when cats pass away?

Question

my cat called kitty died on october the 22 she died in the eairly hours of the morning.
she was 14 yrs old .
i still miss her .
has any ones cat died reccently and how did you feel

Answer 1

I had a cat of mine go missing and I have never found it, we live on a busy road and i know something happened! I miss her x

Answer 2

The death of a pet is never an easy time. Whether it is an older animal, who may have been a part of the family longer than most of the furniture and some of the children, or a pet who has been with you for only a few years, the loss can be truly traumatic. And if the end comes through a conscious decision for euthanasia, other emotions become entangled with the basic sense of loss. Once it's over, you may prefer to think that the experience is behind you. Unfortunately, it is not.

There will be a hole in your household and in your life for a while, and for the first part of that "while" the hole may seem huge. There ARE ways to fill the gap. However, the loss itself is not something you can simply ignore, assuming that your world will adjust itself. Instead, you must deal with that something, just as you would deal with the loss of any other good friend. Yes, it is a different kind of relationship, but to behave otherwise is to try and change your attitude in mid-stride. You cannot expect yourself to think of your pet as a friend and then to dismiss those feelings as disposable because THIS friend happened to be an animal. It is NOT silly to miss your pet, and it is NOT overly sentimental to grieve.

Another difference lies in the always complicated idea of "what happens next". Many people, especially older folks, express a very real concern that they won't see their animals in the next life (whatever that may be) because they have been told that animals have no souls. Maybe you, like me, are a little unsure about what exactly " the next life" holds for any of us. However, if having a soul means being able to feel love and trust and gratitude, then aren't some animals better equipped than a lot of humans?

But still, he was pet and not a person, and that makes it more complicated to sort out exactly what you are supposed to do and feel. Although we recognize the individual personalities in pets, that doesn't mean that they are just little people. The relationship you have with your pet is different from any human relationship you may have. We have the responsibility to care for animals and to learn from them. As we domesticated pets, they became dependent upon us for their needs. Part of caring for them, especially in a technologically advanced society, often means deciding when an animal can no longer live a happy life or even a content one.

When an animal is made a pet by a responsible, caring person, he is being given exactly what he needs and wants: his "creature comforts", companionship, and the opportunity to return the favor through loyalty and affection. Dogs, especially, are naturally eager to please the "leader of the pack", and the owner takes on that role. So the dog is never happier than when he knows that he is pleasing that person. When he is too old or too sick to respond in the way HE thinks he should, he can't understand why and feels the anxiety of failure.

Because their natural life-spans are shorter than ours, we usually outlive our pets. However, the life you shared cannot simply be abandoned. Don't deny yourself the thoughts, memories, and feelings that your pet's life deserves. You may decide to fill the hole with another pet. However, you can never replace the special bond you held with the one who is gone.

Answer 3

I have lived with many cats in my life and have loved them all. Everytime one dies, something dies inside me too. I cry and mourn and miss them SO much.
But time is a great healer, and when the tears have dried up, the memories and the laughter keep a part of the cat`s spirit alive in me, and I become whole again.
It can take a long time.
I feel their aura has merged into my own, their wisdom and instincts became part of me - guiding and caring for me.
I always feel better if I can give my dead cats a "proper" burial and I made up a ceremony to help me deal with that. I clip off a bit of fur to keep, then I clip of a bit of my own hair in exchange, to comfort the spirit while it is still hovering around looking for the light to guide it to the next world. I use candles, aromatherapy oils, incense and water for the ritual, and bury each cat with some pretty trinket I was fond of.
That is just me, and it might be too crazy for most people, but it helps me get through the loss.
Point is, you need to find a way to help yourself, no matter how quirky it might look to others.
There will always be someone who`ll understand.
And your pet`s spirit will feel cherished.
Planting a memorial shrub or plant on the grave is a great way to respect your pet`s life; one that flowers when it died perhaps? Or one that flowers when it was born?
Some people i know have made little shrines in their rooms in honour of the dead pet - just a photo and some meaningful items are enough.
I am very sad for you, but you should know that for some time after they die spirits try to communicate with you still.
With cats, it can only last a short time ... in my experience, within 24 hours, but it depends on the person. And the cat?
This is when the pet returns to thank you for everything you have done, and to say good-bye.
If you are in tune with the natural world, you will feel it and understand it.
If you are not, it can happen in a dream.
Whatever, you will find they are not sad. They are so free and happy. And they want you to be like that too.
They won`t forget you.
Cry and laugh, and mourn. It is all good for you!
P.S. My favourite cat ever, Mefisto, died 9 years ago, but I still feel him around me. He will never be gone.
Soon after he died, I adopted a new kitten. I let her get pregnant because of believing that one of her kittens would be Mefi, reincarnated. Well, I was right there ... one kitten was a calico; two were tuxedo black and whites ... the 4th was Mefi to the tee! All wickedly, beautifully black with a mischeivous grin. I was in love with that kitten, and guess what? It got killed by a dog before it reached the age of one. This taught me a big lesson ... a bit like Stephen King`s Pet Semantary ... you can't bring back what has died. You have to let go.

Answer 4

Awww Im Srry To Hear About Your Kitty I Have A Cat Hes Names Timmy He Isnt Dead But If He Was Then... Id Feel Like A Part Of Me Was Missing Because Hes A Part Of The Family And I Would Cry ALOT Thats The Thing With Pets Though We Get To Attached To Them.My Brothers Cat Went Missing Though And Never Found Him Its Name Was Splodge Lol. =[

Answer 5

My 8 month old kitten got killed 4 weeks ago, but i never knew till two weeks after she went out. I was devatated when she 'went missing'. I cried everynight and had this awful feeling in my belly (ive got it now typing) I was even worse when i found out she had been run over. I couldn't and still cant get it out of head at the fact that she would of died in pain and it makes me so sad. I know it was only 4 weeks ago but i miss her like mad and would do anything for her back. I don't care what anyone says about animals when you have a had a cat for so many years and it dies or runs off it's like loosing a member of your family and that animal is and always will be a emebr of your family. Hope your ok and i know what your going through.

Answer 6

I lost my cat Felix on the 23rd of December. he was 7 years old.

He started losing weight and I took him to the vet on the Wednesday before Thanksgiving--by the following Sunday he was having trouble breathing---he was given tests and his diagnosis was hemolytic anemia.

I took him to a specialist and they gave him blood transfusions and removed his spleen--but nothing worked--he just kept getting sicker and sicker. All the while I could not stop crying---he was so precious to me. I adopted him from the humane society --he had been abused. After I brought him home with me--he was so skiddish--it took forever for him to learn to trust me. I would tell him that noone would ever hurt him again---but in the end I could not do anything about the horrible disease that took his life.

I think about him all the time---and miss him so much. I have adopted another little kitty--I love him but I feel like when Felix died he took a piece of my heart that I won't ever get back.

I know exactly how you feel and I am so sorry about your cat--hopefully as time goes on we will be more accepting of our cat's death. They are so beautiful and they give us unconditional love---it is so hard to see them suffer.

Answer 7

I'm sorry. I feel sad just reading that.
I got my first cat (of my own, not a family cat) when I was 21, he was 8 weeks old. He was just a baby, and lived with me for fifteen years. He was with me through my graduation, came with me through all my jobs, settled with me when I got married, welcomed my children, comforted me when my marriage broke up, was a companion to my small dog. He was affectionate and loving, never strayed, always faithful.
He eventually just 'ran down' like an old clock, and unfortunately towards the end, he started suffering and couldn't eat. The vet told me I'd better put him out of his misery. I think it was the single biggest decision I've ever had to make. I felt my heart was breaking. I stayed up with him the entire night before he died, and when he died the next day, I thought my heart really did break.
It took me a long time to stop missing him - in fact I still do.
You have my sympathy.

Answer 8

My cat died seven months ago, and I am more at peace now because I have learned to communicate with her and feel her in her new realm. I still miss her, but I get signs that she is still with me and she visited me in a dream.
The first few weeks, though, I was filled with guilt, even though I had done a lot to take care of her and spent $3,500 on her last hospital bill. It is hard not to become psychically attached to these beautiful animals who are here to teach us so much. I promise you will be fine. It may help to put together photos or videos -- though it's totally fine if you don't have many because trust me your visual images won't go away. Write a journal of your favorite memories of your kitty. My Tea Doll was only 12 and that also made me feel bad. Fourteen is a good age, and you must have taken great care of her. Please take care of yourself.
Many people, btw, create online memorials to their pets to make them feel better. There are webrings where people share stories about pets who have "crossed the rainbow bridge," and it helps to show off your sweety.
Beth

Answer 9

Of course you miss your cat, she had been part of your family for a very long time.

I had a cat called Beauty, a contrary little thing, the last photo I have of him is of him yelling at me but I was devastated when he died in my arms ten minutes after I got home from a 14 hour double shift ... I'm still convinced he waited for me to get home.

I buried him in the back garden and was informed a few months later that I was to move house as my estate was going to be knocked down in order to build another one. Jet (my surviving cat) and I were to move into a small flat about a mile away but I didn't like the idea of a mechanical digger crunching through Beauty's skull (I apologise if this sounds macabre, it's not meant to), so I took my spade into the garden and dug until I found his remains.

The bungalow has now gone and it won't be long before they start digging around to lay the new foundations but Jet and I are very happy in our little flat. I have Beauty's furless head (skull) on my bedroom bookcase. When my best friend comes to visit, she has to go in to say Hello to Beauty before Jet and I get a look in .... and .... you should see the look on people's faces when I tell them.

Answer 10

I had a cat growing up he passed away about 12 years ago. It is very hard sometimes I still cry over him going to kitty heaven. I honor him still and always will...I have a picture of him hanging with the rest of my pets that are still here on earth, he is still a very big part of my family. I wish you well and am sad to say you will always miss your kitty but your kitty knew how much you loved her.

Answer 11

Mty daughter had a cat named spirit she felt bad and worst of all she has her cat put from pictures we took of him on some of her t-shirts she some times . and its been almost 3 years her cat disappeared from the house and it suppose to bee an indoor cat snook outside got hit by a truck. But she still tells me she misses her kitty. He was beautifull black and white sylvester styled markings cat. He slep with her every night. Up till the incident. Her 10th birthday is soon talking with my hub about maybe getting her a new kitty with similar markings if we can find one rename it Spirit 2 but i don't know if it will ever replace her first Spirit. She loved that cat so much she still comes to me sometimes and says I miss my kitty mom. We have dogs and rabbits but they have not taken place of her missed kitty.