How do I cope with the death of the man I loved?

Answer 1

How do I cope with the death of the man I loved ?

At first---daily
after awhile somewhat less
in time--- fairly well--- hopefully

Do your best to know that everyone of us suffer these losses
and that it is inherent in living that blows like this are going to come--- also know that you were Blessed for times that you had--- and it is Those times that you should hold to for now !!
But-- there IS a tomorrow-- and it can be much much brighter than today--- and it WILL be !! Don't allow yourself to cling too tightly to the past---find a way to let it go---and move on-- I guarantee you-- this is what HE would have wanted FOR you !!
I'm sorry for your loss--and I hope something in this helps in some small way--- just know that there are those who care and that YOU are going to be just fine---- in time !!!

Answer 2

I am sorry for your loss.

You need to know that it is OK to feel bad. It is OK to feel angry and most of all it is OK to feel sad.

I lost my husband 14 years ago, this April (I'm 37 now) and I've never remarried. It took me a long to to realize that the grieving process got stopped somewhere around anger. My husband had been long-term ill with renal failure and in the end there was nothing more that could be done. It's take me a long time to understand that life does go and and it's difficult at times, little things stir memories and you will struggle at those times.

One of the best things I've learnt, is that there are many happy memories I can hold onto those. When I start feeling down, I try and use some basic relaxation techniques and focus on the good times we had. We have two beautiful sons and they also keep me going.

Life is precious and I sometimes talk to my husband even though he's not on this earth now. It's not mad or crazy, it's a normal part of life. Our dead only truly leave us if we forget them.

Answer 3

go shopping! get out and do things you enjoy. go to work, get a job, or not; take a long vacation - sit on the beach - call and talk to a friend or your sister (adopt a sister-friend if you don't have one).

I'm so sorry for your loss. Everyone will try to offer comfort. Most people know what it's like to lose someone dear to them. But it's your grief and everyone's is different. My sis lost her husband of 18 years, over a year ago. He was a great guy. She goes to church. They did not have children and I live several hours away. She is a teacher, has other teachers who are friends and keeps busy. We talk on the phone regularly.

I am truly sorry for your loss. we also lost our 20 year old son 2 years ago.

I'm sure you've already heard all the helpful suggestions you need. If you don't pray - it's good to learn. If you don't know God or about Jesus - it's time you met them. You may have heard these suggestions too - but sometimes we have to hear things much more than once for it to sink in where our brains can recognize the information as valid.

God Bless you.

Answer 4

First, let me offer my condolences.

The death of a loved one is most tragic. There is no easy way to deal with that type of loss. The best way that I have learned to deal with such a loss is to remember that person. Remember the smiles, the tears, the times he made you laugh and the times he made you cry. Those memories are what he has given you, those memories are what make you who you are today.

Cry when you need to but also laugh at the times spent together. At first I know that the loss seems to consume you. All you do is think of that other person and you may dwell only on the loss. This is what will hurt you. Don't dwell on that loss. For whatever reason he died, it was his time. Just as when you pass on, there will be others that will mourn that loss. Prayer and meditation have been what I have used in the past.

Remember that your loss is what will strengthen you. It might seems redundant that people say "Stay Strong" but there is truth in that. The strength of your relationship with that man is the same strenght that you will need to get through this. Life does go on after a loss like yours'. Seek the comfort of your friends.

This is what I did with my loss. I went to the restaurant that we used to go to and I ordered dinner for two and I sat there ate, remembered my friend and said good bye. I cried a little bit and I laughed also. To this day everytime I go to that restaurant I laugh because I remember the time we were there and I tried to show her how to eat jello with a straw.

Be Strong, my friend.

Answer 5

Our family lost my Father, brother, and nephew on the same day they died together at sea and weren't found for almost 9 weeks, so I really do understand how you are feeling. People will say time is a great healer but it has not been like that for us. Time has actually made it harder to deal with, but with counselling and help from friends, family and our local G.P. we are learning to deal with our loss. You don't say how long it has been since you lost your loved one but for us even five years down the line it is everyday at a time and we have found this is the best way to deal with our grief. Don't look to far into the future take each day as it comes and most importantly of anything cry cry cry and talk talk talk. I still have little conversations with my loved ones as does my mother and sister-in-law. Please what ever you do always let the emotions of grief come out don't hold them in you have absolutely nothing to be ashamed of it doesn't matter if your at home or in the supermarket let it out.

Good luck and may God Bless and watch over you in your time of great need. x x

Answer 6

Take a vacation. At times like this, sometimes the best thing to do is just to get away for a while. Have some time to yourself to think things over and cope with your loss.

Answer 7

There is hope for the dead. Read the Bible John 5:28,29: "Do not marvel at this, because the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice and come out, those who did good things to a resurrection of life, those who practiced vile things to a resurrection of judgment."

John11:25,26: "Jesus said: "I am the resurrection and the life. He that exercises faith in me, even though he dies, will come to life."

Isa. 25:8,9: "He will actually swallow up death forever, and the sovereign Lord Jehovah will certainly wipe the tears from all faces...And in that day one will certainly say; Look this is our God. We have hoped in him. Let us be joyful and rejoice in the salvation by him."

Rev. 21:4,5: "[God] will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away."

Psalms 146:5,9: "Happy is the one...whose hope is in Jehovah his God...The fatherless boy and the widow he relieves." Hope I have enlightened you. God Bless!

Answer 8

Oh, I am so sorry to learn of this. This is a very sad time for you and I have been through this. Everyone grieves in their own way. But I do suggest, getting people around you who can give you gentle loving care. Avoid those who are going to say stuff like "Your young yet... or I know how you feel" Worse are the ones who will say "He's an angel now." It doesn't help.
Cry as much as you need. Talk to people who will let you talk as much as you need. Find at least one person who will get with you weekly and just be there with you.
Don't make any hasty decisions.
Finally as a believer in Jesus, I am compelled to tell you that you can trust Him to walk through this with you. If you have a church home don't abandon it now just hang in there. In time the pain will soften.
I recall it felt like my heart was being ripped out of my body. I couldn't eat, sleep, I could barely function. I had a group of friends who literally moved in and helped me through the first couple of weeks. they stayed in shifts and I was never alone. At first I resented it but in the end I was so grateful for their shared love. Hang in there. I am praying for you.

Answer 9

I am so sorry for your loss. Talk to family and friends. Perhaps there is a group you can go to for support. So for instance, if he died of cancer, you could go to a support group for bereaved family. That helped my friend who lost her son, just being with people who understand from experience what you are going through. Be patient with yourself, your emotions will take you by surprise at times, you may feel sad one minute, angry the next go with it, let it out. It is true that time is a great healer but that is no consolation in the meantime. Look after yourself...x

Answer 10

im very sorry for your loss. I myself have lost many people close to me and here is my advice...
would he want you to spend the rest of your life misserable, and moarning for him? the best way to cope with the death of a loved one is to celebrate life as much as possible, live while you can. celebrate the good times that you had together, and not the times u wish you had. celebrate his life, not his death, its the hardest thing to do, but its the best. do everything he would have wanted you to do in life, thats the only way of respecting him while he is gone. good luck, and keep your chin up, it will be hard but with alitle support you with get there. have faith in yourself xx