Why can't I stop dating ? What's my problem ?

Question

I decided to stop dating for the next 2-3 months.
Im 30 yars old and got out of a long term relationship 6 months ago.
Since the I have dated 3 guys. All tall, dark, handsome and completely weirdos. 1st wanted to 'pretend' rape me, 2nd guy had dragon breath and wouldnt believe me & the third guy rejected me because I was size 10 instead of size 4.
And what hurts about third guy is he was very good friend & now he won't speak to me because I wasnt thin enough in person.
So Im trying to take time off to get myself in great shape (for me) to figure out why I keep being attracted to guys who are bastards and to just enjoy my own life being single.
Problem is I feel horribly depressed & like a loser to be single with no prospects. All my friends are happily married or coupled up.
How can I deal with just dating me for a while ?

Answer 1

Here's what you do. You get to know yourself a bit better. Try to find out what your hobbies are. Call all you girl firends together and hang out. Get some of the to perhaps join you in your wieghtloss. Talk about effective diets verses diets that don;t really work. I used to have a problem with not knowing myself, but now...I do. I live to read, write, knit amongst other things you know. I also love long walks and jogging. Nothin better that jogging in the rain! You've just been dating for such a long time that it's unfimilar and frieghtening to be without a guy for a while. But honey...girl pride, remember, we don;t always need a guy at our side, we can be bod and beautiful and confident. When a guy sees a confident woman, he's gonna do whatever it takes to make her his so he can spoil her. If you act too desperate, guys will see through that and use it to their advantage, they will manipulate you if they see an opening. Sadly, there are guys out there who seek low self esteem girls only to control them so honey, you bring your esteem up because the way I see it, you're a size 10 so what? Atleast you're not a 20!