To know he is married. You know.. The crazy thing about all this is. I dont know where he came from but like a bolt of lightening he has made flourish inside.
We are not inmiate together because, I cant do it and neither can he. After always wondering if i would find him, we finally have each other and he feels exactly the same. Before he met me he thought his life was over, and thats the way his life should be ( i know ur thinking oh any old line) I know in my heart we are meant to be! I know im the horrible other woman but not! SO the question is, is the relationship doomed from the get go? Has anyone been here, is here or been there done that and OWNS the t-shirt? He has told me he is leaving his wife but obviously things take time, so he has his own 'deadline' and if its not met then we are over! Im nervous as anything, my heart is pulsing my brain is aching ! I truly love this man with every bone in my body! He Is the one!
2007-03-09 19:14:15 · 15 answers · asked by Lady Love 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are so GULLIBLE !
2007-03-09 19:17:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
well at the risk of dissapointing. He is taking his time leaving the wife....why? If the marriage is dead....why is he still there.....sometimes these things do work but more often the agenda is not the same for both parties. So far he is not giving as much to you as you to he in emotional terms. Could you then live with the knowledge (assuming he does leave the wife) that you cause the final demise of a marriage.... it may haunt in the future. You don't say how long you have known him......infatuation does not allow rational thought. Take time to yourself and really think........
2007-03-09 20:03:51 · answer #2 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are people that are going to say horrible things to you and things like that but you are not all to blame on this. He is the one married and should know better. If he has a deadline then you are going to have to wait and see what happens really. But if he does not do it then you need to leave him as he wont do it and you will miss out on loving some one and some one loving you with no ties. This may sound horrible but 90% of men don't leave their wives for the lover but he might just be that 10% that does so really the ball is in your court now.
I wish you the best of luck and remember its not all your fault this is going on.
2007-03-09 19:50:03 · answer #3 · answered by Pinkflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i once had a friend in the same situation, he told her he would leave his wife and that they would get a place together and live happily ever after... never happened. he tagged her along, and broke her heart. i dont think he ever intended to leave his wife because it was a convenience for him to be able to go home and have tea on the table and everything seemingly great. after he missed his 'deadline' he tried to tag her along some more untill she put him under pressure and he moved away wih his family. for all we know he is doing exactly the same to some other poor soul. he is an excuse for a man. of course i know there are decent men out there but he wasnt one of them. just remember that your man must have been 'in love' with his wife once upon a time to make the vows and this is as far as his commitment will take him, not promising for you.and whats to say he wont do the same to you?he'll tell you your the only one for him, that he loves you blah blah blah but think about the pain it will cause you when you find out you were taken for a ride, just another notch on the bed post. dont put yourself in this situation, think about the guys out there who will truely love you with all their heart and not have to sacrifice another womans love for you... and not think of you as a piece on the side. have dignity and stand strong. good luck, make the right choice x
2007-03-09 22:00:14 · answer #4 · answered by lexi88 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry if he is leaving his wife he knows where the door is, if this love were what you want it be it would be simple there should be no probs.He has his own deadline is the worrying bit. Take care.
2007-03-09 19:35:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He says he is leaving his wife? When? Has he filed for a divorce or even moved out? If not then he probably doesn't plan to and is telling you what you want to hear so you won't leave him. I know it sucks but you should have moved on as soon as you knew he was married.
2007-03-09 19:25:41 · answer #6 · answered by my_own_frog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The minute you knew he was married you should've said goodbye. You don't mention if he has children if he does this is just wrong. I would never go near a married man plenty single ones out there, you could cause a lot of heartache. Good luck finding true happiness
2007-03-09 19:23:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay so, This guy seems like he really is something. But you do have to keep in mind that this guy has a devotion to his wife. and so, you're kindof put into this mouse trap. If this man loves you, then he will tell his wife how he feels. of course there will be drama. but it's just something that you have to risk.
2007-03-09 19:23:17 · answer #8 · answered by Sumo Samantha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break it off with him. You are ruining a marriage, and what a shame for one woman to do this to another woman! If you can "wait", don't see him any more, let him get divorced and have him wait a year, then see if he still wants to date you.
There ARE lots of single guys out there.... -- added on later --
OMG! --- You did this and you have a KID - Sheesh! What the heck do you think you are doing??
2007-03-10 07:32:45 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was an 'other woman'. He wasn't married, but was in a serious relationship.
His girlfriend knew he was 'drifting away' and tried to get pregnant...
Anyway, we never did anything when they were still together. He broke it off with her four days after we admitted our feelings for each other.
We've been together for 2 years and living together for 1 and engaged for six months. He's the love of my life.
2007-03-09 19:19:41 · answer #10 · answered by L 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why did he think his life was over (before he met you)? Sorry, but I don't really think he will leave his wife.
2007-03-09 19:27:49 · answer #11 · answered by royal_dutch_club 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋