I've been invited to a destination wedding where there are multiple events over three days? Would it be rude to attend only the wedding and reception? Or should I make an appearance at the welcome dinner, wedding and reception (of course), after party and brunch the next day?
Please let me know. I'm not a close relative. I really do think that it's a bit much to ask someone to spend all that time celebrating a wedding, but I don't want to offend or ruin the bride's weekend.
2007-03-09 19:19:14 · 8 answers · asked by misa 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Unfortunately I'm paying for the trip. I'm thinking that maybe just 3 of the 4 events.
I think it's really rather strange to an after party as well as a reception on the same day. The welcome dinner and brunch I understand, but why another party after a reception?
2007-03-09 19:35:52 · update #1
I think the reason you are invited to all the festivities is because they want to make sure you're well fed. I mean you paid for your traveling, maybe they want to cut off your meal expenses by including you to all parties where food and beverages are served. After party right after the reception is quite common, it is less formal and sometime even the bride and groom changed their clothes to join everybody, and the eldery people or children are gone.
Anyway, I don't think you have to go to all, but make sure you make it to the welcoming dinner (they want to see who's there), wedding&reception (this is why you came), and the brunch (usually this is the time they want to say goodbye and thank you for coming).
2007-03-09 20:58:31 · answer #1 · answered by Speck Schnuck 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Technically, since you are paying for the trip, you do not have to attend all the festivities. However, I bet the bride thinks otherwise! All the festivities, by good manners are free of charge to you, [or should be], and are being provided for you so you do not get bored. And you really should try to go to them all. An obvious exception would be a golf game, and you do not play golf.
Try to fit some site seeing, shopping or whatever you want, in between.
Sorry to offend the bride, but it sounds like she planned things to be all about her. She maybe should have thought that folks would have wanted to do something else besides eat, and drink, and attend wedding functions.
2007-03-09 23:53:55 · answer #2 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if u want u attend.
its no big deal. and even if u don't attend they are not gona cut ur relation.
if u aren't interested then juz attend any one of the event i.e dinner or wedding or reception.
u better dicide among reception or wedding.
2007-03-09 19:28:50 · answer #3 · answered by bhav t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to attend everything, the most important is the wedding and reception only...
2007-03-09 19:22:47 · answer #4 · answered by Isabel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be acceptable to attend the wedding, reception and perhaps either the brunch or welcome dinner.
You could always make the excuse of a headache or something.
2007-03-09 19:23:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to attend all the events. Tell them you tire easily and can only do a few of the events.
2007-03-10 02:44:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Isn't there something in between?
If the bride or groom specifically invites you to an event, you'd better damn well show up! Other than that, use your best judgement.. Who paid for you to get to the "destination"? If you paid for yourself, that's one thing, if family paid, you're in a different position.
2007-03-09 19:21:50 · answer #7 · answered by spam_free_he_he 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Honestly? No! If you don't want to to do it, don't do it. It'd be better not to go if you didn't want to go, rather than to go and spend three days thinking how much you really didn't want to go.
2007-03-09 19:22:19 · answer #8 · answered by Bethany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋