both sides.
If you have had sex before marriage it shows a lack of patience and tenacity and makes people wonder if you will have the fortitiude to forge through the marriage's rough spots.
On the other hand...
If you have not had sex before marriage will you forever wonder if there was "something you're missing"?
It really depends on the couple in question (in this case you), do not let others views of your choices interfere in your relationship with your significant other. As long as you and he are truly committed to each other that is all that matters.
2007-03-10 05:14:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its up to the person. Some might say you want to try out a car before you buy it. I dont think its a matter of faith as much as society wants to make it that way. Most people just dont want to be stuck. I know marriage isnt just about sex, but knowing you have good sex is a key part.
2007-03-10 05:06:03 · answer #7 · answered by Elise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only do I think it's ok, I think it's important to do so. Would you really want to be stuck with someone the rest of your life who you are not sexually compatible with at all? It would be like living with your best friend but neither of you would be getting your sexual needs met, so there would the potential for one of you to go elsewhere for the gratification. It doesn't matter what religion a person follows because it can happen regardless.
2007-03-10 14:14:04 · answer #8 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, christian wise, it's not proper, but persnally, if the duo find things going for them, and there's the burning desire for intimacy, why not go ahead and feel what is within! But should either partners for one moment think they may not end up together, let them not get engage in a sexual relationship, for i still maintain that our bodies be and remain sacred for the one who will make it at the altar with us.
2007-03-10 05:09:03 · answer #9 · answered by prettybabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is OK so long you are happy and it is acceptable in your society. It is unimportant whether one or both of you are Christians. By and large such relations should end in to the marriage. Suppose some thing goes wrong and one of you say no to the marriage, the other one will feel cheated and as if he or she has been used.
2007-03-10 05:07:37 · answer #10 · answered by Friendly medic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I think is, it is none of my business. And as a Christian, it is not my place to judge. So, I have no opinion. What do the two of you think and feel about it, that is all that is important. Don't listen to others. Listen to God, he will be the final judge and will be looking at your heart, what you have done with your life. That is my belief. God bless****
2007-03-10 05:06:07 · answer #11 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋