I feel like the doubt has been removed, because I KNOW she likes me a lot and that I kinda have her. We talk via email between dates almost everyday like we did when we first met two months ago, but most of the time it's not with the same passion we had when we first met. This is where I feel like I am getting bored, not the actual dates. I don't do relationships so maybe this is normal, the thrill of the chase is gone? It just feels like our conversation has become predictable, at least via email. What should I do? I don't want to lose the rapport we have when we talk but at the same time I feel like this emailing thing is killing our relationship. I am worried that she might feel the same way. Or maybe it is just me? Should I make myself unavailable once in a while? Create some doubt in her mind? WHAT!?!?!?!?
2007-03-09 20:29:04 · 10 answers · asked by Nacho Nacho man 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"Nacho man" my butt! No man agonises over these kinds of things.
2007-03-09 20:34:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you are in a long distance relationship, the lack of human connection that you have with this woman will eat you alive.
My ex-girlfriend lived 17 miles away. I hated doing e-mails and talking on the phone just didn't do it for either of us. So, I would get in my car, drive to her house and her smile when I walked through door was heaven on earth. We'd spend an hour or two just to chit chat or talk about love, sex, the color of the sea...whatever. We made sure that the intense sexual chemistry that we had when we met was tended to and made attempts to raise the bar at every opportunity.
Since we just sort of found each other, there was no chase involved. The thrill of just seeing her took my breath away.
I would not make myself unavailable and I would not want to create doubt in her mind. Questions for you: Do you love her? Are you in love with her? Do you want to show her how much? Do you want to feel the passion, the desire? If so, just do what you haven't done before. Surprise her and yourself.
2007-03-09 20:51:18 · answer #2 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is pretty common for a lot of couples. Now you take your gf for granted because you know you have your gf and she is always there to be with you. The beginning of the relationships are the most interesting part of the relationship because you two are just getting to know each other. Your problem here is that you probably spend too much time with your gf, therefore you know everything about her now, so everything becomes predictable. What you guys should do is to see each other less, that way you guys dont have to talk about the same things to each other everyday. Both of you guys need some time apart.
2007-03-09 20:39:08 · answer #3 · answered by =P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe I'm just super old but...
I've never understood why anyone feels like they have to talk to their bf or gf every day. That's what living together or marriage is all about you know? You have to see and speak to them every single day. Chemistry generally does not last and then the relationship becomes a real effort.
Don't play mind games with her - you don't want drama, just be honest. Tell her you don't feel like emailing back and forth all the time and would prefer to talk to her when you see her. I'm not sure absence makes the heart grow fonder but it can leave ya wantin' a little more.
2007-03-09 20:38:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try mixing emails with phone calls. You don't have to see each other everyday, but you could call her and talk to her. Through the tone of your voice, you could do a lot more than just write dumb stuff to flirt. You could go beyond and be cute and hear her laugh, etc. Try the phone thing.
Here's something else... try the ocassional text message about nothing. It's fun. You could do stuff like that too.
2007-03-09 20:45:20 · answer #5 · answered by s_p_u_d_n_i_k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop emailing each other and pick up a phone or be spontaneous and pick her up for a night out, you dont have to go to a particular place just let the night be. My man sometimes takes me for a drive by the beach or to get some ice cream in the middle of the night in our pajamas it is so comfortable... try it :)
2007-03-09 20:37:38 · answer #6 · answered by violet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. It's difficult, I know. Just keep things interesting by changing your surroundings... try being modest about an achievement. Anything to keep her guessing. Don't be afraid to tell her how you feel either, but never let your guard down. For example: "I'm so sad, I'm a pathetic human being." This is very un-attractive.
2007-03-09 20:34:16 · answer #7 · answered by a_watched_pot_boils 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well if you are feeling this way after only 2 months then that's not right. Be honest with yourself and her so that at least you both know where you stand. just be honest.
2007-03-09 20:34:43 · answer #8 · answered by jimmy_chick78 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself & do what you would usually do! If it turns her off then she's not for you anyway. If it turns you off then so be it. Do you really want to start a relationship under false pretences & trying to be something you think she wants rather than what you really are???? It's not worth it.
2007-03-09 20:34:51 · answer #9 · answered by Mishell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yah make urself unavailable for a week or so.. let her miss u ! and as hard as it may seem to do...... ur gonna have to .. so do it !dont let her take u for granted and same applies to u....u wanna keep the relationship alive u have to give eachother space !
2007-03-09 20:37:30 · answer #10 · answered by I V X 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋