My little sister hits my mom, parents don't know what to do?

Question

My sister's 14 and she's always had this rocky relationship with my mom. This week they were fighting about some clothes my mom din't want her to wear. She got so mad, first she started yelling and screaming at her and when my mom would't change her mind, she basically lost it and started hitting her. My mom had bruises on her body!!

This isn't the first time she has hit her, and we don't know what to do. My dad doesn't want to call the cops because then my sister would get a record and that would ruin her future. My dad has tried talking to her and she always sais she's sorry until it happens again..

She's a straight A student, a cheerleader and seems to get along with everybody except for my mom. I don't think anybody realizes what going on in our home and how she's hurting mom. I'm afraid she really gonna hurt her one of these days when she blows up..
Any advice what to do with my sister?

Answer 1

Sounds like your sister has serious anger issues with your mom and they both need to seek counselling to find out the root of the problem. The way your sister is acting is very dangerous and should be addressed asap by a professional because bad things could happen when people have a lot of anger built up and there's nothing done about it and it only gets worse. Good Luck!

Answer 2

Maybe you should find out from her why she behaves like this towards your Mum.Its definately not normal.She seems to be a bit spoilt to me.I mean she's used to getting her own way, maybe because she does so well in school and etc.She must be made to understand that she cannot hurt her own Mum this way.Its wrong and where I come from(Nigeria, West Africa) the Dad would give her a proper flogging for such nonsense.Something may also have happened b/w her and her Mum and both are keeping silent about it.Try to find out from both sides.There may be jealosy here,I'm not sure over what.Could be Dad's affection.Just because she has the right to be angry that does'nt give her the right to be cruel.This is the woman who bore her for nine months before she came to the world.This is the woman who changes her diapers and kissed her first bruises away as a child.This is the woman who'll always be there when all others won't and this is how she pays her back?In the Bible, the fifth commandment says "Honor your father and your mother that it may be well with you".The curse of a parent follows a child for life.She has to seek forgiveness.I mean genuine one.Otherwise, all her excellence will just come to nothing in the end.If you pray, please pray for her and seek God's help.

Answer 3

Take her to a therapist. Specifically to deal with the violent behavior (don't say to the therapist that you want to work on mom/daughter issues; that can come later).
At the very least, whenever she starts swinging, there should be at least two people who immediately restrain her and give her a minute or two to calm down. She should never get so far as to land blows on your mother.
I imagine your mother tries to back away but basically she is taking it.
If everyone jumped on your sister, the message (and you should say it at the time) would be, 'You can't do this; we will stop you.' When no one does that, she goes ahead. She has no self-control and you're not doing her any favors not jumping right on her and making her stop immediately. She will someday do the same to her husband or her children. It will be something she does without thinking.
A therapist first but also give her the message, as a family (your father can state that he didn't want to call the police but he is joining in the effort to stop the violence): you will never hit a person again.

Answer 4

You need to check the laws out in your State, i don't care if the child is a Straight A student or not she is out of control and that behavior now if not stopped will lead to criminal records.
All your parents have to do is call the police have her taken in for domestic violence, more than likely she will not get a record but the courts will order her to attend Anger management classes and Counseling.
If the offense does go on her record and as long as she doesn't repeat the behavior then it should be ex sponged from her record at age 18.

Answer 5

there's a good threat they wont take your sister away considering that he's not in the residing house to any extent further - they could get an injunction to end him from drawing close you or your loved ones returned, or get you all some help - my suggestion could be to tell the actuality and get all of it out in the open. you're able to be offered counselling and help, which you like, and it would be him that gets into difficulty not you or your mum, and in no way your little sister. that's a terrible difficulty for you all and that i desire you all nicely.

Answer 6

Your parents are "enabling" this behavior by not making her accountable for her actions.

Call the police when an assault occurs ( and it IS assault) That way you have documented that the behavior is occurring.

That will not get your sister a "record" --she would have to be convicted of a crime for that to happen.

You are not doing her any favors to ignore the behavior --what if she decides to do that to a fellow student?

You might want to try family counseling --- they can help with a strategy for stopping the behavior, as well as trying to figure out why she and your mother do not get along.

Answer 7

what a shame your father is worried more about your sister getting a record than the safety and welfare of his wife. It's going to get worse before it gets better because she knows that she can get away with it. At school she's the sweet little cheerleader and straight A student and at home she's abusing your mother. If your father's not going to stand up and be and man and protect his wife, than you stand up and be the man that protects his mother and call the authorities.

Answer 8

She needs to be taught that you can't do that in the real world. Call the cops next time it happens, figure out what's wrong. They'll most likely force her to see a psychiatrist, and many other things. (One of my friends did that and she ended up in correctional school.)

She may get a criminal record and all that, but it will keep her from possibly causing trouble later in life. (Possibilities include maybe murder, drinking, all of that bad stuff.)

Answer 9

i may be the only one who says this but ..... i would have slapped her *** to the floor

a parent can hit a child who is hitting them as long as your parents keep letting it happen it will just keep happening

if your mother will not hit her back then they need to find a punishment that will work on her and if they have her arrested it will be takin off her record as soon as she turns 18

and if she will hit her mom what are the chances she will hit her kids like that ?

Answer 10

she needs to see a shrink