first off i will give you a short back history. i am married with three kids. i love my husband. but he dosent pay attention to me . he is more into video games and reading than in me. we may have sex once a month and some times up to once on three months. i found cyber sex by accident . ( i wasnt looking i just got an offer and happened to except it) i found that i really like it . there is one guy that i do it with quite often, we also talk casually and , would like to try in person. and take it to the next level.
my question is this. i feel really bad because i am married, but on the other hand my husband dosent pay any attention to me like that anymore. what should i do.
further info i am only 23, and internet guy lives close. should i go for it?
2007-03-09 19:31:35 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Think about your kids and your husband and take it into consideration that marriage isn't like breaking up with a lover. If you "go for it" wat example would you be to your kids. You would be a "cheating spouse" I know that you'll regret it and you'll never be able to forgive yourself, but you know what, your children will never forgive u! You need to work on your marriage and meet half way. If your husband is willing to meet you halfway about he games and sex, you meet him halfway. Don't force him to stop playing video games, just limit the usage. Work on your marriage because cheating on your husband isn;t a solution!!! It's disgusting!
2007-03-09 20:57:34 · answer #1 · answered by Angelus L 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As someone that has written a book about Internet and sex I can tell you that temptation and actual meetings had been very remote before the Internet came about.
Is cybersex okay. Well when you think about it it sort of any high-tech form of masturbation. Before people looked at magazines and eventually when the VCR was invented porn skyrocketed. Now none of these were too attractive to women at first. But as one gentleman who owned a video store told me a number of his clients that rent porn were women. Now with the ability to communicate with someone asked directly and even web cam. Having a very safe sexual partner is only a mouse click away.
You said yourself you really like it. You also added that you talked casually with the same people. So this is become a friendship with the sexual side.
You said it yourself that you would really like to take this to the next level would like to "try" in person. I assume by try you mean I want to have sex with this person.
The only thing that seems to be stopping you is that you feel bad because you are married. That's understandable... that whole commitment thing. When on the other hand your 23 with three children.... really sounds like you missed out on playing around. Hubby has lost interest in you section and probably is not going to be magically returned back to having sex a couple times a week.
You on the other hand are very interested in exploring more sexually. I know you want someone to say go for it..... okay I'll say it Go Fot it...
But keep in mind the guy he talks great in cyber may not be all that great in bed. Don't get your hopes up to high. Expect half of what you hear. Treat this only as a friend with benefits. It will be quite exciting but treat it as very discreet and only once and a while. Practice safe sex. Ask your friend a lot of tough questions before meeting.
If you have some more questions about this.... I've had some experience here ....your or you want to tell me how it went then click on my picture (avatar) in e-mail me directly.
Mark
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2007-03-11 20:00:15 · answer #2 · answered by GirlsTellAll.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The cybering, itself, doesn't sound so bad. I think if you're giving up with with him to chat and cyber, then it's an issue.
I'd avoid the meeting, unless you're ready for your marriage to be over.
2007-03-11 08:24:31 · answer #3 · answered by driver_wild4more 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋