He says he wants me more rough and dominating more often... any pointers on how? He also wants me to tie him up and stuff... help?
2007-03-09 20:43:55 · 6 answers · asked by Kiss_Kris_xo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, learn safety tips. Albany Power Exchange and cuffs.com are great websites for the purpose, certainly teaching you buzzwords for further web searching that gets you past all the porn. (One great phrase = "safe, sane, and consensual")
Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns is the best book on the subject. You may have to get it on eBay or abebooks.com
Jay Wiseman is one of the best authors, too (I think he's gay, but who cares?)
Invest in flexible leather cuffs. The two body parts that are so fragile you have to be paranoid about them are
1. The neck
2. The wrists
Otherwise, common sense should get you by. But don't pressure the neck at all, and use flexible cuffs for the wrists. (Basically, if it's tight enough that he TRULY can't get out, it's probably too tight. But then, what if you lost consciousness or something? Bondage shouldn't be utterly inescapable in real life.)
The best are from Cuffs by Danny, aka gripcuffs.com
As for the rest, have him tell you a LONG list of fantasies. Keep urging him to say more, reminding him that YOU'LL be in charge and you may or may not choose to do ANY of it.
And DO order him to please you at length. Make sure you get lots out of it too, whether it's sexually or from a massage or not physical at all. Make him earn the sexually dominant and/or sadistic attention. He'll probably love it.
Just remember -- dominant women are hard to find. He's very lucky that you'll try to help him out with his fantasy. YOU are in control.
Feel free to e-mail via my profile if you have questions.
2007-03-10 09:37:50 · answer #1 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi.Personally I think its him that needs help not you.Is he a sadist or something?Normally all men want to dominate not the other way around.Though many prefer a woman takes the lead from time to time but if he wants to be tied up that seems to indicate some pscychological trouble.I'd suggest you find out more about him.Something is hidden.
2007-03-10 04:57:17 · answer #2 · answered by Tima 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then go for it!!!! I love being bound and helpless. Tie him up and tease him. Control the sex or how you are pleasing him, bring him close to release then stop. Make him kiss you everywhere, make him do things you always wanted him to do. The possibilities are endless!!!!!!
2007-03-10 06:48:47 · answer #3 · answered by tyemetght814 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why Dominating Thinking came both of your Brain ? Just leave such thinking or such desire, otherwise one day you will find that both are going too far from each other. Trust me.
2007-03-10 05:04:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
marry him then see u will DOMINATE him 4 the rest of his life he will pray 4 FREEDOM
2007-03-10 05:51:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at a BDSM how to website.
2007-03-10 04:48:41 · answer #6 · answered by daboss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋