Okay the problem is I am 21 and the guy I am in love wit is 26. We met in a class at our college. We started talking while I was in a relationship wit another guy. Me and the other guy broke up a few months after I met the 26 year old because my ex was abusive. After that relationship the 26 year old and I have been together for nearly a year now. We recently made things serious between the two of us.
The 26 year old has three kids by three different mothers. The kids are 7, 4, and 2. I have always felt like he was hiding stuff from me. He didnt tell about his last child until I confronted him about the child. Plus I found pics of him and another girl on his computer having sex. My mother, sister, and friends all dislike him and would rather we not be together. My question is should I allow myself to open up fully to him or wait or just leave him alone? I really am confused and need help!!!
2007-03-09 19:24:28 · 13 answers · asked by star4ever2004 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How more "confused" can you be??? You are not that dumb.
2007-03-09 19:28:32 · answer #1 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok homey i am like only 13 and i am just telling you i dont thin kthat he is the right guy for you... like come on he is obviously a player if he has 3 kids with 3 diffrent mothers. i think if he hides stuff from you then you shoulden't be open to him it is as simple as that and i think you should just go ___ so lo___ and just take a little time off and just have fun. Have a GREAT life and i hope you take care of yourself and if you find another guy that you feel you can trust just right back and you know what i will give you a little bit of tips kk luv yah :)
******* - xx Amber P. ******
2007-03-12 10:27:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness!!!! Why do you hate yourself so much?
Why are you disrespecting yourself so much by shacking up with a boy who has been a sperm donor to three different girls??????? See, being truly "serious" in my eyes is when a man drops down on one knee and proposes marriage. Get out, Get out NOW. I suggest you read "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" by Dr. Laura Schlessinger.
To answer your question about whether you should "open" up to this guy......What for? So he can have that too? You also need to look at the facts of this disaster your in....NOT your feelings. Feelings is what got you into this mess to begin with. Please listen to your family...they wouldn't steer you wrong!!!!!
2007-03-09 19:46:03 · answer #3 · answered by Puddles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three children, 3 mothers. He wasn't even going to tell you? Think about what he would hide from you if you were married. If he is going to leave pics on his comp of him and another women having sex then that's all you need to know. Time to move on.
2007-03-09 19:30:00 · answer #4 · answered by my_own_frog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man is scum. There is no way anything good will come out of this relationship for you. The sooner you get away from this person the easier it will be for you in the long run. Truly, good luck.
2007-03-09 19:33:38 · answer #5 · answered by Mark in Boulder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby becareful, hav a good time and think what happened to the first three and where are they, baby i see a bold red there. Things are not always what they seems
2007-03-09 19:31:56 · answer #6 · answered by ayothony007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't sound like the kind of guy you want to be with, based on his track record. You know the answer to this... he's not boyfriend material.
2007-03-09 19:27:45 · answer #7 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's got more baggage than a baggage handler at an airport! I think you should run as fast as you can and ASAP.
2007-03-09 19:29:20 · answer #8 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, this guy sounds like a real keeper. DUMP the dude.
2007-03-09 19:32:02 · answer #9 · answered by shylock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you already know what you wanna do. any man who denies his child aint worth shitt! you feel me? you know you should leave but you looking for reasons to stay. drop that shitt... asap
2007-03-10 01:11:48 · answer #10 · answered by peachez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him now.. he's not for keep. My ex is the same type of man too... :-S
2007-03-09 19:32:38 · answer #11 · answered by Shazz Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋