why do i feel so hopeless?

Question

i constantly feel like i am not good enough and that i dont fit in with others in almost all situations. i see every "success" in my life is just something that anyone could do, and i dont get any self satisfaction. i am 21 and never been on a date, never had a gf, and im a virgin. im also quite ugly, which i think has contributed to this way of thinking. if i ever go out i just get depressed the next couple of days because i feel like i dont belong and that i shouldnt be there. i have no self pride, and just see myself as the loser of the group. i still have quite a few mates, but just feel like im left out. im often missed with invitations to parties, which makes me pretty much feel completely unwanted by people i thought were my friends.
im scared that in 5 or 10 years time i am just going to regret so much about missing the "best" years, which will inevitably make me feel even worse. im too embarassed to talk this over with family or friends, and wish i could do somethin about it

Answer 1

Because you are hopeless. Congratulations on your astute realization of this fact. You at least have the honesty to accurately assess your prospects and the way your life will turn out over the long term.

There isn't really anything you can do in your situation, except sit around grow old and wait to die.

Answer 2

The first thing you need to do is drop the negative thinking about yourself and get help because if your feeling hopeless that's undoubtedly depression and it may not be that people don't want to be around you it's probably your way of thinking because depression can make you feel unwanted when that's not the case at all. Everybody has a purpose on this earth but when we lay around in self pity never seeking help for the way we might feel beyond our control sometimes we miss our real purpose and happiness in life. I pray for the best for you. God Bless!

Answer 3

So many things wrong here.
You answered your own question. You feel worthless, you project worthlessness. You have this self fulfilling prophecy. Right? You sound like "I am worthlessness because I have worthless thoughts. I have worthless though so I must be worthless". Dude you need some game.You are not helping anybody out with this. Drop it today my brother. You need to enlighten yourself to the game and find the Mack within.
Start with some confidence. What can you do it increase you confidence? Act like you have confidence, dress like you have confidence carry yourself like you have confidence and talk like you have confidence.
And these so called friends that are dissing you? You need to find new ones because that's bullshit and this "best years" fairytale? I let it slid because I know you are a kid.
You are the most important person in your world. Bottom line- Work On Yourself. Learn how to spit at the Ladies. Stack your paper. and don't be hung up on looks. Change you perspective and drop the whining. It is very unattractive. Remember you are not ugly you are masculine.

Answer 4

i would consider going and get some counselling to try and sort out why you think like this. You need to have self confidence as lots of people are attracted to confident people. You say you are ugly well that may just be your own opinion and like putting yourself down. Go and get a makeover done ( no it's not just for girls ) You don't want to miss out on the best years of your life then stand up, shake all the negative thought out of your head and go and do something about it. No one can help you unless you are willing to help yourself.

Answer 5

For goodness sake, dry your tears & go out & meet people. You are your own worst enemy and need to stop acting like a sad sack. Happiness comes from within, but with a low opinion it's difficult for others to appreciate what you have to offer. Get out of your shell & live life to the fullest & don't worry about what's going to happen in the years to come. Live in the moment. Others will finally see the real you for a change.

Answer 6

you need to focus on your work , if the rest is fading , and your acheivements seem to be disapearing , work on the work commitments , once you find success there , you will probably find that your self esteem picks up.. we are all ugle to our own eyes , dont stress to much about that , no matter how ugle you are , there is aleays someone else who see you a good looking , you just need to work on your own self abuse , and this will repair with self esteem and attitude

Answer 7

You are definately depressed. You need to see a doctor and talk this out. You can't go on living your life feeling worthless. Please do seek medical attention.